Preferences of bisexual men and women

Which best describes your bisexual preferences? (anonymous poll)

  • I have intimacy feelings and sexual urges equally for both sexes.

    Votes: 25 24.5%
  • I have more intimacy feelings for the opposite sex but stronger sexual urges for the same sex.

    Votes: 61 59.8%
  • I have more sexual urges for the opposite sex and stronger intimacy feelings for the same sex.

    Votes: 8 7.8%
  • I don't have intimate feelings for either sex but strong sexual urges for both genders.

    Votes: 5 4.9%
  • I have intimacy feelings for both genders, but don't have strong sexual urges for either gender.

    Votes: 3 2.9%

  • Total voters
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I think for me it's a matter of not having the opportunity of being around openly gay or Bi women. If there are gay or Bi women that I'm in contact with on a regular basis in RL...well let's just say they don't exactly walk around with flashing neon signs over their heads. *sigh* With men it's the exact opposite. Very much my comfort level and unleashing me in a club is kinda like dropping a piranha into a tank filled with goldfish. Possibly need to try my hand at a gay club.


Funny, I really never had any problems "finding" gay girls, and believe you me.. they don't come much pickier than I am. And I've only been to a handful of gay bars in my life!

It might be because it's never been such a big deal for me to begin with. I've known that I'm attracted to both men and women for as long as I can remember.. and even within most of my direct family no one has never made an issue of sexuality. In fact, when I was around 9 or 10 and all the kids in school would have their first "girlfriends/boyfriends", I was with a girl. Lasted up until I was around 13 or 14. I really never got the big deal about genders, I'm attracted to people not genitalia. For me, I can't imagine it being any other way. In that same line if thinking, basically everyone around me knows and it's never been an issue; people that actually know me understand and the ones that don't I try to keep away. You'd be surprised what a difference that can make! Other than that, I think your own personal attitude towards it, being comfortable with flirting and reading people (although that isn't exactly a science) helps too. :smile:



Not saying that anyone with other views is "wrong" or whatchamacallit, of course!!
 

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I think it was different for me in the sense that I found it easy to have sex with both genders but not emotional intimacy. I'm not sure if it's male sexuality or not but I was interested in genitalia quite a bit when I was a teenager, and there were a lot of boys who felt the same way, so we would play around with each other. And the same with a few girls. (It's important to remember that younger guys can have sex very quickly with another guy if need be) It wasn't until I got to be older that I realized that the sexual acting out was really about a need for emotional intimacy with both genders. It was just more complicated with guys because of our social conditioning. There's no manual that says "How to be intimate with your best buddy" when you're 15. So young guys just jerk off together and swap head. Coming to the realization that I could actually love another guy was a huge thing for me. I'm also not attracted to all women or all men obviously. I just find certain people attractive and interesting.



Funny, I really never had any problems "finding" gay girls, and believe you me.. they don't come much pickier than I am. And I've only been to a handful of gay bars in my life!

It might be because it's never been such a big deal for me to begin with. I've known that I'm attracted to both men and women for as long as I can remember.. and even within most of my direct family no one has never made an issue of sexuality. In fact, when I was around 9 or 10 and all the kids in school would have their first "girlfriends/boyfriends", I was with a girl. Lasted up until I was around 13 or 14. I really never got the big deal about genders, I'm attracted to people not genitalia. For me, I can't imagine it being any other way. In that same line if thinking, basically everyone around me knows and it's never been an issue; people that actually know me understand and the ones that don't I try to keep away. You'd be surprised what a difference that can make! Other than that, I think your own personal attitude towards it, being comfortable with flirting and reading people (although that isn't exactly a science) helps too. :smile:



Not saying that anyone with other views is "wrong" or whatchamacallit, of course!!
 
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Your missing an option. "I have sexual urges for both sexes but intimacy feelings for the opposite" Which is how i feel.


Pretty much spot on with the way I feel, except only in fantasy do I have sexual urges for the same sex. I long for the touch, smell, feel, taste, conversation with women, not with men though. I can get off to straight and gay porn, but truly, the mood I'm in depends on what I feel like beating off to. Weird thing is, I watch and beat off to gay porn, but if I close my eyes and fantasize about fucking, 99% of the time its about my dick in a woman's pussy.
 

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um, can i do strong sexual AND intimacy urges for same sex and strong intimacy urges for opposite sex? less sexual interest for opposite sex unless lightning strikes.

i didn't see that as option.

but that's my pick.

:smile:

Sorry for the error of omission. :frown1: I was being far too simplistic in my options.

Is there any way to go back at this point and edit these options in? :redface:
 

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i voted for the second option but now i've changed my mind. My Friend, lets call her Meg (im watching Family Guy), have been enjoying a happy, intensely deep and honest friendship for the last two years or so. This has been since i first met her. She saw me cracking up (got a bit depressed, but personally, thats by the by for me now) and just came into my life and sorted all the shit out and is honestly the bestest, most loyal friend ever. She's my 'newest' close friend but no one know me more than she knows me, not even my parents and i know her more than i know anyone else. I fell in love with her about six months after we met (a year ago near enough to the day) and i havnt fallen out of love with her. Were not together for a variety of what i think are stupid reasons (the fact she doesnt love me for exmple). I honestly consider her the love of my life even at this age. Its hard to put it into words.

However this post has led me to think about a crush that came before her. There was this boy (lets call him Peter) who was extremely hot (well he still his but read on and you'll see why i dont think so anymore) and i could of banged him into oblivion (i dont have this feeling with her all though i would fuck her obviously). Eventually this led into a 'i love you' crush and i hurt so much when all of a sudden he just stopped talking to me. We werent together but all of a sudden there was no texts, calls, meet up, he stopped popping round my house for seemingly no apparent reason.

There is another boy (Bitch Stewie) who is similar to the Meg in my life at the moment so i wont bother going into that again. However i will say that again i would happily bang him into oblivion to. Eight times. In a day.

so i suppose i should say 'strong intimate feeling for both genders but stronger sexual desires for same gender'
 
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. . . I really never got the big deal about genders, I'm attracted to people not genitalia. For me, I can't imagine it being any other way. . . . .

That's how I feel. It just so happens that over the course of my life, I've been more attracted to people with female genitalia and the majority of my emotional connections have been with women. But, I am definitely attracted to male genitalia as well and could definitely have emotional connections with men - I just really haven't.

I don't really understand people who say "I love to suck dick, but I could never have an emotional relationship with a dude or kiss a dude." The funny thing is, I like looking at dicks, but don't love sucking dicks (and have never fucked/been fucked by a dude - and don't have any burning desire to), but, I could definitely have an emotional relationship with a guy (who I would definitely kiss), even if I'm not all that wild about sex with a guy.
 

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No but he looses a few feathers :biggrin1:

Yeah, I hear ya baby! You sure seem to enjoy my chicken nuggets in the process! :tongue: :naughty:
I might have been squirming a lot, but that's just poultry in motion.:dance: