I have so many thoughts on this at the moment that I hope I can communicate them all properly - forgive me or rather cut me some slack if I don't. We all have preferences. What is interesting me is at what point a preference either becomes an obsession or a deal breaker and how we deal with these in our relationships and attitudes to other people. I'll lay my cards on the table. I don't have strong preferences for looks or body type. I do have preferences for sexual behaviour and attitude. I do have a strong preference for a woman to have a well toned vagina that can accomodate me. I am more attracted to a person's mind and attitudes to themselves and others than I am to their looks and body. The latter is due to my age and experience, I can't say that this was always true. If I don't like someone's personality I am not attracted to them sexually, irrespective. Therefore personality is a deal breaker for me, but I wouldn't call it an obsession. Maybe you disagree. I have been on the receiving end of obsession. Once, she would have said it was love, I considered the results of those emotions to be obsessive, and ultimately dangerous and even somewhat frightening. Two other times were with my penis. You may presume that this is everyman's dream, and you may well be right for some men. But my experiences were different. I think it is enough to say that it becomes boring. It is like there are three people in the relationship and you personally come way behind your penis. I do not wish to judge people whose preferences become obsessive (maybe I did somewhat in another thread and I apologise if i did). The point I do wish to make and discuss is the effect on your behaviours and attitudes once you are obsessive and the effects that these can have on other people. I could say more, but I will leave the floor open.