Primarily for other African-Americans, but input from others welcome...

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Hi,

Inkubus, I am so glad the guys are giving you some love . That is really jacked up! But I wanted to address the issue of Fried Chicken and Watermelon. The reason why people associate watermelon and fried chicken with black people is that they are part of African American's culinary history. Watermelon actually came over from Africa, but it became a staple of Southern cuisine for both black and white. Fried chicken as well became a staple of low couintry cooking first cooked by blacks for the tables of others. It's more recent association was that fried chicken was a food that could be kept on the long journeys without accomodation during the days of "Jim Crow" . Even up until recently, grandmothers continued to pack bags of food for road trips in spite of the fact that segregation was over. The name "Chickenbone Express" came to represent rail travel for blacks during the time of segregation. So, these foods are seen as traditionally black cuisine but in reality they are the cuisine of the larger South as a whole .

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But I do sing and dance... And I love fried chicken....

Seriously, though, thanks for all the input, gang, it helps! I'm planning on moving to Chicago coming up soon, to go to culinary school. That should help quite a bit, bringing me into more diversity in my everyday life, to match my personal philosphy. I'll also be able to improve my "chicken-n-watermelon" skills! Laughed my butt off at that, BTW.

If any of you visit the capital of Illinois, stop by; we can either have chicken, okra, collard greens, ribs, grits and cheese biscuits, or I can whip up a crown roast, frenched string beans, saffron risotto, and roquefort potatoes, polished off with bananas Foster. The more, the merrier!
 

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inkubus963 said:
I'll also be able to improve my "chicken-n-watermelon" skills! Laughed my butt off at that, BTW.

i for one detest watermelon and can think of very little foods i detest more


(i also like your incredibly hilarious avatar)
 

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GoneA said:
i for one detest watermelon and can think of very little foods i detest more


(i also like your incredibly hilarious avatar)

Thanks! Foods I detest:
1. Melon (yes, I know...)
2. Sweet Potatoes (except in pies, or as fries with sea salt)
3. Raw Tomato (yet I love them cooked or in sauces and condiments, weird
4. Seafood (probably the strangest dislike of all, but I've tried every form presented to me, and just disliked them all. That one has to be psychological. The only thing that swims that I'll eagerly eat has an Olympic medal on it. BTW, those of you that swim? I'll pretend you have a medal on....:biggrin1: )
 

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inkubus963 said:
Hey all, I'm fairly new to the forum, and really love the support. I periodically encounter this boggling situation, and wondered if it happens to others:

I'm an African-American man. I've inherited a reasonably generous genetic endowment from my father's side, if the swim outings with some of my uncles and cousins on that side are any indicator. I'm quite happy with my equipment, and I like the way it looks in relation to the rest of my body. I've encountered an odd sort of peculiarity from occasional partners, in that they've expressed surprise that I'm not even more endowed. I've even had one date terminate the encounter because he, a Caucasian, was better endowed than I! One man had the gall to inquire as to whether I was purely Black, and one of the few women in my past stated she was disappointed because she thought all men of color were in the double digits.
i.e., the realities of interracial dating (and I use the term "dating" loosely).
 

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Inkubus and GoneA,

IT is perfectly cool not to like watermelon,sweet potatoes, fried chicken or chitterlings.I don't think they automatically take your membership cards away for those agregious offenses .Besides the less watermelon you eat ,the more there will be for me! LOL!

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naughty said:
Inkubus and GoneA,

IT is perfectly cool not to like watermelon,sweet potatoes, fried chicken or chitterlings.I don't think they automatically take your membership cards away for those agregious offenses .Besides the less watermelon you eat ,the more there will be for me! LOL!

Naughty


oh that i know, i just thought i'd chime in

*holds tight to membership card*
 

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GoneA said:
oh that i know, i just thought i'd chime in

*holds tight to membership card*

Shouldn't you be more than just a member by now? like a photo verified one?

To anyone being rejected because of penis size. You live in a place with way too many large penes, and if that's the case you need to find out how they are getting theres and jump on the bandwagon.:cool:
 

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inkubus963 said:
...

Is this a normal circumstance? And does anyone have a suitable reply, other than my standard, abrupt departure?

Size queens can be some nasty bitches and people, in general, are sad.

That being said, the sad reality is that these stereotypes cut both ways: People at once expect you to be huge and are secretly hoping that you aren't (it IS a myth afterall). It's a tough place to be in.

I have played with men that were lager than me, and smaller than me, I have two close buds (both white) who are much thicker than I am (7" and 7.75" around). Instead of getting all sadiddy about it, we treat is as a great thing that brings us closer in the face of stereotypes.

I will say this, there is nothing like fucking the living daylights outta some stud that thinks he's the hottest shit walking because his dick is bigger than yours or because he thinks you need 11" to make a person feel good.

I think that one thing you (and all men), myself included) can do is to try to reach a point of true total comfort with yourself. When you walk through life pleased with what you have and are, people can't make you feel uncomfortable with thier issues.

Walking away was that shithead's loss.
 

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Lex said:
I think that one thing you (and all men), myself included) can do is to try to reach a point of true total comfort with yourself. When you walk through life pleased with what you have and are, people can't make you feel uncomfortable with thier issues.

Walking away was that shithead's loss.

Thanks for continuing to chime in everyone, it's great to see all the points of view.
 

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inkubus963 said:
But I do sing and dance... And I love fried chicken....

Seriously, though, thanks for all the input, gang, it helps! I'm planning on moving to Chicago coming up soon, to go to culinary school. That should help quite a bit, bringing me into more diversity in my everyday life, to match my personal philosphy. I'll also be able to improve my "chicken-n-watermelon" skills! Laughed my butt off at that, BTW.

If any of you visit the capital of Illinois, stop by; we can either have chicken, okra, collard greens, ribs, grits and cheese biscuits, or I can whip up a crown roast, frenched string beans, saffron risotto, and roquefort potatoes, polished off with bananas Foster. The more, the merrier!

Bananas Foster sounds good. I made that for my ex once. I still have my bottle of 99 Bananas. Now I need a bottle of Bacardi. Pecans. Homemade Frozen Custard. Sugars and spices. Oh, course, de bananas!!!! Bananas Foster was a dessert originated in New Orleans. Named after a NOLA official that frequented a French/ Southern restaurant (I forgot the name of the restaurant--I want to say it is Gallatoire's.) The chef made that dish up and served it to this official and he raved over it so much--the chef dubbed it Bananas Foster.

If I do come up there, I will coming via Underground AmTrak. I believe that they will be having fried chick'n n' waddermelun, oker, greenbacks n' slabs (collard greens and ribs), grits and cheese biskits on the way up so I think the other fine things you were going to have would be fine for me. Hehehehe.

I hope you enjoy culinary school. Sounds like fun to me. Get good grades and work for Oprah or Donald Trump as their personal chef.
 

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inkubus963 said:
[...] one of the few women in my past stated she was disappointed because she thought all men of color were in the double digits. [...]

Is this a normal circumstance? And does anyone have a suitable reply, other than my standard, abrupt departure?
It's probably a multitude of reasons, but during the formative ages of 12-17 when a white slut learns to be a slut they often overdose on white meat; it loses its appeal. They have to move on to more meaty dishes. They've idealized a certain hue of dick and after a while this concept becomes entirely inflated to irrational extremes. They just about literally worship that particular hue of dick, which validates their sluttiness in their minds because it's of a higher grade, outside of their assumed default class.
 

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The myth pretty much only hurts African-Americans. If he's average, someone will be disappointed. If he's big, he'll only be meeting expectations.
 

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Inkubus - I don't know your exact numbers, you're above average. Ditch the size queens and find a nice homo who's looking for a person, not just a big dick. Then use your size to your advantage.

btw - You're tied with hickboy for the cute animated avitar award.
 

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Inkubus,

I strongly recommend the following book. It's all about the expectations on African-American men that they be hugely hung. It's a good read.....

Hung : A Meditation on the Measure of Black Men in America (Hardcover)
by Scott Poulson-Bryant

It just came out a few months ago and is all about what you are struggling with.

One of my my closet friends is a black Dutch guy and he is not as well hung as I am and he often jokes that he wishes he could just borrow my dick for the night to match people's - especially American guys' - expectations.

So I've heard first-hand the kind of pressure you are talking about...

One thing that the book's author writes about frequently is how gay men often say " what a big, beautiful black dick" whereas they never say "what a big beautiful white cock."....

THe latter I have heard from a few African-American men (a couple of times I suspect as a joke)..but he's right: I hear "huge dick" or "great dick" or "enormous dick" but the color of my skin is never mentioned.....Gives one pause for thought