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  1. cockamania

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    Ladies I was hoping you could help me. My wife is three monthes pregnant. She has a low sexual appetite generally like once a week is ok for her. I would like everyday. Since being preggo she has not even been interested in sex. there have been two times where she really liked being fingered but hated having me in her. I want to keep a great sex life.

    Is there anything I can do to make her happy and basically return the spark and have great sex again? Also can you ladies tell me what I guy does that drives you over the edge?
     
  2. B_Jennuine73

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    My advice is...be patient. It's hard to feel sexy, think of sex, when there is a child growing in your uterus. It is overwhelming and hard to think of anything but wondering if she will be a good parent, will the child be healthy etc.

    The best thing you can do is get REAL familiar with your hand and be patient.

    Give her massages on a regular basis and maybe she will get horny from that and you might get lucky. Or not.

    What drives me over the edge? Dirty talking...right in my ear..whispering what he's going to do, how he feels, what he wants me to do to him...
     
  3. ManlyBanisters

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    Pregnancy effects different women in different ways - most of the time I spent pregnant I was incredibly horny, but my then other-half was paranoid and would rarely oblige. Not much I could do except accept that and deal with my sex drive alone. You are in the same boat - if she doesn't want to trying to get her to will make things worse not better.

    Month 3 in to 4 can see a lot of changes hormonally - her sex drive might change. If it doesn't be patient, let her know you want to but that you want her to want to aswell. Maybe try being intimate in non-sexual ways - back rubs, foot rubs, etc. and see if anything comes of that - if it does great, if not, go wank in the shower (or wherever). And anyway - once a week is better that nothing at all.
     
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    Yeah, women's experiences with sex and pregnancy really vary depending on the women. I was extremely horny and unfortunately was single and on my own so only had myself to oblige. :( I've had friends tell me some pregnancies were like mine and the same friend say the next pregnancy they did not want it at all. Try to be as patient as you can. The others had good advice about what to do - backrubs, be there for her as much as you can, and help yourself when need be.
     
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    be really patient for another month u might get lucky and it might cum back to her. right now shes just tryin to figure out what is goin on and getting use to the changes. if it doesnt change dont be pushy cause when u have a big belly u just kinda get uncomfortable.

    oh and u dont have to do anything but be there to piss us off when we are pregnent. some people are very happy pregnent people and some arent. my childs father was not there most of the time i was pregnet it was great but thats just my opinion, mostly because im a very independent person and he wouldnt leave me alone.

    just keep reminding her how wonderful she looks and how much u luv her it will pass dont worry about it. Oh and congradulations!!!!
     
  6. snoozan

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    Well, if I read this correctly, you married someone who was somewhat sexually incompatible with you in terms of frequency, and now that it's gotten a little worse, it's become a problem. I'm sure you knew going in what her sex drive was, and you've dealt with that so far. This is just a temporary thing while she's pregnant (hopefully) and the best thing you can do is, as everyone else said, be patient. Don't try to force or cajole her into sex-- that always backfires. Let her come to you for sex. Your job is to give her massages, treat her well, and pamper her even more than usual now that she's carrying your child. Being pregnant can be very hard. If she wants sex, she'll let you know. If you let it become an issue you're guaranteed not to get very much of it.

    There's no reason to think her sex drive won't change back. It may not be while she's pregnant, and it may not be right after she's had the baby. You may have to wait until her hormones get more normal and her energy level returns to normal, and that could take a few months after the child is born. You just have to be patient.

    And get your hands on some good porn. Maybe a Fleshlight, too.
     
  7. Hippie Hollow Girl

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    Good advice here......My memory is kind of hazy as to whether I remember not wanting to have sex as often when I was pregnant.......I do remember that it was different......Totally different for me than when I wasn't pregnant. Different sensations.......I remember being paranoid that I was going to hurt the baby......

    But what worked for me was trying different sexual positions when I was pregnant.......I liked the woman on top.....but my ass was facing my husband......and I liked watching the Tommy Lee and Pamela Anderson home movie video while we were having sex. I remember hitting the rewind button over and over on certain parts.

    Anyways find whatever will get your wife's engines roaring and use it.

    Whatever floats people's boats.
     
  8. the.dude

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    my wife is currenlty 5 months pregnant and we have had spouts where she wants it all the time and then times when she dunt want it for weeks....her hormones are terrible...we have been together 4 years and we have nearly split twice since thie beggining of this pregnancy!!

    At the minute i dont think her hormones that are putting her off sex with me....she finds non pregnancy related problems to why she carnt do it at the minute...think i have had a different one everyday for the past 3 weeks now!!!
     
  9. D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah

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    with pregnancy hormones by tomorrow she could be the one hassling you for more sex. It really is just a lottery that you can do nothing about
     
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    Try the Pam and Tommy Lee Hardcore & Uncensored home video. Even if your wife doesn't like to watch porn.....then you might like it. (Seems like there is something everyone likes to watch on those videos. Be it male or female)

    I just remember there being times when I was pregnant that I didn't feel like having sex. I was miserable and uncomfortable.....scared that it would hurt the baby. And then I remember my husband bringing this video home from the porn store.....and I was curious about it. I just wanted to watch it and see if there was anything good on it. Oh my goodness.....all I can say is that it got my motor running when I didn't think it was going to be possible.

    And one other thing I will share. I have a female housewife friend (that was molested as a child and now she claims that she doesn't care a thing for sex with her husband.....because he is begining to look like the person that abused her......) Anyways, my friend confided in me that she is a little bi curious and she kind of had a crush on Pamela Anderson. So I let her borrow the Pam and Tommy Lee video. It jump started her motor too. I thought I wasn't going to get my video back. I told them to go get their own copy. I am pretty sure her husband did.

    Anyways just thought I would share and give my testimonial on that particular video.
     
  11. Phil Ayesho

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    Some women lose interest in sex when pregnant.

    Be prepared, cause many of these women do not regain interest in sex until after the baby is finished nursing.

    For each of my Sons.... it meant a year without sex.

    If you love her, respect that that is her response to being pregnant, do not stray, and,

    literally

    Get a grip on yourself.
     
  12. dolfette

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    nothing you can say or do will change the hormonal roller coaster she's on.
    it's not her fault she can't get horny.
    it's not yuor fault she can't get horny.

    and you can't predict it.
    she might be horny tomorrow!
    or she might not feel horny for a year after she gives birth.

    cuddle her lotswithout adding pressure.
    if you pressure her now then she'll resent you and be put off sex with you for longer.
    {just ask my ex about that one!}

    wank!

    BBC NEWS | Health | Masturbation 'cuts cancer risk'

    it stops you getting cancer :smile:
     
  13. jhm

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    i was lucky, during first two trimesters my wife was way horny and was an orgasm machine... all i had to do was drop my pants and she was coming. but third trimester her sex drive began to wane. she used to masturbate me though, perhaps your wife is open to that?
     
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