I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year and a half now. We love each other dearly but when it comes to sex, we always have problems; the main one being that both of us have "problems with our intestinal tract" if you get my drift, and we can't always be ready when we want to. And even if we do plan ahead, we can't always plan the "surprises" that may happen prior to sex. So my question is this: how do you do it? How normal is it for a gay couple to have problems with bottoming because they're either not clean enough or some unexpected surprise happened before? How is it that in porn the men seem to take it up the ass so easily but in real life it's way harder? Does anyone have any advice?