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I'm not sure why, but the small handful of dudes with which I have recently (in the past 90 days or so)had sexual contact have included:
1) Long-time friend who came surprisingly fast, much faster than in the past, during intercourse. In his case, there is a long history of mutual satisfaction, AND I'd already had an orgasm from oral sex (though I would have liked to fuck long enough to have another).
2) A guy I had been out with a couple of times. I gave him a handjob for a brief period, but my hand kept getting too dry, so I added my mouth. Less than a minute later he came.
3)A guy with whom I went out a few times invited me over to hang out and watch TV. He guided my hand into his pants, and since we were not alone in the house (but were alone in the living room), I pulled his penis out, but covered it with his shirt. I wrapped my hand around the shaft and he became fully erect, I gave a few strokes but found his precum was insufficient lube. I wet my hand and stroked twice. He immediately got up, went into the nearest bathroom, then ran upstairs and came back in a new outfit and wouldn't resume snuggling or kissing. When asked about the wardrobe change, he said only that his shirt had gotten wet. When pressed later, after I left, he said he'd ejaculated. The next day he asked to be platonic and I declined to remain in contact. I only have his word to go on. I never felt pulsing in my hand, I never observed any signs of heightened arousal. I never saw semen. If he really did have an orgasm, I have never seen a faster one. Ever.
4) Agreed to exclusivity regarding sexual contact even though we were not a couple. I still wanted to explore dating options with other men, but agreed to limit contact to hugs and kisses. First sexual encounter: 10 second blowjob. Second chance: could not maintain erection once wearing condom. So, another 10 second blowjob. I hung out with him a few more times but wasn't sufficiently interested in him as a person to continue dating and work through whatever his sexual situation is.
I have questions. If you've ever experienced premature ejaculation with a partner, what was the context of the encounter, and what did you think about after? What did you think about yourself, your ability to perform, your partner and her reaction, and the encounter itself? How do women generally respond to you in the aftermath? How long after do you find you think about what happened?
1) Long-time friend who came surprisingly fast, much faster than in the past, during intercourse. In his case, there is a long history of mutual satisfaction, AND I'd already had an orgasm from oral sex (though I would have liked to fuck long enough to have another).
2) A guy I had been out with a couple of times. I gave him a handjob for a brief period, but my hand kept getting too dry, so I added my mouth. Less than a minute later he came.
3)A guy with whom I went out a few times invited me over to hang out and watch TV. He guided my hand into his pants, and since we were not alone in the house (but were alone in the living room), I pulled his penis out, but covered it with his shirt. I wrapped my hand around the shaft and he became fully erect, I gave a few strokes but found his precum was insufficient lube. I wet my hand and stroked twice. He immediately got up, went into the nearest bathroom, then ran upstairs and came back in a new outfit and wouldn't resume snuggling or kissing. When asked about the wardrobe change, he said only that his shirt had gotten wet. When pressed later, after I left, he said he'd ejaculated. The next day he asked to be platonic and I declined to remain in contact. I only have his word to go on. I never felt pulsing in my hand, I never observed any signs of heightened arousal. I never saw semen. If he really did have an orgasm, I have never seen a faster one. Ever.
4) Agreed to exclusivity regarding sexual contact even though we were not a couple. I still wanted to explore dating options with other men, but agreed to limit contact to hugs and kisses. First sexual encounter: 10 second blowjob. Second chance: could not maintain erection once wearing condom. So, another 10 second blowjob. I hung out with him a few more times but wasn't sufficiently interested in him as a person to continue dating and work through whatever his sexual situation is.
I have questions. If you've ever experienced premature ejaculation with a partner, what was the context of the encounter, and what did you think about after? What did you think about yourself, your ability to perform, your partner and her reaction, and the encounter itself? How do women generally respond to you in the aftermath? How long after do you find you think about what happened?