Preference for "rigidness"

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  1. benderten2001

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    Question for the ladies--

    What is your preference for "rigidness" (degree of erection hardness).

    Many of us fellas do not get (or maintain) "rock-hard" stiffness when erect due to (I suppose) the sheer physiology of having extraordinary (beyond average) lengths. Staying "rock hard" and angling upward (!) for some of us IS asking a bit much given the size factor itself. ('Even makes me wonder sometimes if more average size fellas might not have a better advantage afterall in some regards!)

    I visited another website which indicated women are better stimulated by the more average, shorter , upper angled (HARDER) erect sizes...that the more "droopy" longer lengths don't always "cut it" for a woman. I know many of us must squeeze at the base of the shaft (and otherwise compress the blood flow to stay more rigid when entering, etc.) and then from that point we "think" we'll be okay from there....our erection strength may increase (somwhat) once inside. I felt put-down (and somewhat dejected!) reading over there at the other website and so I didn't stay there too long at all! - I figured the website owner must be prejudiced! ;D

    Anyway, I'd like to hear what the women in our forum think about this? I'm fully aware of the premise of using various "techniques" dealing with size, etc. Let's just get down to the nitty gritty, here. How "hard" must we be (and stay) to meet YOUR needs, ladies? Thanks.
     
  2. Imported

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    wvalady1968: Bender, I've thought about this for a couple of days, trying to decide how to word an answer.

    From my experience, and what I've read here, the larger sizes may sometimes lack the rigidness you speak of, but that happens to lesser endowed men, too.

    The only way I can think to say this is that size can more than make up for a bit of "flexibility"!! The friction, along with other activities, will still lead to orgasm.

    But you wanted a preference, and that goes back to what I've written before. I prefer a smart, witty, funny, loving man over ANY dick.

    ;)
     
  3. jonb

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    Well, of course some smaller men have the problem. Otherwise, Pfizer would've discontinued Viagra a long time ago.
     
  4. benderten2001

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    [quote author=jonb link=board=women;num=1083260227;start=0#2 date=05/01/04 at 19:55:20]

    "Well, of course some smaller men have the problem...."

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    This is true, Jonb.

    What I was getting at though, was the notion "bigger men" aren't as effective with their downward angling and less than rock-hard rigidness. That website I visited strongly implied that idea and frankly, it ticked me off. (I still think that site is terribly prejudiced!)

    I kinda thought the ladies here could speak up about
    their take on all this. Afterall, we men can't help how we are necessarily and with a few tricks and techniques all our own, we seem to manage quite well thank you very much....whether we're pointed upward at the
    two 'o clock position and hard as a rock.... or not.
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    btw--Thanks, Allie for being the "first" to comment. ;)
     
  5. Imported

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    belcurv: my wife always said she disliked the really "boney" hard hardness, likes a little "give"
    I think she's talking more about the outer fleshiness, some thickness to it
     
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    Tender: ok ive thought about this as well.
    i guess i never gave much thought to this before, never had the problem persay on a continuing basis.
    in other words, there are times he will be softer than usual, or go soft before i am done with him ;)
    but, its nothing we have dealt with in a way that negatively affected our sex life. Suppose he couldnt get hard at all or not often-- then i would have a little trouble with that .... :-/

    but all in all, given the 'average' --its a little soft, doesnt stay rock hard the whole time scenario-- it doesnt matter to me.
    i can orgasm just with his fingers or whatnot, then why is a rock hard erection so important every second of the act?

    i really think this is something that most women dont give that much thought to, as long as the plumbing generally works, shes satisfied.

    i think its more a male ummm how to word it? a macho thing? like he thinks he is not good enough if he doesnt stay rock hard for 30 minuets every time?!
    maybe it is embarassing for some men, i think they are taught that is the model MAN for the ladies fantasy, or something...

    i would much rather he and i enjoyed ourselves than to know he is preoccupied worrying about whether it will 'stay' the whole time.......

    if it 'goes' use your imagination and find another way if it just wont work... :) but really, even half way hard will do the trick just as good..........

    :-*
    Tender
     
  7. madame_zora

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    Well, for me, size would make up for rigidness. I like it to be pretty hard when entering, but it doesn't need to stay that way. It does have to stay hard enough to stay in, I find it frustrasting when a guy goes flaccid and keeps coming out, but as long as that's not the case, a little pliable is actually much better, IMHO
     
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    As someone that generally has a difficult time getting or staying more that semi-hard, this is a topic of interest. I never really figured out what kind of rigidity is needed as my experience has been partners lost interest when I could not get 'rock' hard. Do any positions work better for guys with a rather flexible 'semi hard' erection? Anyone have suggestions about how to best deal with condoms on a 'semi hard' erection?
     
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