Problems Cumming

Discussion in 'The Healthy Penis' started by kencum, Jun 2, 2009.

  1. kencum

    kencum New Member

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    I have learned that I have to fantasize to cum, and when I watch porn or just fantasize I can cum pretty quickly. The orgasm is relatively normal.

    My problem is that when I am with someone I can almost rarely cum. I fuck for an hour and still... nothing. I have to finish "by hand" and when I finally do cum it is a whole body, mind numbing orgasm. I spray a ton of cum (just because of the hour of edging) but the orgasm lasts about 5 minutes. I end up completely tired, my muscles all sore, and at times I have had a charlie-horse in my calf muscle right at the point of cumming. After cumming I can barely stand up, and if someone touches me, I start shaking with a post orgasm after-shock.

    But.. I only seem to meet guys who cum within a few minutes, and I am left wanting more. They get upset that I am not cumming with them, or if it lasts long enough and I finish up by jerking, and have my massive orgasm, they get put off by it.

    Any ideas on getting over the hump. I just want to be able to cum normally with someone. Perhaps stop watching porn and cumming when I am not with someone? I tried that but it still was hard to cum.
     
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    If you can't find a similarly sexed partner or one that appreciates the way you get off, keep looking. I've been with guys that love my long build-up and explosions, but they are not the norm. Also, I've found that the older guys tend to have more patience, and some have acquired more skill in getting others off. Some (about 5 total) have watched me JO and later imitated my hand movements with their hand or mouth. The ass is a little harder to create specialized movements, so you might not be able to cum this way. Good luck!
     
  3. Aplus

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    First of all, I'll say this is only a problem or issue if you think it is. I suppose it could be a problem for any couple trying to get the woman pregnant too though.

    It's been suggested and somewhat proven that you can change this by going cold-turkey for at least an honest week. Meaning no porn, no masturbating, no sex of any kind, and I guess no fantasizing. Hadn't heard fantasizing in conversations before. The idea (I think) is to sort of re-train your body.
     
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