Problems with my boyfriend

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  1. AmyW28

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    Hi I'm new here. Not really sure what this site is all about, or how serious it is, but I wasn't sure where else to turn. My new boyfriend is a really great guy and we get along very well. But for some reason that I can't even figure out myself I've always had a thing for, well, big guys. And he is really not one of them. I mean I work in the medical field and if I didn't think it would hurt his feelings I would tell him to see a doctor about it. Its seriously like 4 inches long or something.
    The thing is that I feel bad about not dealing with it and I wish that everything was ok with him. But is this just something that stays in your blood? I mean I can't even figure out why I like bigger guys so much- its definitely psychological. Does anyone get the psychology behind that? Feel free to post or email me or whatever because I'm honestly feeling confused and I don't know what to do.
     
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    I would imagine that the problem is based on your current boyfriend not being able to fill your ex's shoes. This is seriously a relationship breaker, no man ever wants to hear that you had sex with a bigger dick, and that his doesn't satisfy you. I have heard of men wanting to see there partners with bigger men but I think this is a rare situation. sorry to hear of your problems I'm sure you will receive and obscene amount of messages offering to fill his shoes. Best of luck.

    Wilde
     
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    There are many girls here who feel similarly to how you feel, Amy. The site may seem like a joke at first (I know I thought it was) but if you take the time to peruse some of the threads and maybe use the search feature you'll find a lot of good information. How serious are you and your boyfriend?
     
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    dude. you're in the medical field and you think this is something he can visit the doctor for? do you think if there was a magic peeny cream, and every man was a simple scrip away from being hung like Mr.Ed, ANYONE would still have a tiny cock?

    I smell bullshit.

    but whether or not you're a chick looking to hook up with the guys here -- because don't even fool yourself, girl, you are shopping -- the point remains, if size is important to you sexually, it's not something you can just hope really hard about. the issue will only get bigger, as the penis steadfastly refuses to change.

    either get some big toys and play with those together, or break it off.
     
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    either get some big toys and play with those together, or break it off.[/quote]

    Ah yes the toy section I had forgotten to mention that, if you actually do love the guy buy a toy that will help, otherwise leave him.
     
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    If it is already a problem for you, I don't think that it will go away. Be honest with yourself and him and end it.
    Don't mention his size but be a bitch if neccessary.
    Sometimes it is better being single than frustrated!
     
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    Well you guys are right. And I guess I am in a bit of denial. We haven't been going out too long but its just that I really like him. The toy angle would be one possibility but how could I tell him that I need a big toy because he isn't big enough? Maybe I should just give up, but I have a probably delusional idea that things could change.
     
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    I dont know what you think could change, hell I'm happy with my size and if there was a method to make it bigger I probably would, but there really isn't, at least not that I know of, if there was I'd be a foot long before I stopped, so would most men here. Except for the ones who are already that big, They'd go to 2 feet just to make the rest of us feel small.
     
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    put it this way: it's a last ditch attempt to salvage a relationship with a dude you really like. if he freaks out, you break up, but at least you tried. and who knows... maybe he won't freak out.

    try not to make it about him not being enough. make it into a special occasion thing, and use statements about how you feel: "sometimes I really like this feeling of being filled up." you should never have to apologise for what turns you on (blah blah disclaimer about harming unconsenting parties).

    heck... why not look into fisting?

    it's pretty delusional, yes. if he got into PE, he might add a little, but he's so below average I can't see him becoming big unless he is very lucky and very committed.

    and if you're scared to ask to introduce big toys, I'm guessing you won't be into telling him to do PE either. (as well you should -- it's kind of gross, like a dude telling you to get tit implants)
     
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    well, things aren't going to change with his penis size.

    you need to decide if you love him for who he is or for his penis. if you love him for who he is, then you could make things work sexually. communication, toys, alternative positions, etc can make the difference.

    if you're just into big cocks and don't want to communicate with him, save him and yourself the grief and break up now.
     
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    The size of his dick isn't going to change. If there's some other way that he's not satisfying you that he could be... that could probably be helped with communication. An increased focus on oral. A toy is a possibility.

    Otherwise I'd be inclined to agree with the other posters here and say that if it's that big of an issue for you, you should probably move on. The only thing left to change would be yourself, and to do that would require removing yourself from temptation which would include things like visiting sites about big penises. Personally I don't think that's a particularly good solution. If you don't have much invested in this guy already you should find someone you're going to be truly happy with. If he's as good a guy as you say he is, some people are going to say that's really shallow. But it's a bad idea to try and deny your own needs. and early in a relationship, there's usually very little point.
     
  12. sares

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    what's getting me here is this whole charade that women are apparently supposed to go through to preserve a dude's ego. like she's supposed to look at 4" and pretend that it's really big?

    either he is in denial and is defensive about his size, and will scream SIZE DOESN'T MATTER and MOTION OF THE OCEAN until he's blue in the face, or he'll be grown up and reasonable and understand he has to be extra-good in other areas to make up for what he doesn't have downstairs... but in either case... he knows his cock is small. ain't no guy in the world who hasn't compared.

    so it's a litmus test. which guy do you have? napoleon complex penis? or willing to go the extra non-phallic-mile to please you penis?
     
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    I dont think a woman should spare her lover the embarassment but its true, if you have a 4" dick its small, you know its small, and you should practise your oral skills. Hell most men should practise their oral skills anyways, a big dick can only get you so far with some women.

    This question of why men lie about whether their dick is small is a difficult one, I can tell everyone here my dick size but unless they know me and trust me I might lie, why? because we're on a site bragging about dick size, nobody wants to be small, thats why mine is 16 inches long 8 inches thick, last name almighty first name is dick.

    Wilde "who is listening to 2livecrew"
     
  14. AmyW28

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    Well I just wanted to say first that I honestly came on here looking for advice and not a new guy over the internet. I'm sure that there are nice guys on here but if I want a new guy I will look for one nearby.

    I will try and push him toward the big toy angle. But for me its not just a physical thing. Its also psychological, and this may sound stupid but I don't even get the psychology behind it myself. I mean I get the basics but what is it that makes this a permanent turn on as apposed to a fleeting thing?
     
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    I feel for you. I do. because I completely identify.

    you might as well try and change the colour of your eyes. it's not important to some women... but to some women it's huge, pardon my choice of words.

    I honestly could never go back. and I'm constantly insulted that women are told it doesn't matter. it's a huge chip on my shoulder... it doesn't necessarily matter, but when it matters, it matters a LOT!

    I know that my fantasies about slow penetration and difficult accomodation and being nailed to the bed are as old as I am. before I even understood what sex was I had those needs. I thought they were entirely mental -- like I could play pretend with an average guy, go through all the "you're so big" motions, and it was just as good -- and I was wrong, wrong, wrong.

    I commend you for giving it a try. I wouldn't be able to get anywhere at all with 4" (and I had to try, once). complete turnoff.
     
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    And I thought we gay guys were the true size queens!
     
  17. sares

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    ha, it's a social issue as well as a physical issue. women are given a lot of messages about themselves and their sexuality, and almost 100% of them amount to: you're not good enough. you're not pretty enough. you better do whatever you can to try and keep a man.

    what do guys hear? size doesn't matter. size doesn't f'n matter. like some demented cheerleading squad.

    it's a lie, and it dovetails neatly with girls being told they need to subsume their desires, whatever they may be, to please a man's ego. SIZE MATTERS. but not just big size... any size. SOME women like big. SOME women like average. SOME women don't give a shit because they want cunnilingus anyway. but whatever the case, whatever the size, IT MATTERS.

    bah. argh. roar. rant.
     
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    I am gonna say this.. and take it as you will.

    I know oral isn't a great substitute for penetration. However, if he became really good at it, and got you right to the edge, and then spent the last five minutes penetrating you, could that not work?

    Obviously to you, his size is a big issue...It is your call, I just thought I would mention the idea.
     
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    Size matters, whether it be dick or tongue size, plus how many women get off on only penetration alone? I had a girlfriend that no matter how long we had sex and no matter how far I penetrated unless she got some clitoral stimulation no orgasm could be found. So yes size matters of course it does, skills matter to, but can any woman here admit that if she had a choice between 4" and great oral skills and 9.5" and moderate oral skills they would take the 4, I dont think so simply because 4 is small, sorry but its true.

    Wilde "who could eat a peach for hours"
     
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    http://www.lpsg.org/women-s-issues/30900-please-make-bigger-my-darling.html
    I started this thread because someone PMed me asking about Penis Enlagement. She wanted to suggest it to her partner (like you, she prefers bigger)
    However judging by the replies, it just doesn't seem like a realistic option.

    Even though if he wanted to, he could grow at least 1" per year!!
    It is possible to grow his penis, mine is 2.25" longer in length than it's natural size and still growing!
    If you see long term possibilities with this guy maybe suggesting PE is worth the risk. Don't ask me how though, I tried to find out in the thread but no one here has dared to!

    If I had such a small one I'd love to find out ways to become at least normal, and why not even big since it is possible.
    www.thundersplace.org is the best place to learn all the techniques for free.
     
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