Howdy!
Yes, sometimes this site can get a little tricky---especially when you're new and figuring out how it works. You'll get used to it (hopefully

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If I remember (and I think the Admin explained it in his post up above), it takes a couple of days, and a few posts, to get fuller access. You can also post a Validation pic (if you're so inclined)...which gives you additional benefits for free.
As for the users...you'll find a pretty mixed bag here. So, I does take some time to sift through to find what you are looking for. Some guys are on here just to look at dick-pics...or talk about the size of their favorite celebrity's cock. Other guys are here for the conversation (supportive or otherwise) in the Forums. And others are into camming. It can pretty much be whatever you want it to be. You can also carry on individual conversations using the Start Conversation tab on a Profile if you want your conversation to be more private.
Feel free to PM me if you want...
You CAN find a lot of affirmation and support here...but sometimes you have to search a little harder for it. Personally, I've found a lot of affirmation and support (along with some jerks)...on an unusually wide array of topics that you'd probably never even discuss with your best bud...