Memories of Dangerous Liasions, going on here. This is prompted by the "Attraction of wide hips" thread. There's a girl (27) with the widest hips/biggest ass in our local bar. Both the guys and the ladies never stop talking about her figure. To the ladies, it's a subject of "thank god my ass ain't that big" but to the guys it's a subject of "what wouldn't I do to get my hands/arms/lips, around or dick/tongue, between that great ass. Happily for her, she's blessed with a very pretty face. Nice body, overall. Great personality and absolutely acres of confidence (she's often the first to bring the size of her butt into the conversation and always has a gleam in her eye when she recounts the amount of times she gets hit on "just 'cuz I've got a big bum and they wanna get inside my knickers, for no other reason than I've got a big ass." As both she and I surf, I've seen her in both bikini and getting into and out of a wetsuit and I can assure her (and have done so) that it's not purely because of her big ass - though that don't hurt none. A mutual friend of a (very close) friend of ours told her that we might be in the Lifestyle - she (our friend) didn't say, categorically, that we're swingers but made it clear there's a good chance and also remarked that I was above average, in the penis size stakes, allegedly Since then, this lady has been all over me/us (but not in a heavy fashion). She's become great mates with my lady and often spends her entire, bar-time, evening with us. During their jolly conversations, my lass has confirmed that I'm a "big" lad. She's also felt me through my trousers (uninvited, but not unwelcome) at a couple of BBQ's we've held and expressed her delight and amazement. She recently caught me alone and told me that she fancies both me AND my lady (and that she never even knew she was Bi-Curious, before now) and that she wants to try swinging with us both. So where's the problem, you're asking? She said she won't sleep with us both until she's slept with me, one-on-one, first, without my gal's knowledge so as not to have any problems. I want to (you have NO IDEA how I want to) but what of my lady? How would I feel if I later discovered that the roles had been reversed and she'd done that? We may be open and share, but we're not sluts/tarts and we're not unfaithful (within the Lifestyle context). Also, what if this girl is just looking for another notch on her bed-post? If she just wants a "Big-Dick" experience/memory/conversation piece? Before you say "Bunny-Boiler", I can assure you that she has nothing on her mind except sex. She discards guys on a 10-1 basis, at least. She genuinely has no "designs" or agendas. She'll likely try me (or us) and go on her way thinking "that was cool". But no more than that. She's a very sexually aware, cool, hedonistic (selfish, even?), confident lady. And I want her with her wide hips/ big ass.