pls help...I'm suffering from ED!!!

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guys...I'm facing a very sensitive problem...btw I'm 22 yr old male and I hav a cut cock...Yesterday I met up with a call gal. I was able to get an erection for sometime...but when she started stroking me (using lube), I lost the erection and worse, I cud not even get it back!!

What cud be the problem...
pls help ppl, I'm very depressed because of this.
I'm 80% strt and 20% gay btw...does this have anything to do with my sexual performance?? (I'm definitely atractd to girls)

And supposing I go tothe doctor and take his prescribed drugs, will it be a permanant solution, or will it recur after the course is over??

pls help me...I'm not able to sleep in the nights, because of this!!!
 

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Okay, don't freak out! That is one very specific high stress situation. Are you able to achieve and maintain an erection at other times? Do you masturbate? How often do you masturbate? Sometimes men masturbate so much that when they are with a woman it just doesn't feel right and they can't perform as they would like.

:confused: What made you think a call girl was the best course of action over seeing a doctor? Sure call girls see penises 24/7 but they are rarely pre-med in urology. :cool:

Don't try anything herbal or folk remedies. GO TO A DOCTOR! :cool:
 

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You've got to Relax my friend. If it's the 1st time this has occured, there might be things distracting you. Your a young, healthy man, and there's probably no physical problem. Are call girls typical for you? I'm sure your going to be fine. Relax, go get a massage. It could be Stress, Chill bro, Bruce-e
 

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relieve stress, take off from work and try again. Maybe your body is too tired and your mind is aroused or the other way around. You should only panic when it happens constantly. Talk to a doctor and viva viagra lol
 

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It sonds like you have typical performance anxiety. It's very common and usually happens to most men at some time or another. During your next encounter, relax and remember that you're there for pleasure, not as an obligation. If you feel stress doing a particular activity, stop and do something that'll make you less anxious.

Another tip- don't masturbate until this issue is resolved. Save it all for your sexual encounters. Performance anxiety will be less of an issue if you're turned on.
 

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guys...Yesterday I met up with a call gal. I was able to get an erection for sometime...but when she started stroking me (using lube), I lost the erection and worse, I cud not even get it back!!

Yesterday, I think, you might be too nervous or too exhausted.
Forget everything and never think about it again or you won't be able to flee from the swamp.
Don't worry. Be sure and have confidence
and then
you can exellently carry out the men's duty that also gives us the bliss, brother.
 
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This definitely sounds like performance anxiety and it sounds like you really scared yourself badly. It is perfectly normal to have occasional times when things do not work well for one reason or another. There may have been other things on your mind and whan that happended you lost the erection. Suddenly the conscious mind kicks in and you mentaly scream......"I loooooossstttt the harddd oonnnn....what's she gonna think of me..........OH SH**!" The next thing that happens is that you now think of that when you try and jack-off so again the pressure becomes monumental and the erection either does not happen at all or it wilts.

Give yourself a break. If this goes on and on and on then seeing an MD would be a good idea, ut what you are describing is definitely a really nasty case of good old make ego being smashed by a non-performance sledge hammer.

You'll be OK my friend...........Just give yourself some time..........
 

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dear BigAl
you've said
don't masturbate until this issue is resolved. Save it all for your sexual encounters. Performance anxiety will be less of an issue if you're turned on.

but all this time i've heard only the oppsite...that masturabtion enhances sexual performance...it helps in intercouse??

how do u say that then??
 
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also does this have anything to do with my sexual orientation??
meaning, i'm more of gay and hence cannot enjoy with girls...
i wud consider myself a bi...but will my 'consideration' matter anyway??
 

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dear BigAl
you've said
don't masturbate until this issue is resolved. Save it all for your sexual encounters. Performance anxiety will be less of an issue if you're turned on.

but all this time i've heard only the oppsite...that masturabtion enhances sexual performance...it helps in intercouse??

how do u say that then??

You'll be much more turned on for sex if you haven't ejaculated for several days. It'll make it much likelier for you to have a trouble-free erection.

also does this have anything to do with my sexual orientation??
meaning, i'm more of gay and hence cannot enjoy with girls...
i wud consider myself a bi...but will my 'consideration' matter anyway??

Not necessarily. Your situation sounds like performance anxiety.

My advice would be for you to take the advice above and try and push this whole situation out of your mind. If you make it out to be more than what it is, you'll have a much harder time trying to get over it.
 
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Is it your first time with a call girl? It could be that you're worried about how you'd perform. Stress kills hard-ons. And today's case is probably just a residual of your anxiety about not being able to get it up with the call girl.

Relax a little and give it another go. Before you know it you might be spring sprung again.

If all else fails, as njqt466 said, don't try random stuff. Go see a doctor.

All the best!