Porn Sex vs. Real Sex

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  1. D_Salvatore Speedbump

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    Was awoke for various stress reasons (none dealing with sex though....ok maybe a little, being the lack there of) and i found an online article i thought was pretty informative. Just thought i'd share. Myth #1 kind of took me by surprise. The woman i was with a while ago just knew i wasn't attracted to her anymore because i would sometimes get soft during sex. Which wasn't true at all. Hell i still think about her now. Anyway, just thought it was a good read.

    Porn Sex vs. Real Sex
     
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    Very true. Should show it to my Girl Friend. Getting soft during sex, even if it is after the 3rd or 4th orgasm, has upset me and my partner at the time. Women I've been with have certainly taken it personally. Crazy thing was though I was still horny as hell.
     
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    Yeah i know how you feel. The woman i was with started getting emotional because of it. Which yeah for a guy like me triggers white knight mode (aka pleading that its not her fault an trying to make her feel better). After a while of that though the soft hardon goes full limp :( vicious cycle dude..just vicious.
     
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    I've wondered about this (penis sometimes going soft during sex), and I always blamed it on myself, thinking that "I don't do it for him." This information you've provided is good to know - thanks. :wink:
     
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    I do worry about people being "educated" by porn. There are so many things that are unrealistic, from body types to what people should look like when they are having sex. I enjoy watching porn - I can get very aroused or 'inspired' by it (damn it - I can give a better blowjob than that!). I do prefer amateur because it's more real - and sometimes looks almost boring. And that's because sometimes sex is just about what's going on in the brain or the complete focus on sensation.

    My biggest worry is that teens are being educated by watching porn. I know we've all seen things that we wish we could unsee - imagine if that video was one of your first impressions about sex? Kind of scary - at least to me. It's one of the reasons I really talked to the kids I helped raise about sexuality. They knew the mechanics fairly early - I wanted them to feel good about themselves and to have healthy attitudes towards sex. Whatever kinks they may develop later on? Well, that will be up to them (and I hope I never hear about it!) I just wanted them to treat themselves and sex with respect.
     
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    Ok I was a teen who learned about sex through porn and never once have I been worried about being soft during sex (maybe because I'm still young my penis doesn't go limp? I'm always raging hard), I was never scared to be vocal (unless there was someone in the next room who I didn't want to hear me having sex), and I never thought I was supposed to give a girl head by facing the wrong direction.

    I was really expecting different things from this article.
     
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    I was reading an article on Jezebel about this exact subject. I thought it was really funny. The author said that she and her friend were talking about sex and her friend mentioned that her husband kept pulling his dick out and slapping her on the ass with it in doggy style. Neither of them understood why he would do something like that, when suddenly it dawned on one of them that men see it in porn! He was using a porn move! Obviously the husband hadn't understood that the purpose of the dick slap was to show the audience the size of the penis and that IRL, it's a goofy thing to do in the middle of sex, at least in the opinion of these two ladies and the women who commented on the article, including me.

    Some of my favorite positions are almost never featured in porn because they aren't optimal positions for squeezing a camera in there so the audience can see all the goods, but they do maximize skin to skin contact and make kissing each other's lips, ears, neck, and chest much easier, which is better. The positions favored in porn are all ones that leave both your bodies totally exposed to the air, connected only by the cock. Sure, they're great for variety and when you want to watch, but those aren't the sensual positions that I truly crave.
     
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    Im naturally silent and tense during sex

    Has this been caused by porn? I wonder....
     
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    I 100% agree with you!
     
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    women will jump at any excuse to feel unattractive
    it's odd

    and as far as 2 goes, I try to keep quiet so I can hear her better
    I love the sounds women make in bed
    well most women
     
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    Really interesting read, this has happened to me a couple of times but I have never had a steady girlfriend so I rarely have to enter 'white knight mode' unless they ask. I have managed to give a girl an orgasm with a semi-on after I came once though.

    I actually prefer amateur porn because it seems more real.

    @TheRob, I've experienced that. I can tell a girl she's beautiful all day and she'll say I'm biased. I can hint there is something wrong or even say something totally unrelated and they take in really personally and severely. I actually understand this about girls, but it is a hard line to follow.
     
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    In his defense, that kind of action can give an extra little bit of stiffness, he might be pulling it out to do that. Well, probably not, but maybe.

    The main porn vs. reality thing for me is the speed and force of the thrusts. Very rarely in porn do I see a slow, rhythmic pace, mostly it's like they're a coked-up chihuahua fucking its favourite stuffed toy. Speed is great at the right time, but it seems to be the only way it can be done, judging by some porn.
     
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    Before belittling the husband's level of understanding why not consider that he may find it erotic watching the way her ass jiggles when he does this, or that the change in sensation helps him delay orgasm, or that it simply feels good to him.

    Both men AND women try moves in bed that they've seen in porn, we only repeat the moves if they work for us.

    This I echo.
     
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    Are the differences between porn sex and real sex not obvious? Real sex involves a lot more closeness and heat as opposed to leaving a lot of space to allow good shots as the most obvious difference. And who slaps a girl's ass with his cock? That's just strange.
     
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    Posts on this subject can never be discussed enough imo. It's like learning to drive a car from watching the movies about race car drivers. Sex is not a performance on stage! --unless you are making your own vid, anyway...
     
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    Guys who like it, that's who.

    It's been done with me by two different guys and when I asked why, one said they liked the sound and jiggle and the other said the delayed orgasm.

    Personally, I love a little playing where they slap my clit with their cock.

    Who made you arbiter of what, categorically, is and isn't strange, anyway?
     
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    So true. The brain is the biggest sex organ. Real sex involves love, anticipation, play, togetherness, tenderness, satisfying your partner, knowing your partner.

    Enjoyment in sex is illusive: When I've thought I'm gonna "fuck' a girl - to satisfy my lust - what a disappointment it's turned out . When we make love - and I give her a few orgasms before penetration - that's when it happens.

    I don't enjoy porn. I love the real thing.
     
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    Which is another reason, as the article pointed out, it is so hard to find good cunnilingus in porn. IMO (and experience) a lot of complete face burying happens with good cunnilingus. In fact my biggest problem is breathing while performing it. Only when my face is dripping wet with pussy juice do I feel I am doing it right--oh, and my wife's very strong orgasm helps make the point too.
     
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