Problem staying soft in public showers?

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  1. gavlenils

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    I'm not well hung (6,5 x 6,1"). I'm a hung fan, gay and will never stop loving big cocks (worships them all). But one problem for me is public showers. After training at the gym I hit the showers and most time there is no problems, but I'm boning up every time someone with a big cock is in there and showering. Am I the only one with this problem?

    (sorry for my english)
     
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    Being anxious about getting an erection tends (in my case at least) to mean ... getting an erection, pretty well whatever the context.

    At the gym I am always fine unless someone stares at me, as people tend to if you are well endowed.
     
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    Fortunately I haven't had this problem, although if I did I would probably avoid public showers. You might want to consider joining a gym with stall showers if the erections are truly unavoidable ... not only to avoid embarrassment yourself, but also so none of the men around you take offense or misconstrue your erection as some sort of harassment.

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    This is a candid vid of a guy sporting wood in a communal shower. (I hope it's cool to post it here.) I'm posting it because it's a chance to sit back and watch the other guys in the shower at the time. No one is teasing, abusing, or in any other way making life difficult for the guy with the boner.

    I think it's worth looking at, because it's our own embarrassment we feel when we pop some wood in a situation like that. It's not an issue for other people.

    The other guys either haven't noticed; don't care; are ignoring it to reduce any embarrassment for the guy with the erection; or maybe some other reason ... in any event, it's something that guys know could happen to them ... maybe HAS happened to them ... and isn't worth making a big deal about.

    My experience was always that I would stiffen up the first time or two in any new public shower situation. Then, after that, i was cool with it. And I got better about just being able to tell myself, "OK, here we go again, it's stiff but that's what we always go through and it'll be better."

    Of course, that doesn't mean act inappropriately .... but I don't think you're doing that. And ya sure don't have to have a boner to act inappropriately.
     
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    Just like to say that I don't just stand there with a hard on. As soon as I starts to bone up i leave the showers and cover my self with a towel.
     
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    nothing related to the OP - it's universally unfair that i am denied access to men's public showers and locker rooms. *sigh*

    ML

    only half j/k here.
     
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    It's not a problem for me. I have been using open showers for over 20 years now, and I'm used to it. If it happens, don't make a big deal out of it, finish up and leave. All guys know that you get unwanted erections at inopportune times, so I think most guys understand when it happens. I've only ever seen one guy out of the thousands that I have showered with over the years that had a raging hard-on in the shower. I think it was more nervous energy than anything else. He wasn't doing anything to encourage it, and he wasn't being lewd about it, so no one cared. I couldn't understand though why he didn't just use a stall (the shower room had both). Maybe he was trying to desensitize himself to that environment.
     
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    Here is the trick I learned from my roommate.

    If you jerk off before hand, it sort of decreases the horny nature of your cock. I recommend taking a few minutes before you go, if possible and just rub one out.

    However, if that doesn't work, try keeping your eyes to yourself rather than looking around at the dicks.
     
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    i find that it happens in cubicles or just getting changed. something about nudity in public turns me on... how wierd am i? :D
     
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    Anyone else notice that when the one guy drops the soap, the first thing he does with it is wash behind his balls again? Skeeved me out. Okay. Back to your penis discussion. Sorry.
     
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    I'd get this from time to time as a teen. The best thing to help me was immediately dropping the water temperature. The more I got hard, the more I reduced the hot water. It takes a lot to stand under a freezing cold shower tap and stay hard. It worked every time except once.
     
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    It was a major act of courage for me to join a gym in my late twenties, the fear of getting a boner in the shower was so intense in high school, and I get boners really easily.
    It happens. No one freaks. Some guys pretend to be shampooing so they can hide the fact that they are checking it out. Some guys may be thinking; "I'm glad that's not me!" or maybe "Can I get his number without the other guys noticing?" Who knows.
    What I have done over the years is try hard to focus on something unpleasant: open heart surgery, fat women covered in hairy warts (sorry if this is you) or whatever it takes to keep my mind off of my boner.
    And sometimes I rinse off quick, run out, only to have to stand in the very small space that my gym has to towel off, trying not to bump into guys.
    I try to laugh at it, but it still really bugs me sometimes that I can't control my boner.
    All that aside, there is a gay guy at my gym who stands in the shower for a half an hour, stroking his hard meat, a small as it is. I see guys shaking their head over him, hear them talking in the changing room about what a loser he is, and then I'm just really thankful I'm not that guy.
    So don't be that guy.
     
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    Never worked for me. :frown1:
     
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    Looks like the fourth guy that comes in and starts showering halfway through the vid pops a semi himself.
     
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    you could always just jack off before your work out
     
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    That was the best vid ever both from a salacious and a 'whuteva' point of view. I love that the guys are just completely unselfconscious particularly the one with the bone; I mean, that's how it should be.
     
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    Doesn't work for me, plus i jerk off before a massage, and I still get wood.

    Should this be a new campaign slogan for Viagra! "Got wood?"

    It would bring a whole new meaning to the "milk mustache!"
     
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    Maybe... just maybe.... they shouldn't stroke their dicks so vigorously in the shower. The one guy on the far left was way too attentive. Did he fall in mud or something?
     
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    Right on!
     
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    It happened to me once when I was a sophomore in high school. I was teased about it and very embarrassed.

    Here's what happened to me once at the Minneapolis YMCA. I posted it once before.

    Upon arriving at the YMCA to use the indoor track (I couldn't run outside with the snow and ice), a black kid, probably about 16, asked me where the weight room was, and I told him. After I changed, I ran a few miles on the indoor track and returned to the locker room. The kid followed me into the shower room and got a huge (charcoal) erection. There must have been a dozen other guys in the shower. It wouldn't have bothered me so much, but he persisted in staring at me. I did the only thing I could do - pretend I didn't see him and turn my back to him. Then, he walked to the pool door, opened it a crack, and briefly looked out; that was a pretext to get a frontal view of me to see whether he had affected me. Of course, it made me very uncomfortable since I was afraid that I might get an erection. When I left the shower room and went to the drying room, he stood only a couple feet from me, still with an erection, and watched me while I dried. Then, he followed me to my locker and sat on the bench near me as I got dressed; he still had an erection.

    The kid was very attractive, but there was no way that I was going to become involved with someone that age. I was amazed that he had the chutzpah to be so blatant with so many others around.

    Fortunately, I never again had such an unnerving experience.

    I'm wondering how other guys would have handled it.
     
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