Guys, those of you that have impregnated your wife/girlfriend/lover/etc., what are your thoughts regarding you being able to create life? Do you feel any different? How have you changed?
Did you have sex with her while she was pregnant? How was it different?
I'm a little embarrassed to admit that impregnating my wife and becoming a parent didn't give me any earth-shattering experiences, nor dramatic revelations. Getting married probably had greater, and more significant, effects on my lifestyle and personal philosophy.
In fact, I was somewhat ambivalent the first time we got pregnant. Even so, we made all kinds of plans and preparations. There was plenty of sex. (My wife is one of the women - I think it's around 1/3 to 1/2 of them - who get especially horny when they are pregnant.) Then our daughter died of birth complications after living about one day. In the aftermath of that I realized that I really DID want children! We went on to have three others, who are now responsible and productive adults with families of their own.
I was generally fascinated by the whole notion that a new person could be growing and maturing inside my wife. From around month 5 or 6, often when we were coming down after making love, I would put my ear against her belly and move until I could hear the baby's heartbeat. Sometimes I would talk to the baby.
Yes, we had sex while she was pregnant! I think pregnant women in general are sexually desirable. Anybody who thinks "pregnant" is the same as "fat" has not looked closely! My wife became more attractive to me as her body became fuller, curvier, and hornier. The fact that it was our kid growing inside her probably affected my desire for her but that wasn't the only explanation. In the late stages we used "spoons" position most of the time, often drifting off to sleep still coupled and cuddling. For each of our four pregnancies we had sex within 24 hours of her starting labor. In fact, for one baby my wife said that her orgasm contractions just naturally morphed into labor contractions.
