Problem with lack of athletic ability

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I wonder if most gay guys were shitty or disinterested in sports when they were younger.

... consider me a disinterested party... Yep, always one of the last ones picked in junior high. Strange, considering my two best friends were big time wrestling/hockey/football players. I wasn't athletic, and had no desire to be... but was pushed into it. UGH... little league. I ended up on the team that had been city champs for 3 years straight. I found a way to get cut from the team. Soccer- same thing. In high school, it was either: play flag football; or run laps. Guess what I chose.

It wasn't so much that I didn't like sports per se, I think it was more that I did not like TEAM sports... probably because I don't like being responsible for the whole team losing. I'm cool with the individual sports... tennis, bowling, swimming, diving, etc.

My fitness endeavors did not develop til my late 20s. Started getting into weight training, cardio, running, mountain biking, road biking, hiking, camping, etc. Took up racquetball briefly, but just wasn't into it... despite it being a great cardio workout.

I still hit the gym 3x per week tho... 1.5 hrs of weight training & 0.5 hr cardio (treadmill).
 

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By today's standards, definitely. Lasting effect? Perhaps, cause I can't say that I've really understood what LOVE is all about or experienced it outside my immediate family. Without recanting what I've said in previous threads, I was at a complete loss with regard to telling anyone. Coach? No.... School Officials? No... Priest? No.... Parents? No

Your use of the word "submitted" confused me a bit. You didn't say you were held against your will, but it appears you felt you had to do something you really didn't want to do or for validation, so in essence, your heart wasn't in it. That's awful and I'm very sorry.
 

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I wonder if most gay guys were shitty or disinterested in sports when they were younger.
This seems to be the case, judging from this thread. In hindsight it always seemed to be the 'sissies' who were picked last in gym class.

My father Pitched in the minor leagues for the Yankees, my older brother was a star athlete in high school, I threw like a girl,,.......you do the math.
This may seem strange, but from your photos alone you seem to be fairly macho.
 

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Although I could throw a football far and was good at bat, I wasn't very athletic in my youth. I was lanky and uncoordinated. I was usually the last one to be selected on a team. The only sport I excelled in was basketball, but that stopped when I became short-sighted.

It's only after my growing stopped and I started to gain muscle mass that I became good at sports. Today if I don't do well in a game of basketball or any other sport, I can't blame my poor performance on my bad reflexes (they're excellent), I'll just say that I didn't practise enough.

Nowadays, I'm asked whether I'm a boxer, a hockey or (Canadian) football player.

Had I had the same shape twenty-five years ago, I would have become an athlete and would have gone to the Olympics....
 

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yeah....I hated sports .....but get this I was a ballet boy...have you any idea what happens to a 7 year old ballet boy when the kids at school find out what he does in the afternoons?
it was a few years later when I had moved to a performing art school and was dancing 7 - 8 hours a day minimum ...and I bumped into one of the bullies from the primary school....and he had strted tuning me grief so I said " listen Darling (yes I know )you are the one grabing your friends nuts on the rugby field...Im the one with my hands on vagina all day ....and your calling me a sissy..........."it helps that a 18 year old ballet dancer's body is quiet different from a 5th grader............those were the days
 

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i was the fat kid i sucked at running , so of crose the only sports my schools every offerd were all just running based sport. i was mocked a fair bit and gym class was hell . if thier was an actaul contact sport where i could have used my size and streaght i woulda done pretty well. so i didn't realy start to get in good shape till a discovered tennis after high school which i realy enjoy and that started me on losing weight realy (thou that didn't realy kick in to full gear till last year when i change my eating habits) and now i've been lifting weights the last 5 mounths or so which i find my self rather enjoying
 

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I have always been a couch potato, I mean a guy totally incapable to play any sport decently (except scuba diving and nordic ski). At school, consequently, I was always the last choice to make teams. I was the skin and bones, dark, curly geek.

Anyway, I did never give a d**n: on the contrary, being the excluded one made me develop a strong personality, and a tough approach to life: "you don't want me? Maybe you are right, I am not perfect nor invincible but... I really don't care!".

This being tough despite being the couch potato gained me the athletic guys' respect, there was no fun in pulling around a guy who was totally not interested in being like them.

With a couple of them, years later, locker rooms showed who was the real man (joking).
 

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A lot of great responses to this post. Whether you were good at sports or not as a kid, just find some outside physical activity that you enjoy as an adult. Don' t the the past dictate your enjoyment of active life. Put it aside (or embrace it as one of the posts said) and live a full life. Once you have reflected on the past make a decision to move on and not have to look back with regret or a sense of failure.
 
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The funny (OK really sad) part is that your personality is so much more fashioned by the early years.

So even if you've overcome the childhood aversion for sports, it may still come back to haunt you as an adult in some social settings.

I once read a very interesting study about self-confidence and height...

Not surprisingly, taller men were (on average) somehwat more confident than shorter men, but in an interesting twist, what mattered was the height in High School. Men who grew tall after high school were not found markedly more self-confident...
 

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I guess we each have our own idea of what athleticism is. I find this guy to be very athletic. I think that it's usually a lack of interest and not a lack of ability that dictates how well you do in sports. If a school has a great phys. ed. program, with diversity of sports, then I hope that some gay boys might pick up a sport. I firmly believe that everyone should have an athletic interest, even if it's lawn bowling or jai alai.
 

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I would love to see howie long try one of those leaps. hahaha

My nitch was downhill skiiing. I skied with great technique and grace. One day my instructor was up on the mountain trying to help a girl, and to make points. They saw me skiing. He told me later that it was beautiful to watch me ski. Ironically, I didn't start skiing until I was 32. It was something my dad had never been involved in, and I couldn't hear his abuse in my head. Unfortunately, a very bad auto accident ended my skiing. It was a fun 10 years. :smile:
 

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Yes. I had no athletic ability in high-school: I was a geeky intellect and paid dearly for it. I tried to get into athletics from time to time, but could never make any success or a habit of it. I was always very jealous of sporty people … I just figured some people were lucky and had a genetic predisposition to being athletic.


In my 20s I ended up with some physically demanding jobs and slowly started to get more toned and more in shape. 5 years ago, and all of a sudden, I was finally able to make a habit of going to the gym and exercising regularly. After starting this, my physical condition changed drastically over a few months and as such, the whole thing became very addictive.

There was a big change in my life…


From women, I would regularly get more attention. Girls would approach me at parties, clubs, etc. This is something that almost never – well, never, actually – happened earlier. Just in day to day life I would get many looks, flirting, advances even… so, of course, I enjoyed all this and my sex life also changed quite dramatically.


The way other men treated me also changed. I often became the alpha male or centre of attention in old groups of friends and new ones, even though I am not that outgoing and didn’t necessarily want to be. This led to positive changes in my career also.


This is self perpetuating … the more these things happened, the more confident I became.


So I think I have experienced both extremes in my life.
 

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THANKS for one of the more honest sounding and refreshing accounts of life as it is.
Much appreciated amongst a fair bit of Garbage on site.
This thread has proven to be one of the better ones, have enjoyed reading all the posts .. thanks Op'
For myself i was absoluetly hopeless at all manner of sport, including Rugby (Nz/Au and not being a Rugby Fanatic?) ..your soon accused of being Gay'..ha and i was anyway ..even now i cant grasp the rules' of most games? dum me
Just un-coordinated physically and unwilling to apply brainpower to the other
I once ran the length of the field and almost scored a try.ONLY to drop the ball on the line,and another guy came flying in and touched it down.. for me?
I had then and still do have a pretty good physique, many girls attracted to me etc etc...but alas.minimal girls and not enuf bois .. ha'
enz
 

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Ahhhh... ballet bodies!!

Ballet is the ultimate sport. I'm glad I trained as long and hard as I did. When everything else is gone, I'll still have legs and posture.
 
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Well, until my 20th birthday I was never interested in sports. My dad made me go to a tennis club and I played tennis for two years, but I had no talent, and the only reason for that was that I didn't like it. I didn't understand the tactics, had a bad physical condition and I just didn't get the point of playing tennis. Getting out of bed every saturday to go to the game felt like a punishment.

So at the time I also had a very skinny body and never got any attention from the girls. I think I was as thin as a fishing line. When getting older, I started to feel bad about that. At the age of 21, I finally started showing some interest in sports, I started going to the gym on a regular basis, and realised that I could keep my body healthy and good looking by doing so. But actually the main reason I did it was because I hoped I would attract more girls by having a fit and muscled body. Besides fitness I now also practice bicycle racing.

Today I'm the proud owner of an athletic body. Spicy detail: I still don't get any female attention.
 

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My father Pitched in the minor leagues for the Yankees, my older brother was a star athlete in high school, I threw like a girl,,.......you do the math.

But as an adult I've become a High Altitude Mountaineer, I've been on 5 expeditions in Nepal.....I've climber to 26,385 feet without oxygen.....(and my older star athlete brother, who I love, has become fat and doughy and I look pretty good)
Mountaineering is something I am really looking forward to getting into, once i have the financial needs to do so. I never have been a big team sports person, although I did play ice hockey for 7 years when I was younger. I have always found individual pursuit sports much more enjoyable , where the work was all yours, and the pace at which you progress is dictated by your work ethic alone.

I cycle about 7,000-10,000 miles a year, climb 2-3 times a week year round, and ski 80+ days a season. The cycling and rock climbing take no where near the athletic effort(of skiing), just a willingness to put up with brutal training for sustained periods of time.