Premature ejaculation

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  1. D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah

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    Ive only had one guy cum to quickly, which was basically on penetration. I was rather shocked and disappointed and could see the embarrassment in his eyes at the situation. Being the first (and only) time it had happened it wasn't sure how to deal with it but ended up convincing him it was fine and we would just cuddle and try again later.

    So my question is

    Men - Has it happened to you and is it as embarrassing as it is made out to be?
    Ladies - How do you handle the situation. Do you tell him if your disappointed?

    Also - How common is it, considering ive only had it happen to me once in 10 years?



    Either sex feel free to answer either question
     
  2. SpoiledPrincess

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    I've had it happen to me a few times with guys I'd probably got too worked up for their own good, it never bothers me, the second time around they'll take longer (I hope) and I just try to take it as a compliment. I try to put him at his ease about it as I know for him it must be much much worse than it is for me.
     
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    I'm in kind of a wierd situation myself. I've had sex with 3 women/girls in my life. The first two girls gave me no problems/embarassment of any kind. I think the quickest I ever came was probably after 15 minutes, and that was when I lost my virginity. Since then I've had sex hundreds of times with my current girlfriend who I am absolutely crazy about, and with her I'm lucky if I don't come within 30 seconds.

    What's the deal?
     
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    You love her, she arouses you more than the other girls therefore you cum more quickly?
     
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    Well yea, but I mean...that's ridiculous. The powers of the vag are strong in her.
     
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    You are young but you will learn :)
     
  7. D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah

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    Your extremly aroused by your gf. Either jack off beforehand or get her to give you oral and let you cum. When you feel your 'ready' again then the sex should last longer as you've gotten rid of the initial build up sexual tension/energy
     
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    There have been many occasions when I felt I had cum too quickly but premature ejaculation is when either you or your partner feels that orgasm is happening too soon too frequently.

    Studies and surveys have shown that around 30% of men experience the condition at some time in their life. It’s almost impossible to get an accurate definition of premature ejaculation: what some couples consider a satisfactory length of intercourse would be very inadequate for others. The average lasting time of men with premature ejaculation is about 2 minutes compared to 'normal' men who lasted between 5-7 minutes. However, setting a timescale for ejaculation is meaningless as it should be down to the individual, and his partner, to decide whether or not he is happy with the time it takes for him to ejaculate.

    In my case I was lasting only five minutes from penetration to ejaculation but would like to have lasted at least ten minutes. My wife wasn’t achieving orgasm and this added to my anxiety which led in turn to cumming too quickly. My wife was brilliant, she reassured me, put me at my ease, it wasn’t an issue for her; she just got me hard again, popped me inside her and took control. I have always lasted longer the second time. It is amazing what a loving partner can achieve.
     
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    I have never experienced premature ejaculation, but I was "trained" to cum as quickly as I could during intercourse with my wife because she experienced pain from penetration, so we rarely tried penetration and when we did try I had to get on, get in and get off as quickly as possible. But even then I never came during the first penetration.
     
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    right boys it happend to me 1nce i dont know why bt i was still at school so it was a fukin big deal i want 4 about 4 minutes but thats not going to score points
    so i made sure it was never to happen to me again the best advice i can give is masturbate earlyer in the day and relax ure ass wen ure haveing sex its hard but if u can do it belive me it works
     
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    it has happend to me a few times, i find if i havent had sex or wanked in a while i will feel the urge to cum in under 5 minutes. If i have i can last about 20.

    the quickest ive came was with a long distance gf, we had not seen each other in a few weeks, and got right down to business when we did. i lasted about 30 seconds, it was very embarassing.
     
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    sex is basically a race to the finish line, and i never lose.
     
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    It has happened to me, only not me. What I mean is it happened to someone I was fucking one time. It wasn't a "big deal" to me, although in all honesty I do consider it "the worst sex I've ever had". I do consider it somewhat of a compliment though, lol

    As for happening to me in the sense that I came to fast, nope not really. In all honesty I'm a tad ADD and sometimes I get bored if it's taking too long so I purposely try to get us both off. But that isn't particularly often either, and it's probably not a good sign if I'm bored to begin with. :tongue:

    In general it shouldn't matter at all, IMO. If both people are into it and having fun one person's climax - hell both people's climaxes - needn't trigger an end to the activities.

    -MGB
     
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    I was afflicted with premature ejaculation when I was younger. In fact, a touch could sometimes set me off. But nature has its way of righting things, so I was blessed with quick recovery. Until my mid-30s it was not unusual for me to have three ejaculations in a single session.

    Now I last a bit too long, if there is such a thing. I do tend to max out my invitation to penetration. And forget ever cumming if Viagra is involved. I only tried it a few times, but then the penetration was minimal; I was too hard and it didn't really feel like my penis, so my usual slow and graceful nature was supplanted by primitive grunts and pokes.

    She told me to warn her next time when I plan to take Viagra so she can get her wrist in shape. I've got eight pills left that I guess I'll be saving for much, much later.
     
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    It happened to me once, when i deflowered a guy. He came after I rode him maybe five strokes. But how could I be mad? He was so happy and all because of me. So I worked on him with my mouth, got him hard again, and taught him how to fuck.
     
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    I take it as a compliment too... I guess it might be different if you're in a long term thing with someone and it happens immediately Every Single Time.

    Generally I'd lick things clean and cuddle him till he recovers and then get him to finger me if he's not up to a second try :eek:)
     
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    Every time I have sex I have to hold back so that I dont "arrive" too quickly. If I get really cranking I am done in about a minute. It sucks. I have to cum a few times to really be able to pound away without cumming every few minutes. I find ways to entertain whomever I am with so that the fun isnt over too soon.

    Premature ejaculation - MayoClinic.com

    Good read here if anyone is interested.

    Broken:biggrin1:
     
  18. Jason

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    Guys boast about their endurance as much as about their cock size. The average cock is under 6". The average time from penetration to orgasm is a lot quicker than most guys let on, and boasts of epic duration on this board and elsewhere (not particulary this thread) don't actually help anyones self esteem.

    Guys can learn some control, up to a point, but it takes practice, and your average 18 year old won't have the practice. Or it may just be that the guy has wanked off shortly before so is going slower. But the main causes of slow ejaculation are:
    1) advancing age
    2) ill health, drunk, drugged

    A fit, healthy guy cums quick, gets hard again quick, and goes again. That's what's natural. The idea of the stud who manages an hour of foreplay and half an hour of penetrative sex without cumming might mean the man is really practiced (porn star?) or might mean he's old and/or ill.

    Guys should boast about how quick we cum, not how slow.
     
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    No wonder I'm lasting longer as I get older! :cool:
     
  20. Jason

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    Maybe your girl should practice getting to orgasm quicker, or letting you get to penetration without so much foreplay. There's a whole sex therapy industry based around frenulum crush and training the man to give his girl more pleasure, and it keeps lots of therapists in work. Sure PE exists, but a lot of supposed PE is daft conditioning by social ideals which have little to do with biology.
     
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