Problems with bottoming

[coolguy666]

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year and a half now. We love each other dearly but when it comes to sex, we always have problems; the main one being that both of us have "problems with our intestinal tract" if you get my drift, and we can't always be ready when we want to. And even if we do plan ahead, we can't always plan the "surprises" that may happen prior to sex.

So my question is this: how do you do it? How normal is it for a gay couple to have problems with bottoming because they're either not clean enough or some unexpected surprise happened before? How is it that in porn the men seem to take it up the ass so easily but in real life it's way harder? Does anyone have any advice?

 

[warmandsoapy]

Porn dudes clean out starting the day before a shoot and eat limited (if any) solid foods.

For me, usually having my bottom enema an hour or two before works pretty well. Nothing more than a quart bag full. But with large penis and deep thrusts surprises can still occur.

 

[92philip]

I don't know how those porn guys do it, and not have colon health problems. Enemas can have a very negative affect on colon health, and can make you more susceptible to cancers, injuries, and other sorts of health risks. So when prepping be very cautious.

 

[Huaimek186]

There may never be security from surprises . To some extent it depends upon a person's constitution , also on what you eat . Some people have loosers bowel movements than others .
The regular use of a bidet helps , use an enema with soapy warm water , or try colonic irrigation .
#3 92philip has a point , refering to possibility of cancers , injuries and other health risks . Too much stretching of the anal sphincter risks becoming almost anally incontinent .

 

[tallandhung]

:smile: Use a soft plastic ear syringe available at Walgreens. Do not go the route with other chemical or douches because of health reasons. Anyway, use warm water only with the ear plunger, then repeat. Squirt a few ounces of water into yourself, wait a short while, then everything flows out!

I have had little difficulty w surprises.

Be well.

 

[rangisrovus19]

:smile: Use a soft plastic ear syringe available at Walgreens. Do not go the route with other chemical or douches because of health reasons. Anyway, use warm water only with the ear plunger, then repeat. Squirt a few ounces of water into yourself, wait a short while, then everything flows out!

I have had little difficulty w surprises.

Be well.

this works great

 

[erratic]

Eat well. I'm really not kidding. A happy intestinal system depends largely on diet.

 

[B_thickjohnny]

IT happens, if you know what I mean. My ex and I had the occasional "problem" but surprisingly he was ok with it - I mean, never grossed out/disgusted/pissed off. I was totally embarrassed but he was fine. I mean, it was never MAJOR but we were together for 4 years. Still a little poop on his weeny every once in a while and usually when he wanted sex and I hadn't prepared.

 

[coolguy666]

That's exactly what I mean, johnny. Anal sex isn't like vaginal sex in the sense that if you're horny in the moment, you can just fuck and that's it. I'm always the horny one and my boyfriend's more the opposite (not that he doesn't want sex but he isn't as horny as I am). How can I expect to have sex whenever I feel horny if I need to wait for him to "prepare" and clean himself? Is it normal if we schedule dates specifically for that?

 

[B_subgirrl]

You don't 'need' to wait for him to prepare. That is something you choose.

 

[coolguy666]

What do you mean by that?

 

[B_subgirrl]

What do you mean by that?

Just what I said. Him being 'clean' is something that you (and probably him, and many others - this isn't just directed at you) choose. It is not something that is necessary. Would the world come to an end if he wasn't totally clean?

 

[B_Nia88]

i make sure i am always washed down their. i also try and eat a healthy diet and have smaller meals.

 

[rugger89]

I think, what tellandhung said pretty much sums it up re: cleaing yourself out, along with what other people said about not eating too much...

If your issue is that you feel like you cant have spontaneous sex because of the surprises or what not (which believe me i understand, we too somewhat schedule...i.e. me: im horny; him: k gimme 30 and ill swing around...) then you could just go with what subgirrl said and just go for it, and if anything comes out so what...or if your grossed out a condom wouldnt go astray