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So here's input from another female. The first key to really good sex is having some good chemistry. You can get a decent fuck from someone you don't have much chemistry with, but making love requires the chemistry. I'm one of the few women that can be asked what I like, as long as I already sense the good chemistry between us. But if it turns into an interview, the image of you using the info just to jack off enters my mind and I lose interest. Not all women are going to volunteer what they like though.
I've been with enough men to not have great expectations of them the first time or two. What makes me want them to come back for more is their willingness to do what I ask, be able to read my body language and be willing to show how much of a good time they're having also. There have been a couple of guys that just laid there silent without even having a change in breath (I like my men to be vocal and freely showing how good of a time they're having too). One thing for me is if I see you having a good time, I feed off of it and I will show that I'm having a good time. If you don't show you're having a good time, I just get through it (or if it's just really bad I kick you out there and then) and never let you come back to my bed.
I've been with enough men to not have great expectations of them the first time or two. What makes me want them to come back for more is their willingness to do what I ask, be able to read my body language and be willing to show how much of a good time they're having also. There have been a couple of guys that just laid there silent without even having a change in breath (I like my men to be vocal and freely showing how good of a time they're having too). One thing for me is if I see you having a good time, I feed off of it and I will show that I'm having a good time. If you don't show you're having a good time, I just get through it (or if it's just really bad I kick you out there and then) and never let you come back to my bed.
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Another great example. More along the lines of what many of us men desire. Thank you buny.:smile:
Honestly dolfette, please no offense intended but your statements are coming across as if you're trying to antagonize the male members, let it go already. You've stated your opinion numerous times in this thread so I think everyone knows where you stand on the topic.
i find it hard to take your judgement seriously since the ladies group tantrum. you hardly qualify as the voice of reason.
i am who i am. i plan on being myself for some considerable time. if you don't like it then that's your problem, not mine.
if my personality offends you, feel free to make use of the ignore feature. i assure you that your replies to me will not be missed.
i am who i am. i plan on being myself for some considerable time. if you don't like it then that's your problem, not mine.
if my personality offends you, feel free to make use of the ignore feature. i assure you that your replies to me will not be missed.
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I was lucky enough that the woman I was with for my first time actually wanted to teach me how to please her. I remember the first thing she said was "I'm going to teach you how to please me, let you explore me. But remember that what I teach you doesn't necessarily work for other women, but the basics can be transferable." I've never met another woman like her since. Ones I usually meet just jump into bed and look at me like "I'm in your bed, you better know how to please me!" And it's just off putting.
I'm not an expert at it, and I'm not "Intuitive" or very receptive to even the most obvious signs (Hell, I usually have sex with a person atleast 2-3 times before I have a good idea of what they want). But I think it's all down to having some kind of connection or spark, and a willingness to learn and please. Also, show you're enthusiasm,not too much, not too little, but just enough can make a huge difference.
Having said that, I think taking the time to really get to know how your partner works and telling them how you work through verbal communication, would improve sex for both sides. Even the simple "That's it, right there" or "Faster" are more than enough, especially if said the right way.
And it's become a bit of a bitch fest in here hasn't it?
I'm not an expert at it, and I'm not "Intuitive" or very receptive to even the most obvious signs (Hell, I usually have sex with a person atleast 2-3 times before I have a good idea of what they want). But I think it's all down to having some kind of connection or spark, and a willingness to learn and please. Also, show you're enthusiasm,not too much, not too little, but just enough can make a huge difference.
Having said that, I think taking the time to really get to know how your partner works and telling them how you work through verbal communication, would improve sex for both sides. Even the simple "That's it, right there" or "Faster" are more than enough, especially if said the right way.
And it's become a bit of a bitch fest in here hasn't it?
my feelings are all hurted & shit.
*cries*
naked. in a paddling pool. covered in marmalade.
Not sure how this went from talking about opinions to getting all butt hurt about someones "tone". Some people have certain "tiks" and that's that. Some people work differently. Vive la differance(spelling?) they say right?
@Coconutz
you do kind of favor those opinions that are more inline with the way you see things, which I completely understand, but with this subject I think its best to stay on ones own side and agree to disagree about which method works or what works for guys. Some guys I'm sure don't WANT to be told because for them finding out on their own is rewarding. Some may find from past experiences that they are frustrated by the lack of transparency when it comes to what women want. But each has their own needs and wants, each as important and respected as the next. (Or should be) like a poster said before, if one doesn't like what one finds in the bedroom then one can find another to bed. (Not really sure where the heck I was going with this... Just felt a lot of tension in the forum and was attempting to continue the discussion? Meh, its early and I'm fucking crabby methinks.)
@Coconutz
you do kind of favor those opinions that are more inline with the way you see things, which I completely understand, but with this subject I think its best to stay on ones own side and agree to disagree about which method works or what works for guys. Some guys I'm sure don't WANT to be told because for them finding out on their own is rewarding. Some may find from past experiences that they are frustrated by the lack of transparency when it comes to what women want. But each has their own needs and wants, each as important and respected as the next. (Or should be) like a poster said before, if one doesn't like what one finds in the bedroom then one can find another to bed. (Not really sure where the heck I was going with this... Just felt a lot of tension in the forum and was attempting to continue the discussion? Meh, its early and I'm fucking crabby methinks.)
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Only particular words will make any kind of connection with my brain and I certainly can't process them well enough to actually create a response to them. I can't even process direct commands very well without a few repeats and a nudge or two in the right direction.
There are also many men who don't desire (or need) an instruction manual.
And why do I get the sense from your post that you only value the posts of women if they support what 'many men desire'? I could be wrong, but that's certainly the impression I'm getting.
shut it, doll! don't you know that if women aren't deliberately pandering to that specific desire then they're just here to antagonise the male members?
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