Problems with gay guys

[BIGBULL29]

They are "straight sissies" and "gay brutes" Stereotypes just don't always hold up.

I think that harassment in its true sense is uncommon in gyms and locker rooms. I think many straight men are hallucinating. Most men are going to check out your dick, gay or straight or whatever. Don't go into the locker room/sauna if you don't want to be checked out. Solve your problem, if there really is one. LOL

Don't get me wrong, however. Harassment does occur between men, but I don't think it is as common in the locker room/gym context as we are being lead to believe by this thread's posts. It is fair to say that true sexual harassment is much more an issue for women than for men of all sexual orientations.

By the way, there was one example given in this thread where the person seems to have crossed the line.

Anyways, people are first people before they are gay, straight, stupid, smart, rich, poor, fat, skinny, ugly, pretty, and so on. Oh, ... and big-dicked, as well.

 

[JackbytheSea]

To be completely honest here, if the unwanted admirer here was a woman, she could gawk at this guy all day long, and nobody could touch her, unless she did something really weird or dangerous.

It's just different, when it's two men involved.

Maybe, I've got a playful attitude about this kind of thing, because my high school was probably some sixty or seventy percent gay/bi. I've been cruised by gay guys more times than I can count. There are still one or two gay associates of mine that I've got a running mock flirtation with, and we all just laugh it off and go about our business. I'm a writer, who frequents DC's artsier areas (Dupont Circle, Adams Morgan, etc), where gays and artists are almost indistinguishable. I accept that my attitude about homosexuality probably invites gay attention, and it's no big deal; as I've said before, it's actually flattering most of the time.

However, there are people out there, like my best friend, who don't share my sensibilities. Their orientations and attitudes should be respected, just like anybody else's.

This isn't about gay rights, here.

It's about men, str8 men and gay men, acting like major tools and thinking the world's their candy store. Sure you have the right to annoy any man or chick with all the unwanted attention you like or wear T-shirts with misogynistic messages (like DC's new "Dumbass BBQed Bitch!") on them. We've got rights to do lots of crappy stuff to each other.

It still sucks. I'm done here.

 

[invisibleman]

I do respect straight guys. I don't push myself on them. I respect people's sexual orientations. All I was saying is that if straight guys are naked in the lockerroom or dressed in painted on gym clothing at the gym, you will be looked at regardless.

I think that it is harrassment when you are touched, groped, and/or stalked by a person you don't want to be bothered by..

I don't really see a problem with looking and admiring a guy's body if it is really nice looking. Sometimes looks aren't everything though.

People are sometimes attracted to people who are unattainable. This is what fuels the eroticism.:smile:

 

[Lex]

I'd like to see a straight guy at my gym jump all over some gay guy for "looking too much."

That would give me a good excuse to punch his fucking face in. In addition to the satisfaction of that, I could also enjoy his shame at being beaten up by a faggot.

Now there's a "problem with gay guys" worth discussing.

When I was a kid, these young guys were teasing this gay kid riding his bike around the block. After about the third time, he got off his bike and whupped the one guy's ass. Beat him DOWN. The other two ran in horror. He never got teased again.

 

[JackbytheSea]

That's what I'm talking about, capo. Sometimes, you got to draw your line.

 

[dreamer20]

I never looked at guys...

you're lyiiing!!

LOL

 

[B_Monster]

I am constantly hassled by gay guys, which I hate because girls won't give me the time of day. Is it just Murphy's Law, or my bad luck, or does this happen to a lot of you?

Do you hate when straight men hassle women? Its the same thing and why are you constantly around gay men? Can you say closet?

 

[ZOS23xy]

Zombie Thread.

All information pertains to another era.

Thank you.

 

[houtx48]

gay guys must be hard up in bakersfield.

 

[mromaster]

True. I guess the problem that I have is not the gay guys themselves. It's just that guys are very vocal when they see something they like, whereas women say nothing. And that kind of sucks.

Yes it sucks a lot. Thankfully I have a great woman now. No offense, they're out there.

This is exactly what I was going to say, except in my experience, it IS the gay guys themselves. Like once you're "OUT" what's the point in keeping your feelings to yourself - except for that little thing called respect, which several gay males I've had the misfortune of attracting have been TOTALLY lacking.

I can understand the freedom sensed after feeling emotionally confined for so long, but dude, knock it off, nobody, including me, wants to hear what you want to do with/to my lips. Unwanted comments even if "complimentary," are still unwanted. Many people today misunderstand 'respect' as their ability to do or say whatever they want openly without restraint so long as it's not crass or intimidating. They don't know the recipient's feelings on the subject, instead of respecting their privacy and possibility that they may not want to even be addressed in the first place, no matter what the topic or instigator.

I can recall DOZENS of occasions in public places bearing no predilection towards either either sexual preference, receiving cat calls with lewd language, what I refer to as "the eyes and lips," blatantly sexual pickup lines, and even one instance of groping by gay men.

My brother is gay, I asked him about it, he says yeah, stereotypically speaking I'm apparently walking man-porno or something.

And no, women have never EVER done anything like this to me, if it was as often as men did it though, I'd probably be complaining about it too.

 

[yngjock20]

^^Honestly, it's less about gay men and more about men in general. Some guys have this mental block where they aren't able to keep their horniness under wraps. They try to fuck anything moving and it doesn't matter their sexual preference. Straight and gay guys do it. So don't be freaked out if a guy's all harrassing you. Just pour a drink on him like any self-respecting woman would do to a horny bastard harrassing her.

 

[erratic]

Do zombie threads eat brains? I thought only circumcision threads ate brains...

 

[117817]

I am constantly hassled by gay guys, which I hate because girls won't give me the time of day. Is it just Murphy's Law, or my bad luck, or does this happen to a lot of you?

I've experienced the same thing except I wouldn't say constantly. But, I've had a lot more gay men hit on me than women. Sometimes I think I could be wrong because it may be that I'm not adept at picking up on the women's more subtle communication whereas the bold men are just blunt about it. In my life, I've had many more confirmed opportunities to hook up with men than women. I've always thought of it jokingly. All this time I thought horny, obnoxious (often drunk) men were something women were cursed with. Now I'm sorry I know what they go through. (not speaking in absolutes here, ya know, know not all are same)

Here on LPSG I've gotten over a hundred PMs, comments, compliments, and blatent propostitions initiated from men. Contrastingly, only TWO women have ever initiated contact with me on here, and those were only for simple compliments. Then a few other women made mild comments too, but only after I started the talk.

The bahavior of men and women are vastly different. It goes to show how we can often easily spot a man posing as a woman on here by the nature of his comments.

 

[297695]

I think it's cool you were open and honest about your situation. I'm sure you were exaggeratiiong just a little but that's cool. I'm gay but my best friend is straight and he is constantly getting attention from gay guys. He's pretty hot and has a great attitude about it, he said this to me: "If gay guys like attractive men then I'm flattered that they like me. As for the women not giving you the time of day, I don't know. I relate very easily with women, even before I tell them I'm agy. they usually just want you to give a shit about what they're saying. good luck

 

[Principessa]

Stop wearing assless chaps and all that leather gear. :tongue:

 

[ncguy207]

Damn you're hung like a horse. Can't say that I blame the guys....LOL

 

[ledroit]

Reminds me of a story [theonion.com] in The Onion:

This is funny as shit.

 

[MuscledHorse]

Gay guys are going to hit on you if you're good looking--at least you have affirmation you are handsome and do-able. As with women who aren't interested in the guy that's just hit on them, say "thank you but I'm not interested" and that should be the end of it. If the guy can't take the hint get a good female friend to start hitting on him and see how he likes it, or you can just knock some sense into him.

 

[D_Lachtmadder Longhorne]

Maybe you are destined to be on all fours enjoying the attention of a new found friend for the first time while he calls you 'dawg' between thrusts. ha ha!:dunno:

 

[B_Rob15]

I think it's cool you were open and honest about your situation. I'm gay but my best friend is straight and he is constantly getting attention from gay guys. He's pretty hot and has a great attitude about it, he said this to me: "If gay guys like attractive men then I'm flattered that they like me.

Well said, thank you for sharing this about how your friend handles this so well.