I hooked up with a guy several years ago and met him again a few years after that initial meeting as travels allowed. I was coming back through his city and reached out to him prior and I thought he wanted to meet up again. When I arrived in town, I made a call and he said that he had a work emergency and that he would call me back. After several attempts on my end, I never heard anything more. I had to leave town, even though prior to arriving, he seemed like he was glad I was coming through.
When I arrived home, I received an email and he apologized and said that he had been drugged and sexually abused a number of weeks before and now found out he was positive. He had found out just prior to my arrival in town and that was why he did not meet me because he was dealing with that. I was very understanding and supportive as I could be not being his his city. I checked on him often and tried to encourage him.
I was searching a website prior to traveling to a nearby city to where he lives about a year later and I came across his profile. I did some researching since it did not mention his diagnosis and was pretty specific about his sexual preferences and everything I could read indicated that the story is not true that he told me. I really believe he is still negative (which I am 1000% glad about) because of what a mutual friend then said who would know.
I did feel even at the time that it was an extreme story as to how it happened. I am an adult and I would have been fine with "I just did not want to see you." I would never make up that about me to avoid seeing someone.
Do you think that is an OK way to sever ties quickly by making up something like that to a "acquaintance with benefits?"
When I arrived home, I received an email and he apologized and said that he had been drugged and sexually abused a number of weeks before and now found out he was positive. He had found out just prior to my arrival in town and that was why he did not meet me because he was dealing with that. I was very understanding and supportive as I could be not being his his city. I checked on him often and tried to encourage him.
I was searching a website prior to traveling to a nearby city to where he lives about a year later and I came across his profile. I did some researching since it did not mention his diagnosis and was pretty specific about his sexual preferences and everything I could read indicated that the story is not true that he told me. I really believe he is still negative (which I am 1000% glad about) because of what a mutual friend then said who would know.
I did feel even at the time that it was an extreme story as to how it happened. I am an adult and I would have been fine with "I just did not want to see you." I would never make up that about me to avoid seeing someone.
Do you think that is an OK way to sever ties quickly by making up something like that to a "acquaintance with benefits?"