Possible For Large Guys To Have Poor Self-Confidence/Self-Esteem ??

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by Crosz, Jul 31, 2008.

  1. Crosz

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    Hi

    I was wondering is it possible for a guy who's large to have
    poor self-confidence or low self-esteem (with relation to
    women/relationships) ? I would think that big guys have
    such a great sense of self and such satisfying social/sex
    lives;it must be wonderful.

    I would assume that it so gratifying to know that you possess
    something that so many women desire and to know that you
    have the ability to pleasure a woman;whether it be physically
    (orgasm) or psychologically ( woman getting a "rush" from
    being with a large guy).

    I also assume that large guys must feel VERY powerful and masculine
    when making love to a woman;seeing her "get off" because of their
    size.It must be much easier for you to date in some cases;maybe
    word gets around about your size and you have women approaching
    you and being propositioned,having a various fuck buddies,etc...

    Continued success to all large guys out there.All the best !!
     
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    I was with two seriously-endowed dudes one time and all they could do was comment on how out of shape they were compared to me, not how much bigger their pingas were than mine. No matter what "gifts" one has, one often is aware of their deficits more than their blessings. :rolleyes:
     
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    Of course. Self-esteem has little to do with reality often times. People suffering from anorexia view themselves as fat even as they wither away to skin and bones. It's all in the head.
     
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    Having a big dick does not justify the fulfilled psyche in terms of other sorts of accomplishments and activities. At least not for me. I don't actively go around thinking about my life based on my penis size. If I did I probably would be happier, but I'd probably be a lot more shallow. I know very few other people base my performance on my penis size.
     
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    MCA,I understand what you are saying;but I'm speaking about self-confidence
    and self-esteem only in terms of women/relationships.

    I would imagine that large guys have such great confidence in terms
    of approaching,satisfying and keeping a woman interested.It must
    be so fulfilling to know that you're so desired and appreciated.
     
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    Is It Possible For Large Guys To Have Poor Self-Confidence/Self-Esteem?

    Hi Crosz, welcome to LPSG. You may want to search through some of the older threads, because the answer to your question is a resounding yes. For one thing, just because a man is well endowed doesn't mean he knows how to use it. Trust me, there are plenty of women and men out there with no qualms about telling a guy he is a lousy lay. These same people are often the type to blab to all who will listen. :frown1: :mad:

    Contrary to what you seem to believe Size Queens are not the majority of the population. I would think a man with a large penis is more likely to encounter a lover who looks at it and says, "No way, Jose are you putting that horse cock in me!" than one who just looks at it smiles, and hops on for a good ride. I could be wrong, as I'm just a girl and I don't actually have a large penis. :rolleyes::cool:

    More importantly the way a person looks on the outside has nothing to do with what or how they feel on the inside. You should know that by now.:cool:
     
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    Equipment does not make the man. The man makes the equipment. Some guys...that's all they think they have. The most interesting guys are those that have great personalities first....then the size is interesting.
     
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    I agree. A big penis is not an automatic leg opener as far as I am concerned and it is not the road to Nirvana for every man from what I can see. In the wrong 'hands' a big penis becomes a battering ram and potentially damaging to a woman. This can happen all too easily when you get men who think a big penis is all they need to get laid, who have a mindset that says a woman should be grateful to have his knob at her disposal and who subsequently doesn't bother to learn how to make love to a woman (or man) properly. If you look around this forum, there are posts from 'men' who admit to having such rough sex with young women that they end up in hospital with torn vaginas. These men openly brag about being hung and seeing these women as whores. Their attitude is 'I'm hung and they love it'. Right because every woman loves having vaginal lacerations...

    I also think many men perpetuate the whole 'size queen' preconceptions (and misconceptions) by engaging in contests to find the biggest penis and inviting women (and men) to comment on the size of their penises. There are whole websites devoted to this pastime. We women do not have penises (and we generally only constitute a tiny percentage of the membership of such sites - including this one) therefore this has GOT to be something that men are doing for their own ends rather than to appease some mysterious beast called a 'size queen'.

    Penis size has always been the elephant in the corner that no one talks about except as a topic to discuss in the most bawdy terms. Locker rooms and bathrooms everywhere are full of men who studiously keep their eyes averted while furtively checking out the size of the competition. The anonymity of sites like this give the phenomenon a voice (and face). Comparison of penises and the need to show them off must be an evolutionary thing because I cannot think of any other reason why men would care who is bigger and who is smaller.

    I honestly believe that when guys start comparing penises, this in itself can lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem, even if a guy is what would be considered well hung. It is a bit like the body dysmorphia syndrome that saw men wanting to develop ever bigger muscles - the biggersaurauses. So we are seeing it with the penis and this is plunging thousands of men into feelings of inadequacy.
     
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    I had a friend that might as well have been Eeyore from Winnie the Pooh. He was hung like a donkey and had the most defeatist attitude. An interesting thing is he met a woman at a nude beach and the relationship changed him. He is a much different guy with her in his life. I've always wondered if she valued the big cock and this made him a happier overall guy.
     
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    I would say "yes". As I am decently endowed but I am 5'6" and am quite skinny. For years it haunted me, in fact in another post I had mentioned that I got rejected for dates when young and even got laughed at while asking.
    I wouldn't say having a larger penis hasn't helped my self-esteem. Its just that everyone has their share of weakness. And there are enough people to poke where it hurts intentionally or unintentionally. And Penis happens to be a small part of the whole being.
     
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    unless we lived in a world satirically based on pornography (haha) where everyone walked around naked and only cared about cocks, then no, it would not be possible to be happy with a small wang. but we dont, there are other things in life that can make a man unsecure. weight, intellegence, wit, the list goes on...:flowers1:
     
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    We're just like everyone else, man. I mean, I'm not huge, though I've never met anyone in person bigger than I am, but I have still had my confidence issues. While I have been happy with the sex I've had (and I have yet to get a bad review), it's not all there is to a relationship, and the other stuff matters just as much. [shrugs]
     
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    My youngest falls into this category- as a father its rough to see. He is very 'big' and is embarrassed by it (he LIVES in baggy slacks). He has taken that attitude into his school work and is a classic 'nerd'. He has been teased about his siize when he was younger (his brothers are luckier, they are twins and NO ONE hassles a twin). He hates to date for fear of 'that' coming up (or worse yet it coming up and not being able to do anything). I think his major 'outlet' is online porn.

    I have tried to instill personal pride in him as well- but it has to come from inside not outside.

    So size does NOT equal 'confident' in his case I think it is the opposite.
     
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    Thanks for your insights,catman ( and others ).

    I wish the best for your son and hope that he becomes more comfortable
    with himself and his body.

    I think it will come with time and his future partners will come to appreciate his size along with his personality.
     
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    Yes, I wish that was more confident around girls to get some more :smile:. I have a lot of girlfriends, but I don't dare to do more...
     
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    Penis size has never had any positive effect on my mental health. In fact, quite the opposite. Twenty years ago I could have been the poster child for low self-esteem.

    I had a serious weight problem back then: none. I was on the other side of skinny, which, of course, made my endowment seem completely out of whack and deformed. In my opinion, it was an eyesore.

    A little weight later, lot more success with women, and a pecker in its proper place and I'm Smiling Bob.

    I have never been one to say, well, I'm a social outcast, my family hates me, I suck at my job and I have no future, but I least I have a big dick! Doesn't make sense.

    As far as confidence around women. When I was younger I was sure I'd never bed a woman because they would hate that monstrosity that I had. I was laughed at by boys and girls alike, so you can see where I might have had the opposite effect to what you might be thinking.

    But all is well now, but I still don't consider myself as the guy with the big wang.
     
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    It is definetely possible for a well-endowed guy to have low self esteem. And it's for the exact same reasons that any other guy would have low-self esteem. Being well-endowed is satisfying to a certain degree, and it can even make you "happy" temporarily, but there are SO MANY other aspects of life that can rain on you and affect you just as much as anybody. Hung guys get hurt too, ie: some hung guys are great guys who can be very giving, very kind, even good-looking overall....and still have their hearts torn out of them. C'est la vie, mon amie:cool:

    *We have hearts too... and they can be broken like anyone else :(
     
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    I know for me that being big does nothing for my low self esteem. Im fat and out of shape and everybody in my family is built like gods and im built like a tub of lard.Hell it used to effects me so bad i couldnt even get fully hard
     
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    Very rarely has my penis contributed to my self esteem in a positive way.
     
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    Not being well endowed this topic is pretty interesting to me. I've always been very ashamed of my small penis and have felt that it's been an obstacle in nearly every aspect of my life and if I could just have a larger penis my life would be much better. So to read people's comments here about how they haven't liked having a large penis, is a shocking eye opener for me.
     
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