Private aftermath of premature ejaculation

[5104]

Now, I'm obsessed with the times I last forever because the woman became super big hot and juicy and friction is lost. Sometimes I wouldn't cum until she finally dried-up.

 

[AlteredEgo]

Now, I'm obsessed with the times I last forever because the woman became super big hot and juicy and friction is lost. Sometimes I wouldn't cum until she finally dried-up.

Why didn't it ever occur to you to wipe them off? Why didn't it occur to them? When I'm not getting enough friction, I wipe off. Simple. Always works. Anyway, this has NOTHING to do with the topic of this thread.

 

[deeperthanyou]

I have when my partner was lactating and riding me cow girl. The visual of the milk dripping /spraying made me cum.

 

[5104]

Why didn't it ever occur to you to wipe them off? Why didn't it occur to them? When I'm not getting enough friction, I wipe off. Simple. Always works. Anyway, this has NOTHING to do with the topic of this thread.

Thinking during sex?

 

[AlteredEgo]

I have when my partner was lactating and riding me cow girl. The visual of the milk dripping /spraying made me cum.

Off-topic.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

It's cool to revisit this what, a year or more later? Also, thank you for this thread: it's an opportunity to really think about an issue most would rather forget.
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[AlteredEgo]

It's cool to revisit this what, a year or more later? Also, thank you for this thread: it's an opportunity to really think about an issue most would rather forget.
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I tried to remember the names of those guys described in the OP. One of them is totally lost to history.

I just wish more of the new respondents were answering the questions that are the point of this thread. Is will always be interested in what men are thinking about when it happens, in the moments after, and in the days after, and even at the next encounter. It's interesting to consider from the other side of the penis.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

I tried to remember the names of those guys described in the OP. One of them is totally lost to history.

I just wish more of the new respondents were answering the questions that are the point of this thread. Is will always be interested in what men are thinking about when it happens, in the moments after, and in the days after, and even at the next encounter. It's interesting to consider from the other side of the penis.

I had an "incident" two weeks ago. Wife was on business travel all week. I masturbated several times...stress relief. At 57, this means it's gonna be harder to orgasm. But when we were finally together, it went the other way. I damn near came three pumps in. I was thinking, " oh fuck no, not this time " and managed to prevent. Bad idea. Then it was forever and a day after she came, and she is a " one and done " girl. Now she thinks she doesn't turn me on. That makes it worse...she's finished, she's worried. I finally had my O. Later at dinner I brought it up, and she asked why I would try NOT to cum, even if it was right away. I explained that with so much time waiting I wanted our time together to be more. She, said, "what's more than an orgasm? I like knowingi that I still excite you that much."

Fair point.

 

[AlteredEgo]

I had an "incident" two weeks ago. Wife was on business travel all week. I masturbated several times...stress relief. At 57, this means it's gonna be harder to orgasm. But when we were finally together, it went the other way. I damn near came three pumps in. I was thinking, " oh fuck no, not this time " and managed to prevent. Bad idea. Then it was forever and a day after she came, and she is a " one and done " girl. Now she thinks she doesn't turn me on. That makes it worse...she's finished, she's worried. I finally had my O. Later at dinner I brought it up, and she asked why I would try NOT to cum, even if it was right away. I explained that with so much time waiting I wanted our time together to be more. She, said, "what's more than an orgasm? I like knowingi that I still excite you that much."

Fair point.

I am very tired, and have an hour more of travel. If I don't come back to properly respond to this by Monday, please poke me.

 

[5104]

This does not answer any of the questions in the OP. It is off-topic.

I feel totally humiliated, a fool. My partners have ranged from feeling of insult, laughing derisively, to exasperation, to total rejection, esp. after I say I can't repeat.

 

[AlteredEgo]

I feel totally humiliated, a fool. My partners have ranged from feeling of insult, laughing derisively, to exasperation, to total rejection, esp. after I say I can't repeat.

I don't understand how anyone could feel insulted by a partner's rapid orgasm.

We've talked about this before, but I don't remember is part of the reason you can't repeat that you feel humiliated in the first place?

I had an "incident" two weeks ago. Wife was on business travel all week. I masturbated several times...stress relief. At 57, this means it's gonna be harder to orgasm. But when we were finally together, it went the other way. I damn near came three pumps in. I was thinking, " oh fuck no, not this time " and managed to prevent. Bad idea. Then it was forever and a day after she came, and she is a " one and done " girl. Now she thinks she doesn't turn me on. That makes it worse...she's finished, she's worried. I finally had my O. Later at dinner I brought it up, and she asked why I would try NOT to cum, even if it was right away. I explained that with so much time waiting I wanted our time together to be more. She, said, "what's more than an orgasm? I like knowingi that I still excite you that much."

Fair point.

I can't really relate to your wife. I would be pleased that you waited for me to catch up, and feel badly that it cost you. Of course, if your fireworks went off early, I'd still be pleased. If someone asked me what is more than an orgasm, I'd guess my answer would be, "Both of our orgasms."

So now what do you think of the whole situation?

 

[5104]

I don't understand how anyone could feel insulted by a partner's rapid orgasm.

Some thought it was purposeful and they cannot be convinced otherwise--thus insulted. Others thought I'm just a wash-out as a potential sex partner, probably based on experience with others. Some only after I was unable to repeat.

We've talked about this before, but I don't remember is part of the reason you can't repeat that you feel humiliated in the first place?

I don't have a twinge of interest in sex after orgasm. Must be biological, low T or something. I'll admit I gave up trying after my early years, because messing around with a totally non-responsive flaccid was embarassing.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

I don't understand how anyone could feel insulted by a partner's rapid orgasm.

We've talked about this before, but I don't remember is part of the reason you can't repeat that you feel humiliated in the first place?


I can't really relate to your wife. I would be pleased that you waited for me to catch up, and feel badly that it cost you. Of course, if your fireworks went off early, I'd still be pleased. If someone asked me what is more than an orgasm, I'd guess my answer would be, "Both of our orgasms."

So now what do you think of the whole situation?

It's good to know that any disappointment would only be mine. As she is just as happy getting off with fingers, tongue, dildo or vibrator as with my penis, I don't have to feel pressured to perform to some arbitrary standard of time. And that lends confidence which actually makes everything easier. We differ in that her priority is the destination, while I put equal value on the journey.

I have to add that this isn't a revelation. We've been intimate over twenty years. She has stated this in various forms in the past but a combination of how she worded it and my own blinders made it seem like she was just trying to hide her disappointment or make me feel better. The conversation really worked this time. We're both the better for it.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

I don't have a twinge of interest in sex after orgasm. Must be biological, low T or something. I'll admit I gave up trying after my early years, because messing around with a totally non-responsive flaccid was embarassing.

Still have hands and a tongue? Then you aren't done. Forget your penis...it'll remind you it's there later. It's 100% normal to lose interest immediately afterwards. But we put our big boy pants on and do whatever is required. Someone gives themself to you, it's expected to give back. Even at my age I'm surprised at how quickly my enthusiasm returns if I do something for her right after my orgasm. And to be clear, when I finish, I'm washed out and drained. But we aren't done until we are both done. Get out of your head...that rarely helps anything.

 

[5104]

Still have hands and a tongue? Then you aren't done. Forget your penis...it'll remind you it's there later. It's 100% normal to lose interest immediately afterwards. But we put our big boy pants on and do whatever is required. Someone gives themself to you, it's expected to give back. Even at my age I'm surprised at how quickly my enthusiasm returns if I do something for her right after my orgasm. And to be clear, when I finish, I'm washed out and drained. But we aren't done until we are both done. Get out of your head...that rarely helps anything.

Good advice. I've had several partners that enjoyed that, others, no. I could only do it based on my "my head" in 2 senses!

I now realize that most guys are "reminded later". Back when I was active, it wasn't obvious to me and few partners would brutally compare me to others. Looking way back, my 1st wife compared me to what she'd read about Charlie Chapman, ie. that he could "do it all night."

Nothing worked-out well with her. . . . very quick to anger and resentment.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

Good advice. I've had several partners that enjoyed that, others, no. I could only do it based on my "my head" in 2 senses!

I now realize that most guys are "reminded later". Back when I was active, it wasn't obvious to me and few partners would brutally compare me to others. Looking way back, my 1st wife compared me to what she'd read about Charlie Chapman, ie. that he could "do it all night."

Nothing worked-out well with her. . . . very quick to anger and resentment.

I've always tried to view a new relationship as a fresh start without any assumptions of what she'll like/want/do. Haven't always succeeded. With my list of kinks and fetishes I can't ever assume anyone fits a certain mold, or will be okay with me. It's an adventure, and there's always something useful to take away from it should a relationship fail, but the important thing is to put that lesson in perspective, not allowing it to take over.

 

[5104]

Good advice. I've had several partners that enjoyed that, others, no. I could only do it based on my "my head" in 2 senses!

One woman enjoyed that so much (pussy eating after I came) our sex became totally one-sided after that. Fun at first, but we drifted apart due to that and other reasons. She even suggested I fuck her girl friend instead of her if I needed to cum (who was so often around) instead of her!

Pretty sure she was actually a lesbian though she never said so. . . As Kim... said every woman is different
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[someperson]

I'm not sure why, but the small handful of dudes with which I have recently (in the past 90 days or so)had sexual contact have included:


I have questions. If you've ever experienced premature ejaculation with a partner, what was the context of the encounter, and what did you think about after? What did you think about yourself, your ability to perform, your partner and her reaction, and the encounter itself? How do women generally respond to you in the aftermath? How long after do you find you think about what happened?

I'm uncut I can detect with in 60 seconds before I even cum, there for making it easier to have control and preventing premature ejaculation

normally changing something up stops it, changing strategy or think unsexy thoughts .

 

[5104]

normally changing something up stops it, changing strategy or think unsexy thoughts .

I used to think about calculus or physics.

 

[5104]

Good advice. I've had several partners that enjoyed that, others, no. I could only do it based on my "my head" in 2 senses!

I now realize that most guys are "reminded later". Back when I was active, it wasn't obvious to me and few partners would brutally compare me to others. Looking way back, my 1st wife compared me to what she'd read about Charlie Chapman, ie. that he could "do it all night."

Nothing worked-out well with her. . . . very quick to anger and resentment.

Duh! Charlie Chaplin, not Chapman! Was it the spell checker?