Problem finishing for me.

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by Archangelvega, Jun 30, 2008.

  1. Archangelvega

    Archangelvega New Member

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    I'm sure this has been asked before but i couldn't find it. I just started having sex this year. I lost it to my current girlfriend. I thought just by pop culture references that lasting a long time came with a lot of sex and that virgins blasted immediately. Well, the first time I never came because my girlfriend couldn't take it anymore she said she must have cum like 5 times. I have come on a couple of occasions but it still took a while and I had to be completely selfish in order for me to get there. My girlfriend feels like its her fault and I think that if this keeps up she may get frustrated anybody know what may help me get off in a reasonable amount of time.
     
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    i cant help you with getting off quicked but if it helps i just recently lost my virginity and it took me a while to come too so its not only from experience.
     
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    This is also random but I seem to be much bigger when we are doing someting sexual. When i'm by myself I'm upwards of 6 really close to seven. But when we have sex it gets about an inch bigger. Maybe that is obvious and I'm just inexperienced.
     
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    No help for me?
     
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    IT sounds like a happy problem to me. I think it great that you really get her going. If you don't cum and she is tired etc...fine. Not a big deal. Actually time will take care of this. Perhaps it is performance anxiety and perhaps it is because you just don't want it to end. Relax about it and you will get a good rhythm with her going where you both feel satiated at the end.
     
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    Kinda sounds like role reversal to me :rolleyes:
     
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    Try a different condom. The first time I had sex I lasted 40 minutes and never finished. I had a tight condom and it worked like a cock ring, blood restriction and lack of sensitivity.
     
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    Mate, I went through the same issue: I could not orgasm from sex.

    My girlfriend also jerked me for long time, until her arm ached, but nothing: something was blocking me, maybe tension, maybe I was afraid. And she felt guilty, like she thought it was her fault.

    It took quite a long time to overcome it, I had to learn to let myslef go, to abandon my total self control. And I did it because of love, because I trusted her and knew that with her I could let my walls melt down.
     
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    It's probably performance anxiety.
    Just relax and go for it. You'll get there.
    A lot of guys find it hard to cum when they start having sex because it's so different from masturbation. Keep practising and you'll be fine.

    You could always pull out when she's had enough, finish yourself off and shoot over her in true porno style.

    (I'm now waiting for a cyber slap from some of the ladies who don't appreciate being covered in spunk.)
     
  10. B_InternalExplorer8

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    Usually these things are psychological. ie I would have a hard time cumming with my last partner because:

    1) she wanted me to cum within five minutes
    2) I didn't want to hurt her/wanted her to enjoy it

    And so there were a lot of expectations and limitations put on me. The last time it happened she even got a bit violent lol. Crazy bitch :tongue:
     
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