As many of you know I have recently becom an Auntie ( Yay )
But I am becoming increasingly worried about my sister in law.
She is an older mom; being in her mid-late 30's. Now this woman isn't a kid or baby person. She never has been ( by her own words). She never baby sat in highschool like many girls usually do, didn't have any cousins 1 brother (adopted) and never took part in my childrens early years, (even though we live fairly close in the same city). During her whole pregnancy and this past week or so after the babe has arrived she has always reffered to "the books" Now as every mom out there knows Nothing is ever completely by the book.
Anyhow. After watching her interact (or lack of it I should say) with thier baby, I am worried that she is starting to exhibit Post partum depression symptoms.
Her husband asked me to come over for a few days to help out, wich I did. What I saw was a mom of a newborn who doesn't care to play or talk or cuddle with her baby. As soon as I arrived there she immediately handed him over to me and said don't bring him back unless its feeding time. Now I love my little nephew and thoroughly enjoyed spending time with him and am happy to help out so she can rest for a while. But it seems to me that she wants nothing to do with her baby unless she has to feed him. and even then she isn't "bonding" with him, She holds him far away and holds her breast to him. no cuddleing or anything. and as soon as he's done eating she lays him down and expects him to sleep, no talking to him or anything that new moms usually do. And if he happens to stay awake for a while she keeps trying to get him to sleep, and doesn't take the time to just let him look at his surroundings or babble or anything. Now when I was a new mom, my babies didn't leave the same room as me for the first six weeks and I always cuddled and talked with them........to me this is odd behavior.
I tried to encourage different postitons for feeding to try and make her more comfortable, I have tried giving her advice on how to help him sleep longer at night and get into a routine because they are getting NO sleep. She's not sleeping, not eating well, She has been complaining of some discomforts (constipation) and she vehemently disagreed with our advice (metamucil) because its not what the BOOK says, and her doctor didn't mention it. Even though her husband and mine were sitting there and agreed that some things (metamucil) might help her feel better etc ( and yes metamucil is safe when your breatfeeding as it is all natural, and I was told to take it three times a day after I had my kids to prevent my stiches from tearing with the force of a BM after delivery).... She is very moody (wich yes I know is part of the wonderful thing we call hormones) but more so than usual. I worry that she is going into depression and her husband doesn't see it.
She also has a history of depression not baby related.
Any advice???
But I am becoming increasingly worried about my sister in law.
She is an older mom; being in her mid-late 30's. Now this woman isn't a kid or baby person. She never has been ( by her own words). She never baby sat in highschool like many girls usually do, didn't have any cousins 1 brother (adopted) and never took part in my childrens early years, (even though we live fairly close in the same city). During her whole pregnancy and this past week or so after the babe has arrived she has always reffered to "the books" Now as every mom out there knows Nothing is ever completely by the book.
Anyhow. After watching her interact (or lack of it I should say) with thier baby, I am worried that she is starting to exhibit Post partum depression symptoms.
Her husband asked me to come over for a few days to help out, wich I did. What I saw was a mom of a newborn who doesn't care to play or talk or cuddle with her baby. As soon as I arrived there she immediately handed him over to me and said don't bring him back unless its feeding time. Now I love my little nephew and thoroughly enjoyed spending time with him and am happy to help out so she can rest for a while. But it seems to me that she wants nothing to do with her baby unless she has to feed him. and even then she isn't "bonding" with him, She holds him far away and holds her breast to him. no cuddleing or anything. and as soon as he's done eating she lays him down and expects him to sleep, no talking to him or anything that new moms usually do. And if he happens to stay awake for a while she keeps trying to get him to sleep, and doesn't take the time to just let him look at his surroundings or babble or anything. Now when I was a new mom, my babies didn't leave the same room as me for the first six weeks and I always cuddled and talked with them........to me this is odd behavior.
I tried to encourage different postitons for feeding to try and make her more comfortable, I have tried giving her advice on how to help him sleep longer at night and get into a routine because they are getting NO sleep. She's not sleeping, not eating well, She has been complaining of some discomforts (constipation) and she vehemently disagreed with our advice (metamucil) because its not what the BOOK says, and her doctor didn't mention it. Even though her husband and mine were sitting there and agreed that some things (metamucil) might help her feel better etc ( and yes metamucil is safe when your breatfeeding as it is all natural, and I was told to take it three times a day after I had my kids to prevent my stiches from tearing with the force of a BM after delivery).... She is very moody (wich yes I know is part of the wonderful thing we call hormones) but more so than usual. I worry that she is going into depression and her husband doesn't see it.
She also has a history of depression not baby related.
Any advice???