Porn is becoming a problem.

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  1. uboat

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    Lately, i have been masturbating and watching ALOT of porn. Too much in fact. Im writing this post bc im concerned about my sex life in relation to porn. Ive been masturbating so much lately, that im turning down girls that I usually fuck. To me, it seems like too much work to have sex with them so i just put on some porn and yank it. Im not happy with this b/c porn seems to be the only thing that gets me horny. I was in a strip club last night and didn't get turn on the slightest bit. I miss the days when i could see a girl walking down the street and my pants would start to move. Damn, how do i break this porn craze. Please help. tips, tricks, anything is appreciated. thanks.

    i wish my eyes could un-see all the porn ive seen over the years.

    uboat
     
  2. Monkeydonkey

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    Just set up an adult filter on ur computer, and leave it for a week or so!
     
  3. alx

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    Get a hobby, sorted.
     
  4. D_CountdeGrandePinja

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    It's either YES or NO - control is what it's all about.

    Good Luck.
     
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    Make a list of the things going on, or the features of the individuals in the porn that are so attractive to you. I think eventually you'll find a string of common themes or features that maybe you can't, or haven't found in person before. Maybe your tastes or changing or you're developing an attraction to something you never have before. It just seems to me that in these cases folks are often realizing different things about themselves and what they are attracted to in a sexual/romantic sense. Some porn is very hit it and quit it... while others are very tender and loving.... while others are geared towards a fetish. Maybe it's a sexuality issue that you're just realizing, or taste in the look or behavior of a sexual partner is changing, or becoming more defined.

    Just something to consider.
     
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    Having had the same problem, and still struggle with this to this day, I have to to plan my days, and not make time for porn. I have been watching porn since I was about 10 years old. My parents didn't know, but It slowly built into a major addiction, to the point where I had about 100 tapes and CD's and about 10 Gigs of clips (this was in 1999/200 - when that was considered a lot). But I had some really good friends who knew how much i struggled with it and helped me chunk the habit.

    Breaking free from it, with lots of prayer, intervention, and developing some healthy habits, I found that my chronic porn/masturbation stunted my people relation development. It also caused me to become more remote to my feelings as they relate to others. I had devolped a tendency to be selfish and not consider others, because I was more concerned about getting me.
    Now, married and have a very successful career, I'm on the road away from my wife a lot, have found myself often back at the same crossroads. To combat it, I have to manage my time stringently. I try to plan my day to where I have a focus at every moment. Not necessarily focus just on work, but on things that I would like to become better at, or devote attention to for make me better. I also intentionally try to plan activities with my friends and/or colleagues to develop additional relationships and polish my relation skills.

    I have not mastered it completely, but I am concious it is a weakness for me. Just to let you know how much of one it can still affect me, I missed work a couple of weeks ago because I was so caught up in some of the fiction stories on this site. I was so into it, I jacked off all day. I had to play it off as a sick day. I'm also overseas and haven't seen my wife in about 3 months. I can literally smell her... Oh yeah if you can marry a freak, that helps!:smile: I was really fortunate and blessed to marry a woman who has a compatible sex drive.

    Well... I hope this helps.

    Regards,
     
  7. uboat

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    Yes. I totally agree. Its a self control/self discipline issue. When it comes to porn, im the type of person that cannot do it in normal moderation. I feel the need to do it anytime im bored. and im bored alot. matter of fact, im bored right now. I just got back from lunch with this girl and i wanted to bone her but she wouldn't let me so now im kinda horny and really really want to look at some porn so i can bust a nut. Im not sure if im addicted to porn or addicted to cumming. maybe im addicted to both.
     
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    My experience is that when we get hooked on something that makes us feel good really instantly, there's something going on in our lives that needs looking at. Stress, tough times, personal success or failure, something else? Something more deep-seated that needs some therapy? It's tough for us to say, but when we think we're addicted to something ... rarely are we able to just stop without a lot of hard, unsatisfying work.
     
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    I, too, have a problem with porn. It's not as good as it used to be.
     
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    <standing ovation>
     
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    Porn may be a problem, but masturbation keeps me out of a lot of trouble. I know people denigrate masturbation as opposed to fucking, but there's a whole lot of potential problems you won't have if you stick to yourself.

    Sex can be a lot of work.
     
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    I know what you mean uboat. I've wasted far to much time following the whims of my sex drive. All I can say to those who suggest exercising self discipline is that perhaps you don't really suffer from an over active libido. I dare say the OP has tried very hard to exercise self control, but he wouldn't have launched this thread if it had worked.
     
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    Porn is a problem when it interferes with reality. If you have a significant or regular sex partner and find yourself more turned on by the porn you have a problem. If it is used as a substitute when there is no other alternative available for a wank session I would not consider it a problem.
     
  15. D_Jimmy Jammer

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    Try cycling. See if you can notch up a 100K/week (target.)
    If you like it, go competitive.
    Guarantee your 'addiction' will subside then vanish.
    It's a matter of body-mind re-orientation, though it won't
    happen in a flash.
    Cycling (exercise) - you'll know this - ups body endorphin
    and serotonin levels..which eases/combats stress. It also
    focus the mind (how you're working your body, legs, cadence,
    cardio-vascular performance, anticipating work load on hills,
    etc - apart from taking in the countryside.)
    The only danger is you might become addicted to cycling;
    true..high endorphin levels. :biggrin1:
     
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    You will get a sore butt too.
     
  17. uboat

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    Ding Ding Ding.... i have multiple sex partners but 9 times out of 10, id rather look at porn than have to go through the trouble of calling them up, setting up a time to meet, talking to them when we meet, then finally expending the energy for sex. To me, its too much work. Im a compulsive person by nature, so i like to have things done my way quickly.
     
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    Who doesn't? I just had my way with myself. :bandit:
     
  19. D_Jimmy Jammer

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    well, apparently, you can get that in other ways here. :tongue:
     
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    Most porn is like watching paint dry.
     
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