Hear, hear!
As a "hot" mom raising a "hot" daughter, one of the top things I try to teach her is KINDNESS to males. Decent manners are just not taught anymore. (My daughter also just finished high school -- 2 yrs early -- and although she wants to spend a few years being a model, her focus is on the sciences and whether to be a marine biologist or a doctor.)
Oh, its just not your daughter, hotmilf, its the environment that she's in. For starters, there's no proper courtship ritual like there used to be... where boy ask girls out.. or girls ask boys out for that matter. kids just "hang out". while we can go back on forth on "roles", at least when there were roles, i.e.l boys asking girls out, things were a little clearer for kids, however at the cost of a woman's independence.
Lately, and this is a stretch, is the prolifration of gang culture into the mainstream. i.e. the notion of pimps and ho's becoming part of the our culture and lexicon.. where one obtains "bling" to attract more "ho's". I mean lets face it: hip hop is here to stay, and rarely do I hear them putting women up on a pedastal. I have to say that its the gaudiest if not nastiest form of pop entertainment to date. And lest face it, young girls and boys looking for "roles" latch on to this. Because its everywhere.
I mean, look at the recent film "transformers", where the girl is combatant towards the kid throughout the whole first half of the movie... How does he win her over? When he convinces her to sit on his lap because its the only seat with a seatbelt. She comments on how "smooth" he was with his game. Again, that whole pimp/ho mentality.. not charm, not wit.. just trying to out fox her ice shield...
incidientlly.. the one to point this out was NOT me, but the girl I took to the movie... I had to recalibrate my thinking when she pointed out why she couldn't understand why the girl in the movie was such a bitch towards a boy that like who went out of his way to impress her. Literally it took another woman.. a really nice gem of a woman I might at, to point out how much of a bitch this girl was acting on the screen. I hadn't noticed at first, because thats how MOST attractive women acted in my experience.
I remember seeing this special on HBO showing these pimps just sitting there talking up the ladies non-stop.. literally, shamelessly regurgitating emply compliments and promises.. At first the girls view the guy with disdain. But then, because they are attention whores, their frost was eroded not by this pimp's charm, but by his persistance. Like that dude that pleaded with LEE-M to blow him, even lying about his cock size... yup and she fell for it. meanwhile most normal guys would have just gone home... play warcraft or surf porn, because women in the real world are just so mean.. or at least difficult to engage in a routine enough conversation.
Hence how this has proliferated into mainstream culture where in this blockbuster film geared toward teenagers, transformers, the girl is just this impenetrable ice and the kid has to resort to "fooling" her into sharing a seat. I recall in the eighties, that boys would do stunts on skateborads, write women poetry, heck even flowers... but thats viewed as "weak" or "gay"... Today you gotta be a playa...
So hotmilf, good luck with your daughter.. its looks like the Gods were kidn to her in both beauty and brains, lets hoop your wisdom allows her to have a personality that makes her beauty approachable by boys and men who are more than the sum of their parts...
