Porque só atraio homens casados? - Why do I only attract married men?

[couplebunny]

Oi pessoal! gostaria de compartilhar com vocês algo que acontece comigo desde quando eu era jovem e hoje tenho 40 anos, sou um homem gay mais masculino nas roupas e não afeminado, me visto masculino, porém bonitinho demais pra um simples hétero, sempre atraí homens casados com mulheres, nunca fiquei com nenhum deles, mas sempre quando um homem se interessa por mim, ele é casado com mulher, alguns me paqueram, chamam pra sair e se aproximam morrendo de medo da esposa, mas arriscam.

Eu não consigo entender porque eu só atraio homens casados com mulher, seria porque eles percebem que sou gay, mas ao mesmo tempo sou discreto e não afeminado?

É homem casado, com filho, de igreja, etc mas sempre casado, me disseram que o meu jeito e roupa só vai atrair casado mesmo, isso me dificulta arrumar um homem solteiro e livre.

Em geral são homens que não querem ser gays, apenas sentem um fetiche e vontade de transar com um homem, algo proibido, fetiche, erotismo de ter sexo oral e anal que a esposa não aceita em muitos casos.

Homens que querem a heteronormatividade segura da sociedade, porém desejam ter prazer do sexo com um outro homem sem ser um gay, sigilo e segredo.

tipo ir pra um motel ou lugar onde possam enlouquecer de prazer fazendo todo tipo de safadeza que a esposa pode não aceitar ou querer.

Não vou me gabar porque acho isso feio, mas sou uma pessoa bonita, tenho um corpo legal e sou educado e gentil, na opinião de vocês porque alguns gays como eu só atraem homens casados? isso não teria lógica e nem faria sentido uma vez que eles são héteros, mas é o mundo real.

me falem a opinião de vocês e compartilhem se já passaram por isso, vou adorar saber...

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Hi everyone! I would like to share with you something that has been happening to me since I was young and now I am 40 years old. I am a gay man who is more masculine in my clothes and not effeminate. I dress masculine, but too cute for a simple straight man. I have always attracted men who are married to women. I have never been with any of them, but whenever a man is interested in me, he is married to a woman. Some of them flirt with me, ask me out and approach me, scared to death of my wife, but they take the risk.

I can't understand why I only attract men who are married to women. Could it be because they realize that I am gay, but at the same time I am discreet and not effeminate?

He is a married man, with children, who goes to church, etc., but he has always been married. They told me that my appearance and clothes will only attract married men, which makes it difficult for me to find a single and free man.

In general, these are men who do not want to be gay, they just feel a fetish and desire to have sex with a man, something forbidden, a fetish, an eroticism of having oral and anal sex that the wife does not accept in many cases.

Men who want the safe heteronormativity of society, but want to have pleasure from sex with another man who is not gay, secrecy and secret.

like going to a motel or a place where they can go crazy with pleasure doing all kinds of dirty things that their wife may not accept or want.

I'm not going to brag because I think it's ugly, but I'm a beautiful person, I have a nice body and I'm polite and kind. In your opinion, why do some gays like me only attract married men? That wouldn't make sense since they're straight, but that's the real world.

Tell me your opinion and share if you've ever been through this, I'd love to know.

 

[eridim]

I'll assume you're Brazilian living in Brazil, correct me if I'm wrong.

These married men are (unfortunately for their wives) not straight. These are gay men that had to marry women because their upbringing and culture pushed them towards heterosexuality.

I love Brazilians, very nice people, manly and handsome guys with big cocks. But that's the result of a society that wants men to be men and women to be women. With clearly defined gender roles. So anything that deviates from that is frowned upon and you have to be manly and straight acting to fit in. It's a common theme in Latin America and Southern Europe.

You attract these types of men because you yourself project the image that will fulfill their repressed sexuality (having sex with men) but at the same time they won't be judged by you or by others who see them interacting with you because you're acting straight and you'll keep their secret. So they won't be exposed to their wives about being attracted to men and they won't feel shame because they are not fucking an effeminate man. They are bros who bond with another bro, have sex and no commitments attached.

 

[couplebunny]

É muito bom ter outros pontos de vista, o ruim é que alguns desses homens nunca vão largar a esposa pra ficar com você porquê eles possuem uma imagem de aparências pra sustentar na família e sociedade e é algo que precisa ser escondido sempre, certa vez me apaixonei por um homem casado e ele por mim, mas ele precisava desse casamento de aparências porque era um empresário, eu seria o amante, me lembro que a esposa vivia atrás dele igual uma doida por atenção sem saber de nada, não é brincadeira mas já perdi a conta de quantos homens casados já flertaram comigo, só esse ano já foram 7 ou mais, entre eles devem haver aqueles que sejam bissexuais também, eu não fico provocando ninguém mas eu solto aquela energia de que sou gay mas sou discreto, isso até buga a cabeça de muitas pessoas, porquê eles sempre esperam gays afeminados e cheios de trejeitos, mas o gay que não dá pinta e é mais masculino deixa as pessoas confusas porque não é o que elas esperam e estão acostumadas, eu acho que chega até ser algo místico, um gay que não parece gay mas você sabe que é....

 

[eridim]

Yes that has to do a lot with macho oriented societies and cultures. Many gays are forced into straight relationships to keep appearances. Sometimes they don't even realize it themselves until they start feeling urges for other guys.

My advice is stay away from these men. It will only bring pain to you and their wives. These guys need to work on themselves and get divorced.

You attract them because they see you as a safe space where they can confide in you and they can trust you to keep their secret. You're not a rehabilitation clinic for anyone, but be kind to them and help them understand that they are in fact gay and being in a relationship with a woman can bring them and their wives a lot of pain.

If they were bi they could still be with the same woman and not want to cheat. You've made a commitment to a person to be faithful (man or woman). Now you have urges to fuck other men. You could also have urges to fuck other women. Why do you only wanna act on your urges with men? If you're bi you chose your partner every day over every man and woman in the world. You're not bi if you have urges to fuck other men and act on them but you can easily repress your urges to fuck other women. You know what I mean?