Private messages

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  1. Misunderstood Lad

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    Question about private messages at this board.

    I post at other message boards with less, um, risque topics, where private messages between members are common.

    But here, given the subject matter, (not to mention the many posters who have sig lines warning off the stalkers) I think it would be difficult to start a private conversation with someone without appearing like a perv.

    Do you folks talk regularly to other posters here via private message? Or is that a fairly rare occurrence here?

    I guess I should have started a poll, but oh well.
     
  2. Gillette

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    If the conversation has some substance then most members are welcoming but if you only want to talk about your penis then they will likely be irritated.

    If you want direct feedback try the Live chat feature, same rules apply.

    Whatever you do, avoid stupid questions like " do you like big cocks?"
     
  3. MASSIVEPKGO_CHUCK

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    As of recent, in fact a weeks time, my PM's to a certain member here have been made to everyone on a thread, thus negating the concept of Private Messages.
     
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    I have received only a couple of private messages that were about a posting that I made, nothing out of line or anything like that, offensive or stupid. I personally never had a problem with a private message as long as it's something sensible and nothing stupid like "how big is that thing, or do want to fuck?" or something childish as that, if anyone has something to say to me and don't want to put it on the public board, I am cool with that.
     
  5. B_Stronzo

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    Yes.

    I talk regularly with other posters via private message re topics on this board.
     
  6. D_Martin van Burden

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    Some considerations:

    On the rare occasion I see a picture or a video on here that I want to comment upon, I let the user know how I feel through a private message. I've also used private messages to keep in touch with LPSGers local to me and that I haven't seen post very much.

    In the past, pertaining to some of the more controversial threads, I've sought out people who seemed to see things on the same side through PMs. We would talk and dialogue in a way I felt wasn't possible or practical in the threads.

    Either way, I like using PMs in a more thoughtful way. If we go back and forth on PMs, I'll try to catch up to that user with an instant message program.

    My only advice is to remain cognizant of how people might not appreciate getting them. Be mindful. Don't just sit there and send PMs on where and how you want to suck, fuck, and so on. Just be respectful of people's boundaries.
     
  7. D_Gunther Snotpole

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    Just this evening, I cleaned out my PMs queue, since there were over 990 messages banked. (You can't go over 1000.)

    I've done this twice in six months. Which means that I've probably sent and received a total of 1800 PMs. That's 300 a month, or 10 a day ... five sent out by me, and five coming back in.

    And I know many of those I correspond with send several times as many.

    So yes, it's very common to send PMs.
     
  8. sares

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    I prefer to speak on-board almost exclusively. for me, PMs are a lot like e-mail, and I don't go to message boards to correspond exclusively with individuals. I go to talk with the hive mind at my leisure.

    exceptions to every rule, natch, but that's the gist for me.
     
  9. D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah

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    I guess unlike most of the women here im not upset or annoyed by the ' Do you like my cock? PM. It really dosent leave much room for further topics of conversation but i understand that majority of guys that send them are new here and might just privately want a little reasurance and a help with the ego

    There has been a very small number of guys here i now consider friends by meeting them throiugh PM but most stop after they get what they want to hear. Also it probably dosent help that im crap at conversating with strangers and never know what to say.

    The only ones that irritate me are the guys that 'expect' im going to give them some jerk off material. I dont want to have a dirty 'chat' with some stranger, that makes them just seems like some random pevert.

    And under NO circumstances do i EVER want to meet in real life, and no im not showing you photo's so please dont ask....
     
  10. I pm alot ... and usually it is not about my penis/ass ... although those do come up ... most of the time my pm's are heavily laced with innuendo but, not directly dealing with sexual things ... :rolleyes:
     
  11. jeff black

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    Innuendo? Sexual comments? What is this new found thing, they call the Private Message?? I am still quite new at it....:tongue:

    Actually, I have fallen in love with the PM option here. IT is nice to have the option to post comment and have conversations off the board.:biggrin1:
     
  12. D_alex8

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    As someone who's been on the receiving end of some of the perverse filth that you send out under the guise of PMs, I'd say that was a fair assessment. :rolleyes: :biggrin1:

    The point I would make is that more intimate/revealing/playful PMs are fine so long as one has already interacted with that person on the boards, in the chat room, or via more innocent PMs... so that it's where things have ended up after discussion/flirting, etc.

    It's when PMs of that nature come totally out of the blue ... generally from non-posters with blank profiles .. that I take exception. Especially when they ask for 101 intimate details after having revealed zilch about themselves... this will lead to their first PM being ignored, while repeat offenders receive my standard two-word reply, the second word of which is 'OFF!'. :rolleyes:
     
  13. Ummagumma

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    Ditto.

    I don't think I've ever sent a PM here that wasn't a reply, nor do I plan to - I always think I'd be bothering people and thus don't bother. But you can ask those I've replied back to, I'm always kind (if a little late) and appreciate every message I get. It's a great way to really get to know the people behind the posts, no doubt about that!

    I get probably a dozen or two PMs a week (mainly on account of my... girthy... pictures), and no matter how lewd they get, I always enjoy them - the lewdest ones especially :biggrin1:. It's all quite flattering.
     
  14. I apologize :rolleyes:
    perverse filth is saved for the public in the form of white text ...
    I have too ... it's very convenient :smile:
     
  15. jeff black

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    You have gotten those too?:tongue:
     
  16. ... you started it ... :biggrin1:
     
  17. jeff black

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    HEY now!!! I am innocent.

    Purely a passer-byer, who happens to enjoy the occasional PM to another....:rolleyes:

    Alright, who am I kidding?? I am addicted to PMing, it is fucking amazing!!!!
     
  18. DC_DEEP

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    I use the PM feature often. It is usually with other members whom I have gotten to know already, on the public threads, and usually to communicate some aspect of a thread that I don't feel should be public.

    If I have never sent a member a PM before, and am tempted to do so, I will usually (especially with the females) ask their permission, in a public thread, to send a PM. I do that for a couple of reasons. First, if they don't want the PM, I won't send it. Second, I know that they won't delete it without reading. Third, it sends a message to some of the newer members that PMs really are not designed to send messages that basically just say "Nice (tits)(cock), wanna fuck?" Initial "hook-up" requests should be done in the "Large Penis Personal Ads" section.

    For me, hookups may be a possibility after I get to know someone in the threads, but are not the reason I'm in this forum. So, I don't spend much time in the hook-up section. I have only gotten one volley of PMs from one annoying member who kept pressuring me to hook up, and in the course of those PMs, I found out what a pathetic excuse he is. But yes, they were annoying.
     
  19. D_Sheffield Thongbynder

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    PM's provide a way for people to get to know one another on a personal level that doesn't occur on the threads. If members don't want to PM. they can state that in their profiles. I have been impressed that few members abuse PM. IMO, it's an invaluable feature of the site, providing it with the means to be more than just a hook-up site.
     
  20. rob_just_rob

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    I seldom PM here. Occasionally I'll get a comment on my profile. Once or twice I've had follow-up questions to something technical that I posted. I have occasionally invited people to take discussions to PM, but that hasn't gone anywhere.

    I'm not here regularly enough for PMs to be a reliable way to contact me, in any event.
     
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