I will set the scene: A girl is pregnant. She is not "with" the baby daddy and neither her nor the baby daddy intend to get back together or really have much contact (with each other). The girl wants to have sex with other guys. Baby daddy thinks that that is dirty or...immoral. Having sex with men while you are pregnant with another man's baby. Is baby daddy wrong to think that? What do y'all think?
baby daddy is a prat. as long as a rubber is in place to prevent infections, there's nothing wrong with her wanting a sex life. there's a cervix and a plug between cock & baby. will he be staying celibate for the next nine months?
Baby daddy will be courting other women but baby daddy does not have a baby growing inside him. Baby daddy thinks its a bit risky, perhaps even dangerous for her to have sex with other men. And she says she will use condoms but obviously she doesn't use them all the time or else baby daddy would not be a baby daddy.
she has an incentive to use condoms now. she has a baby to protect. he has the right to be concerned. he has the right to urge her to be careful. he has a right to give her patronising leaflets. he has no right at all to stop her having sex. if he didn't think she was good enough to carry his baby then why was he poking his cock in there without a rubber? obviously he's as crap as she is if we judge as past performance. he's as dirty as she is.
Baby daddy is wrong. Baby Daddy and Baby Mamma heading for fall-out of epic proportions if he persists. Baby Daddy should listen to Dolfette (who completely nailed it):
Okay but if you were in this situation would you still have sex with other men? Do you know women who were in this situation? That is what baby daddy wanted to know.
not random hook ups, because i never have. but if i met a guy i liked, or found a fuck buddy. why the hell wouldn't i?
If I were the lady, and my regular partners still wanted to, I would go for it. If not, and I had the energy (and desire) to find new partners, I would go for that. If the baby daddy couldn't let me decide what I would do with my body (provided I wasn't completely abusing it) I would probably not speak to him too often. Other father figures can be had if my passive avoidance of him causes absenteeism on his part.
It's not a case of not letting her decide. Baby daddy just thinks that deciding to have sex, possibly with multiple partners, whilst you are knowingly pregnant is a bad decision.
causing the mother stress isn't good for the baby. every time he makes her feel cheap or argues, he bathes that baby in stress hormones. i'm not saying nobody should ever argue. i'm just saying it's worth thinking twice.
Baby daddy, sex during pregnancy is actually good for both mother and baby until very near birth when the baby's head drops lower. She will probably not be 'in the mood' by then but waddling around with swollen ankles and jaundice and possibly getting diabetic, wishing the damn thing were born already. Can it until later to fuss at her then.
if its the same girl I seem to remember her not caring for condoms, not wanting to be with baby daddy, and not even knowing if it was his or not. Not sure I see her suddenly insisting on condoms in her sexual encounters. Hopefully she does for the babys sake.
This will irk some people. Baby daddy has no rights at all. He wants rights, make it a family. Her body is her own; her sexuality is her own. She needs to be responsible with her own code of morality, not his. She has expenses, appointments, aching breasts, stretch marks, discomfort, etc. If he doesn't want to be part of the solution, then he is just another problem. One I hope she just ignores.
