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Well, you seem like someone he would be best to avoid...
And, like others have said, this is just SPH. Moving on...
And, like others have said, this is just SPH. Moving on...
I don't think what I've described as an ideal sexual partner (for me) are in any way unreasonable. In fact I have either been with OR observed guys who fit that description precisely. They just don't want sex with me more than once, or more frequently, not at all. I guess thats the only part of the equation thats missing.
Of course not. Whats the point in that. Even if I can't hold a guys attention for more than one sex session at least I get it that one time, then they can move onto someone who does satisfy them in bed and I can move on to the next oncer.
I wouldn't go so far as a few recent posters, but. . .
You've complained (whined?) that everybody heads out the door as soon as you drop pants. Maybe the reason for that is you.
I have no idea whether you have a rotten personality, as another poster suggested. But I do know that you're down on yourself. You say it's because of the size of your dick. No matter. No one likes a negative person. It may not be expressed, but it can be felt a mile away. As soon as I pick up the "I'm-a-loser" vibes, I avoid that person like the plague. I only want to be around positive people who like themselves.
As I've said before, I too am hung like a chipmunk. But I've been pretty popular with women. I've found the love of my life. I like to say it's my looks and personality, but I suspect it's because they like being around me and pick up that I truly like myself. My mother used to say, "No one'll love you if you don't love yourself first."
You'll never land that dream guy of yours until you give him a reason to like you. And, also, maybe if you can stop obsessing about yourself and start thinking of others.
I was gonna tell you all that, but I don't think I will. No, I'll keep my mouth shut. I won't say another word. I don't think any of what we say matters. You're determined to be unhappy, and who are we to stand in your way? Wallow in self pity. But you'll wallow alone.
You've complained (whined?) that everybody heads out the door as soon as you drop pants. Maybe the reason for that is you.
I have no idea whether you have a rotten personality, as another poster suggested. But I do know that you're down on yourself. You say it's because of the size of your dick. No matter. No one likes a negative person. It may not be expressed, but it can be felt a mile away. As soon as I pick up the "I'm-a-loser" vibes, I avoid that person like the plague. I only want to be around positive people who like themselves.
As I've said before, I too am hung like a chipmunk. But I've been pretty popular with women. I've found the love of my life. I like to say it's my looks and personality, but I suspect it's because they like being around me and pick up that I truly like myself. My mother used to say, "No one'll love you if you don't love yourself first."
You'll never land that dream guy of yours until you give him a reason to like you. And, also, maybe if you can stop obsessing about yourself and start thinking of others.
I was gonna tell you all that, but I don't think I will. No, I'll keep my mouth shut. I won't say another word. I don't think any of what we say matters. You're determined to be unhappy, and who are we to stand in your way? Wallow in self pity. But you'll wallow alone.
A moment ago you agreed that LilJock's spot on assessment was "fair." You've basically acknowledged that you're hopelessly mired in your need to put yourself down and falsely obsess that your penis size is the cause of all of your difficulties. Now, despite acknowledging that he's right, you're still asking people to respond to you. It's unfair for you to continue to try to use people to satisfy your humiliation fetish. You are positively wrong that your penis is to blame for your problems, so accept that or don't, but stop treating people like they're props for your fetish.
Thanks. It's kind of sad. I was in chat once and he was in there. There was a guy who was telling the OP how hot he was in his photos. So here was a guy, on a penis site, who was full on lusting over him penis and all, and the OP couldn't take it, he kept obsessing about his penis size and insisting the guy wouldn't say those things if they were face to face. The guy eventually gave up, and then commented to me "It's so disappointing to see a guy that hot act that... not hot."
I think his obsession with the penis sizes of other men is the cause of all his difficulties. For one who would like another man to accept the size of his penis, he certainly has some stringent requirements for the penis size of his partner.
Indeed. I was in a relationship with a man who is the same size as the original poster but does not have the advantages of his looks or physique and none of those things were an issue to me.
I think I've once or twice become more interested if someone has a large dick, and less interested if he had a small one. But it's not an overriding factor either way... If someone is ugly I have to be in a near depressive state to have sex with them, or feeling exceptionally noble... a big dick cannot override that ... And if someone is very handsome / fit some desire is there, whatever the geometry of their genitalia...
On the Fahrbot/sph issue. I am not sure his real issue is so much his own size... I think it could be to do with seeking sexual partners ( and/or ) lovers in the 7-9 inches range.
My understanding is that studies have shown that people tend to get into longer term relationships with people who are roughly as good looking as they are, measured by independently provided ratings... Seems to make sense; it's not absolute rules, just a tendency.
Fahrbot hankering to meet an 8 inch guy who is attracted to his own <5 in is like wanting to meet an exceptionally good looking blind man.
It's not impossible - just not very likely, or easy. I think we could all just leave that alone ... It's sad for Fahrbot, but he seems unmoveable on this ... It's not like the rest of LPSG really have an obligation to "fix" it for him ... And I suspect that's impossible...
On the Fahrbot/sph issue. I am not sure his real issue is so much his own size... I think it could be to do with seeking sexual partners ( and/or ) lovers in the 7-9 inches range.
My understanding is that studies have shown that people tend to get into longer term relationships with people who are roughly as good looking as they are, measured by independently provided ratings... Seems to make sense; it's not absolute rules, just a tendency.
Fahrbot hankering to meet an 8 inch guy who is attracted to his own <5 in is like wanting to meet an exceptionally good looking blind man.
It's not impossible - just not very likely, or easy. I think we could all just leave that alone ... It's sad for Fahrbot, but he seems unmoveable on this ... It's not like the rest of LPSG really have an obligation to "fix" it for him ... And I suspect that's impossible...
No it isn't. That would only be true if attractiveness were a ranking system based on penis size. Which, even in the gay community, it's not. I agree with the rest of what you said. He has some sad issues, both in how he views himself and his singular obsession with the size of others' penises. My guess is it's just a low self-image and it's all about pushing people away, but I agree it doesn't matter and it's not going to change here.
Look. I know that. You know that. But Fahrbot is demonstrably resistant to that thought as an organising principle for his approaches to sex - so I had to try a different tack...
You could look up 'Reductio Ad Absurdum' ... :wink:
I don't see it that way at all and I have no desire to use people for any perceived fetish that you may believe I have. I appreciate your going to the effort to try to put me right but calling me out for being unfair is unfair.
So just because I have a small penis I can't desire something better than my own? That doesn't really seem right does it? I mean, doesn't everyone want someone more attractive than themselves? Isn't that the same thing?
So now I'm being excluded for wanting a guy with a large cock because I'm small?
There ARE very attractive people who are partnered with those who could objectively be described as average, or even ugly.
And here I was thinking, as I keep getting told, its not all about cock size and it could just be that the ugly guy could have a really great personality.
I don't see any difference here.
I keep being told one thing at one time, and when its convenient for the sake of argument the opposite thing at another time. Is it any wonder then that I am finding it difficult to be swayed into believing that cock size is unimportant? Under these circumstances I choose to believe my own observations, and what I have observed is that cock size, for most, is an important factor in partner selection.
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