please help my girlfriend!

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  1. DCgirl

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    Hi all. My best friend confided in my a huge problem. She is recently married and her husband don't have sex because she says it's too painful. She compared her husband's member to Ron Jeremy (I don't watch porn so this doesn't mean anything to me). I read through some of the posts and saw that some people recommend laying on your side and also using a lot of lube. She has tried and tried and says it's too painful. Their marriage has become just roommates with joint checking.

    Any tips?
     
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    i would go out and buy a few dildos: a 6inch, 8 inch & 10inch have her use each dildo until she can take each one with no problem. also make sure the dildos are rather thick they should all be more then 2 inches wide.
     
  3. Dr Rock

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    if it's that much of a problem, she should probably ask a gynecologist to check if everything's working correctly in the first place.
     
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    He should tongue fuck her, then when she is really wet, finger fuck her (starting with one then two then three fingers).
     
  5. Mr. Snakey

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    :smile: Right on Ian !! Couldnt have said better myself!!
     
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    She should see a doctor first than make sure she's really excited. Did they have sex before they were married? It seems if they did she would have know about his member. She's gonna need to find out what makes her really excited. Add me boizngurlzcamfun@hotmail.com or boizngurlz4camfun@yahoo.com
     
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    Tell your girlfriend and her bloke to relax a bit and don't take it all so seriously. Take some time, start off with sensual massaging and a bottle of wine and see where it takes you - penetration on the first attempt is not important, just keep cool and eventually it will happen - it's amazing just what can fit in and out of a vagina - remember womone give birth; and that is bigger than a babies arm! rofl.

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    Not the world's best example, since that particular experience causes most women to scream out in agony and/or require pain-killers and oxygen. :rolleyes:
     
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    True, plus I've yet to hear of a woman saying "Was it good for you too?" after forcing a large hairless howler-monkey from their genitals. :wink:
     
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    good tips from the other guys, esp about seeing a doctor. I had a girlfriend once with vaginismus. The pain in intercourse in fact came from her involuntary muscle contractions, not from me being too big.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vaginismus
     
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    I've seen a couple of responses that echo this point and I must say they completely miss the point. Another one I saw in a different thread that was similar stated that the guy should stop being so selfish and just go down on her. I think these replies are missing the point. My ex-wife had a lot of pain when we would attempt to have sex. I wasn't fun for me because I would look down and she would be grimising in pain. It's not a size thing. Like someone stated above, the vagina is built to withstand a lot. So I would go down on her, and she would jerk my off. We both got off. But sometimes a man just wants to make love to his wife (and I'm sure the same is true is reverse, but I'm speaking entirely from a guys prospective). Something that exchanging oral just doesn't accomplish. My ex refused to go to a doctor and determine the cause of the pain. Actually she did once, and the guy just told her she was really sensitive. We couldn't work thru it and it caused our separation. There is something more wrong than just the size. I suggest she get an examination, and keep getting more opiniions until she is given an answer. It is not fair for a newly married couple to start out like this (as I did). As I wrote above, the answer is not... oh, just go down on her. A couple that is truly in love needs to have intercourse to feel that true connection that you get from no other person.

    Its obviously a big deal since she sought you out and confided in you. Make sure they get the help they need to solve the problem before its too late.
     
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    Its obviously a big deal since she sought you out and confided in you. Make sure they get the help they need to solve the problem before its too late.[/quote]

    They need professional help. Sex isn't a mechanical act, emotions, psychology and anatomy are involved. It isn't an unusual problem, many doctors and therapists deal with this everyday. It is one factor that got Kinsey doing all that great research I read for weeks in my Uncle's library when I was 16!
     
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    You see - this is why people should have sex before marriage...
     
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    If it really presents that much of a problem, i would drop a hint for her & hubby to visit her ob/gyn for testing.
     
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