premature ejaculation

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  1. penandpencil

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    hi all,
    I have been suffering from pe alllll my life. it doesn't get any better over time or if i masturbate before sex or what not. Once I am horny, I just cum - sometimes with just 3 or 4 strokes. I have had sex before (with girls) and with all the foreplay, etc. once I was ready to penetrate, I would just come at the entrance of the vagina :redface:
    I came to the conclussion that I am gay, and I never top for that reason.... I have tried to hold it for 2 or 3 minutes when I am ready to shoot, etc. etc. etc. Any good ideas or suggestions? Sex therapy? Numbing creams - I actually haven't tried this yet... hmmm something to consider.
    Thanks all!
     
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    Start with WebMD.com, they have a decent knowledge base.
     
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    i have checked webmd and nothing....
     
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    Does masturbating frequently or just before a possible sexual encounter help at all?

    There are cremes and such which desensitize the penis. Try them and see what happens. It's better to light a candle than curse the darkness.
     
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    Dont worry man, I've never been mature, and I ejaculate all the time! So technically they've all been premature.

    -Z
     
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    jason,
    no, masturbating doesn't help at all... i can masturbate 4, 5 or 6 times per day and still (i know, i am always horny :\ and still it doesn't help at all... I wish it did
    I might try one of those creams
     
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    i have even considered circumcision to desentize my penis,,, but seriously, I don't wanna do it.
     
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    Did you try the start and stop approach? JO until you feel close to cumming then stop. Let it subside and do it again. Try for four times before you let it go. It takes a while, but your body should start adjusting better.
     
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    kimahri,
    I have tried stopping and going again twice... it helped a litte bit. I tried this technique 4 or 5 times, but it didn't seem to work that well for me....
    btw, i should correct myself: it gets better if I masturbate previously, but the difference is not much difference.
     
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    a small does of something like paxil and you wouldn't have the problem at all. could talk to your doc about it.

    ...comes from personal experience. i was on that stuff for a while and my problem became NOT ejaculating; however, i was on a very high dose of the stuff
     
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    Hey what up man. I guess you could say I am a quick cummer too. I make do though. It's kinda fun playing the tease game for me, keeping me right on the edge. There are tons of dudes that are minute men... we're just extra horny. :) Welcome to the club.
     
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    surftiger, yes, it is fun many times, but sometimes it is just annoying, don't you think?
    i will talk to my dr about paxil - thnaks for the input.
     
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    I guess I'm in the same boat. When I put it in the vagina I blow right away, I think I may be overly excited or something. But when I get a blowjob I feel the sensation of getting ready to cum within atleast 40seconds - 2minutes.

    It sucks.
     
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    frost,
    i last longer with a bj than with intercourse....
    it sucks hardcore!
     
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    Depends on the BJ for me, if they know what their doing, I can get there pretty fast. ;)

    Hey Frost, fellow Wash DC guy here.
     
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    nice to meet you :)

    So does anybody know any exercises to make you not cum so quick?
     
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    see an M.D.
     
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    Age also has a dynamic impact on this. As you grow older your body will often slow down.
     
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