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college22punk9
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Hi everyone. I need some help, so only give advice if you have the relevant experience to give it please. I know everyone is different, but I need some other's thoughts on my situation.
So my bf decides to tell me last night that he doesnt' know what he is thinking anymore, and might want to break up....
Here is the situation. We have been dating for 2.5 years, and we lived a good commute away from each other and only saw each other on the weekends. So I got a job a lot closer and have been staying with him the past few weeks until I find a place of my own near him/work. So it has been 3-3.5 weeks and after the first week, we definately felt some "tension". I don't really have my own space, and I was/am living out of suitcases in his room so we dont really have our "own space" to chill in.
Anyway... so we start talking, and we are both getting upset, and saying how much we love each other but something just "isn't right". We talked a little more and since I am moving into my house next week, we decided to just calm down and see how things go once we actually have our own space again. We did go from seeing each other 1-2 days a week, to seeing each other basically 24/7 unless at work, which we both work 8-5.
Has anyone else been in this sort of situation, where moving in together in a temp situation brings about crazy stuff in your relationship? Do you think I am diluting myself, and things probably won't get better once I have my own place, or do you think they will get more normal again? I just think its so sudden, that its not right to just give up, and that being togetehr this long, we need to work through the tough times. Any advice? please... ASAP would be nice too.
So my bf decides to tell me last night that he doesnt' know what he is thinking anymore, and might want to break up....
Here is the situation. We have been dating for 2.5 years, and we lived a good commute away from each other and only saw each other on the weekends. So I got a job a lot closer and have been staying with him the past few weeks until I find a place of my own near him/work. So it has been 3-3.5 weeks and after the first week, we definately felt some "tension". I don't really have my own space, and I was/am living out of suitcases in his room so we dont really have our "own space" to chill in.
Anyway... so we start talking, and we are both getting upset, and saying how much we love each other but something just "isn't right". We talked a little more and since I am moving into my house next week, we decided to just calm down and see how things go once we actually have our own space again. We did go from seeing each other 1-2 days a week, to seeing each other basically 24/7 unless at work, which we both work 8-5.
Has anyone else been in this sort of situation, where moving in together in a temp situation brings about crazy stuff in your relationship? Do you think I am diluting myself, and things probably won't get better once I have my own place, or do you think they will get more normal again? I just think its so sudden, that its not right to just give up, and that being togetehr this long, we need to work through the tough times. Any advice? please... ASAP would be nice too.