Pregnancy and sex drive

DrJekkyl

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my wife is 19 weeks pregnant with our first. her first trimester was pretty easy compared to the horror stories we heard, but i was looking forward to the second trimester because everyone had said the sex drive really kicks up. well, hasn't exactly been the case and she's still mostly tired and achy.

first, i realize everybody's pregnancy is different, but is it one of those things where if it hasn't kicked in by now then it might not at all?

second, her being pregnant is so hot to me; i just want to jump her bones. so how can i initiate getting busy without coming off as selfish? is it bad to ask for some foreplay if she's not down for sex? i'm just looking for a reality check before i put any of this is action.

thanks!
(i know you're all disappointed this isn't a question about penis size.)
 

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Have you told her you're finding her hot and want to jump her bones? lol.

She might be up for it, but you need to make some moves on her and make her feel sexy. If she tired and achy, run her a bath and pamper her.
 

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There's nothing you can do to make your pregnant partner want sex if she doesn't want it. I know. During pregnancy we are irrational, emotional, crazy and selfish. We can't help it. If you were carrying around a baby with all the extra hormones that go with it you would understand. Do not push her! Don't suggest it, don't be huffy or try and bring it up. Trust me, when she wants sex, she'll let yopu know. And to give you alittle hope, i didn't want sex til my last trimester. And then i couldn't get enough of it. Let her decide when she wants you otherwise you're just being selfish.
 

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She might not ever regain her sex drive, who knows. I never really lost mine while I was pregnant, but it never increased either. I just felt "normal", sexually, through my entire pregnancy.

Like another person said, have you just tried telling her how sexy she is to you and how badly you want her? Sometimes the lack of sex drive in pregnant women is just related to them feeling unattractive.