Males are very visually and physically focused. And, it probably doesn't help that the advertising world taps in to that with the ads depicting males and females as they do.I was the skinny kid with asthma growing up and I grew up on a swim team from a young age and looked at all the muscled guys around me and longed to be them. I got in the gym and made it happen and am very glad I did. I am certainly healthier for it. But the thing that changed my life more than anything was when i provided companionship services to other males when I was in school. Such work required you to look past physical appearance and connect as one male to another. Not only did I discover i could connect with a guy apart from appearance, I also discovered a number of body types that really got me horny that I had never considered before, chief among them the bear with some gut on him. All that said, the bigger thing you have to ask yourself is, what do you want your body to be? You don't have to look like the super cut muscle boys, but if there is something you want to change that you feel will make you a better person then go for it. My boyfriend I met last year describes himself as the former fat kid that went from 330 pounds own to where he is at 245 at 6'3" and is in the gym to build a football lineman build of some beef with a gut. He did this not out of self consciousness like I did, but because his doctor had a serious conversation with him bout his health stats and he wanted to improve that. You can be fat and still be healthy. Every football linemen and power lifter proves this.The most important thing as that you are happy with you. Even as solid built as i am now, I still see the same perfectly photographed, photoshop touched pics of perfect males and envy them. But that's what we are supposed to do. That's how marketing and ad sales work. So I channel that into my gym workouts as motivation to keep going, even though I know with my ectomorph build I won't ever be those guys or the beefy thik football lineman type. But it keeps me healthy and feeling good about myself. Hope this helped