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Discussion in 'Show Off' started by Cale2, Nov 30, 2006.
Is it normal to feel shameful/guilty after your first sexual encounters?
Can you be a bit more specific about why you are ashamed and it might be easier for us to try and answer you?
i felt guilty once, but she woke up halfway through...giggity giggity goo.
i agree, we need more detail...do you just mean after your own first sexual experience, or the first sexual experience between you & a new partner?
With lots of partners, or partners you aren't attracted to you may feel shame. Either because promiscuity goes against your values or you feel it isnt fair to shag an ugly chick (and make her think youre interested when youre not).
It could also be because of your upbringing.
All I feel after sex is tired! :tongue:
I was only 14 at the time of my first sexual encounters, but I definitely remember feeling shame and guilt.
I was raised as a Southern Baptist, so that might have had something to do with it...
Looking back, I realize it was a lot of wasted energy. If you can, embrace who you are, and use your energy to enjoy life.
There's nothing to be ashamed of.
Yes, for some people. I wouldn't worry about it.
It's even more normal to feel shameful after my last sexual encounter. :biggrin1:
It was my own first experience. Honestly, it was great, I have no regrets, I just felt this twinge for a few hours like I'd just done something wrong. I just came out of the closet about a year ago, so I suspect that may play some factor.
Thanks for all of your advice.
Cale...you're back? Good to hear from you again. And good to hear you've come out.
Shame is normal, but that doesn't mean it's a good thing. What it signals is that you don't feel worthy of this intense adult pleasure. Why don't you deserve the joy and satisfaction which (almost) every other person on the planet takes for granted? Answer: you DO deserve it.
Good to see a familiar face around here. Yes, I'm out. Out but not really about. Heh. No bath houses or anything.
Thanks again all.