Porn vs. real life

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Another thready has got me to thinking about things that I enjoy doing in real life but don't enjoy watching in porn, especially professional porn; and also about things that I enjoy in porn but don't do in my personal life. I should note that I am bi, and am much kinkier with guys than I am with girls. Feel free to comment on my list, or post your own.

Things I do, but don't like seeing:

-Getting spanked: I love a good spanking, but can't stand watching one in straight pro porn. I can enjoy a good amateur one, or one involving two females, but watching a guy get paid to spank a woman doesn't do it for me.

-Getting called a slut: I enjoy being called one, but really don't enjoy seeing or hearing it in a movie.

-Using sex toys: I love wearing a butt plug, but seeing someone with a sex toy doesn't do much for me. I guess it's the whole fantasy aspect.

Things I don't do, but enjoy seeing:

-Creampies: I haven't done one in over three years, purely for safety reasons, but I love the way they look.

-Cuckolding- I have had sex with other guys in front of their boyfriends and vice versa; but by it's strictest definition, I am far too jealous to ever allow another man to have sex with my wife (I'm not married).

I know this seems kinda weird, but I'm just curious as to how others relate to porn, and what you think of my list.
 

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never really thought about this before, but you're right - i think there's a big difference:

Things I would do but don't like to watch:

* glory holes - hugely exciting in really life, dull in a video
* sensual kissing - boring in a video
* wanking (solo vids are SO dull!)

Things I would watch but wouldn't do:

* bareback with a stranger (and part of me feels slightly uncomfortable even watching it)
* straight guys banging a girl - not keen to see it in real life, but seeing an alpha male str8 porn actor doing it is a different matter
 

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I do hate when people use slut and whore in porn, and I'd never use it in the bedroom. However, spanking in the bedroom can be very hot, but in porn it is just terrible. I think it is because they usually follow up with some cheesy dialog to go with it. As far as toys, I'd much prefer seeing a woman using her fingers than a toy, not that I'm against toys.

On the flipside I don't like seeing creampies, kind of for the same reason you don't do them. I don't like cuckolding either, it just weirds me out a little. I know this is kind of a double standard, but I'd be willing to have a threesome with two girls, but I'd be far more reluctant to have another man in. That being said I'd never suggest a threesome with another girl, that would be up to my partner, since she would be the one sharing so to speak.
 

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I like watching and doing: calling names (slut, etc) or being called names and abused myself if I'm in a submissive mood. Cumplay, gloryhole, all that.

Things I'll watch but not do:

Anal and group. I'm a one on one kind of guy. I consider it cheating and don't buy into the whole open relationship thing.
 

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what I love to watch but don't do:

bareback m-m sex
group scenes
bondage
sex b/w mature men and young guys

what I ike to do but not so much watch:

spank guys

what I like to do AND watch:
anything eroticism related to sports, locker rooms, swimming, weights, etc
 

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Interesting question.

I love to watch but don't do:

hetero gang bangs
double penetration of a woman
creampies
young guys with older women

and especially combinations of the above.

I also like gay barebacking, especially with internal anal cumshots and 3 or more partners (e.g., one guy using another guy's cum as lube to fuck a 3rd guy's ass).

I think the reason why I like gangbang hetero porn is because they guys seem completely uninhibited about it. Not only do they seem uninhibited about having sex (on film), but about having sex in front of a group of other guys, who are watching and urging them on. (I think the sound of sex can be at least as erotic as the sight of it, so having a whole group of guys moaning their pleasure and saying sexy stuff to each other is a big turn-on.) Although there's no sexual contact between the guys, it's nevertheless a shared sexual experience between them, and they all seem really turned on by the scenario. The guys all seem completely comfortable with each other's nudity and accepting, embracing, and supportive of each other's sexuality.

As for why I like young guys with older women...I dunno, there's just something fascinating about the mis-match of ages.

Part of what turns me on about this is how different it is from my own life and from what I even perceive as possible. I'm fairly reserved and inhibited, so I have a hard time enough time finding one person to have sex with, let alone a whole group.

I think I like gay barebacking porn for similar reasons. I painfully aware of how unsafe it is, but it's hot, nasty, and uninhibited.

As for things I do but don't like to watch, sensual kissing is fun but gets boring to watch. Similarly, I imagine that long, slow, sensual love-making (the kind that sometimes featured conversation and/or cuddling) would also be boring to watch, not that I can think of ever seeing any porn like that.

what I like to do AND watch:
anything eroticism related to sports, locker rooms, swimming, weights, etc

When I was a kid I used to have these vaguely erotic dreams about wandering around in a huge, labyrinthine "bathhouse" (for lack of a better word) filled with locker rooms, public showers, urinals, toilets, tubs, pools, etc., but I've never seen any porn that features the right combination of elements to trigger the kind of excitement that I felt in these dreams.