Hi, I know this is a gritty subject. When I top I have found to my dismay, that there is real ignorance about arriving in condition for deep and rigorous penetration. It becomes even worse when newbies ask to be fisted. (It helps that I have small hands)! Following is my "Bottoming Primer", I appreciate any inciteful comments. Please note that I expect riders to be fully cleaned out as I will definately open you up all the way. Finding brown on my dick is my least favorite experience. It's the same as guys that want to get fisted* but are clueless as to appropriate clean-out. My "gold star" method is to start about 6 hours prior to play: Start by inserting a glycerine suppository. They may work in 20 minutes or in two hours. Keep it in untill you are ready to explode. After ejection, use a vaginal douche bulb, but without the nozzel**. Use only warm water (not hot). The flushing through should take 4 or 5 goes (try to get in as much water as possible), including double or tripple inserts before release. When the water runs clear you should be done. Prior to the very last flush, rub soapy fingers all around and inside your anus; flush, then pat dry with a clean wash-cloth. (toilet paper is acidic and leves little pieces behind which can actually rub raw). You will have several hours, during which time the normal protective mucose returns, and any sudden urges can be dealt with. The very best lube for getting fucked is a small amout of Wet Platinum - Silicone Lube. For fucking stay away from KY, and all water & oil based lubes. Oil degrades condoms and the water based stuff damages the cells lining the anus. Water based lubes can increase the chance of catching HIV and lesser STDs. If you are considering bareback, start the cleanout 7-8 hours before your date, don't eat any heavy stuff at least 8 hours before fucking. Only use silicone based lubes. (better trust the top as well) The really neat thing about this clean-out regime is with very light application of the lube, the sensation in your ass is almost like dry fucking. It is very silky for both top and bottom. Enjoy! * Fisting/fucking are better left to separate occasions as fisting lube is generally incompatible with fucking. I've found the best fisting lube to be generic brand vegetable shortening. Crisco stinks! ** the nozzles provided with douche kits are long enough to hurt your ass. One big issue is the little holes on the sides of the nozzel are sharp enough to scratch the lining of the anus and draw blood. Not a good idea.