Porn and erectile disfunction

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  1. affarsbitrade

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    What is everyone's experience with this issue? I have to admit, I've been without a job since last year and I've found watching porn has become part of the daily routine. I watch all sorts of things, just as long as it's non-violent and legal. However, I think it's having an effect on my libido and healthy erections. The few people I've been with over this time have failed to arouse me, and when things have gotten more intense, I actually haven't managed a full erection and always felt like being on the brink of going soft.
    It's potentially an anxiety/depression issue, seeing as though I'm not feeling my most confident self being unemployed, but it makes more sense to me that I've gotten so used to logging into a porn site, getting hard, and masturbating that my brain has forgotten how to get turned on by a person in the flesh. I've decided to attempt to go cold turkey on porn for as long as I can and see if it makes a difference, and masturbate less frequently and when aroused by my own sexual fantasies and not just memories of porn. Any similar experiences/advice?

    PS I'm not religious and not using this as a kind of anti-porn protest, genuine concern for my sexual health.
     
  2. GayFrog

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    I know this may sound crazy, but you have developed an addiction to pornography. I have attached a link here and I really think you should check it out. What makes me think it is a sexual addiction to porn is my younger brother went through a similar situation with internet porn.

    I hope this has been helpful.....Good Luck.
     
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    watching porn incessentantly may be an impulse control problem you've always had ,but now you have more time to engage in it.
    try joggging, walking and spending as much time out of the house as possible. also, move your computer and make sure you shut it down and only turn it on for an hour or two a day.
    the twelve steps are always good. start with trying to figure out if you've offended anyone with your habit/addiction etc. that is a real eye opening experience for some.
     
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    Yep, I've had similar experiences because I went so long between relationships. But when I throw off the porn, and don't masturbate (especially not letting myself cum) then I'm so rarin for action that when I am with someone (aka the new girlfriend) I get harder and it lasts, and she cums like crazy.

    Depression sucks but don't let this habit destroy being with someone, it's far better than any porn.
     
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    it happened to me to i jerked off so much i couldnt get fully aroused
     
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    These are all fascinating points. Porn is a big time-waster and it screws up your sexual responses. To limit your porn, limit your time in front of the computer. Find other activities!
     
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    It certainly could be related to the other factors you mentioned but I have noticed that porn has an effect on my own libido...It "raises the bar" so to speak by making everything so automatic: If something isn't as exciting as possible you can fast foward, switch videos, etc. Also, since you are in complete control you are always getting the type of stimulation you want automatically. Plus, since you can access this whenever you want there's a kind of novelty removed from being sexually stimulated.

    As I said, I have noticed a significant difference in my libido between the times I have been with a girl when I had jerked off recently (and alot) and when I had not done so for some time. Just like Ramsey said, when I have waited for awhile I am usually raring to go. For this reason I have intentionally cut back significantly on the time I spend watching porn and regularly intentionally go for longer periods without masturbating, particularly before potential intimate encounters.

    Also, I don't know if i'm alone on this one but I find that masturbating to the thought of a certain girl has made me less excited when I finally had a chance to be intimate with her (on at least two specific occassions I can think of). I don't think this is any kind of general rule of sex, but it probably relates to the mental/emotional aspect of attraction.
     
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    Nope! You're not alone. I've had the same thing happen. Why in the heck is that?
     
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    I think that (at least for me) it's partially an issue of over-thinking things (i.e. paralysis through analysis) since I have already made up in my mind how things will go (situation, position, etc.) so it makes me think in the back of my mind that things are supposed to be progressing a certain way, rather than spontaneous, which is best. The result of all of these stupid expectations is nervousness and less "going with the flow".
     
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    To the poster:
    I am in the same boat. I can relate to you and can explain why you are going through this. Let me first say that I have been without a job and was collecting unemployment for the last two years. Now my coverage has expired and I have to face the dry season for jobs, scary.

    As for the weakened libido, it can be a few things. Based on how you described it, it sounds as if you have been desensitized toward sex/porn. Watching this stuff a lot will make you seek more extreme acts because the "vanilla" stuff doesn't arouse anymore. Not only that, but it can take a toll physically as well. If you are masturbating and having orgasms multiple times, it is going to weaken your potency. Try taking a week off and rest and you will see results. If I meet a girl who I think I may become involved with, I take a break from masturbating because I know it can weaken my performance.

    You mentioned Depression as well. Lack of exercise and a low mood will kill a libido. This is more of a personal, subjective issue that everyone has to deal with in their own ways. I have experienced this, but its a different road for everyone to travel to get out of it. Good luck.
     
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    I agree with you. Over analyzing and an active mind is a mood killer when it comes to sex. Part of my problem is that I am so eager for her to see my full erection, my anxiousness renders me impotent a lot of the time. Call it stage fright.

    A good way to fight this is finding a girl close enough to feel like a close friend and feeling the moment with her, rather than thinking about your own performance and pleasure.
     
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    Stop jerking and start doing exercise...it should help. Good luck!!
     
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    Well, even if a guy isn't "big" he's at least always bigger when hard, and as big as he's going to be...I still think a partner's perception of your dick size is a common component of performance anxiety for all guys.
     
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    True dat!
     
  17. arnie

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    I think the term is porn induced ed. Has to do with the dopamine in your brain. Not exactly sure of all the scientific aspects of it, but porn and lots of jerking can have an a affect on your hardness. Good luck it's a hard habit to break.

    Try jerking to images in your brain instead of on the computer.
     
  18. D_Pokin Joe Frazier

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    Yep I agree I work in the porn industry an every once in a will I have to take a break an hit the gym extra hard to get my head straight.
     
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