Problems with my boyfriend

[AmyW28]

Whatever happens in this relationship the messages here got me thinking about ideas related to toys. And using them with a guy there and helping to use them on you. But all of the dildos that I have are,- well lets just say that they are very large. And the contrast with the guy could be an issue. Are there any women here who have suggested using toys, and then pulled out a big one? If so how did it go?

 

[sares]

wait, I feel like the story changed. all of a sudden you have toys kicking around, when before the very suggestion made you ponder quizzically?

 

[AmyW28]

I was pondering because the idea of using them with a guy there feels like it could be uncomfortable

 

[pichulon]

Well I just wanted to say first that I honestly came on here looking for advice and not a new guy over the internet. I'm sure that there are nice guys on here but if I want a new guy I will look for one nearby.

I will try and push him toward the big toy angle. But for me its not just a physical thing. Its also psychological, and this may sound stupid but I don't even get the psychology behind it myself. I mean I get the basics but what is it that makes this a permanent turn on as apposed to a fleeting thing?

If you are honest about your situation, this is not the best place to look for advise. Here you have read replies from women that are at the extreme of the scope. Some advise is A class, some other advise will not help you.
You need advise from all kinds of friends and women perspectives. Love is not about sex only. I think you are talking about love, not a sex liason.

Forget about those clitches about size matters and crap, we are not animals, we are not horses and mares looking to mount / get mounted. What matters is what you find enjoyable.
If it is really an issue, deal with it. If you really like him like you say you do, then, do not tell him he is small or that will make him feel inadequate, but instead try to see if you can find the satisfaction you need. He needs to perfect his oral skills, and you would want to get more in tune with your feelings. If you can not find satisfaction with him because it is something that you and only you can not overcome, then move on. But I am afraid the advise you are getting from some members is that size do matter, and, the rest is baloney. That is not true. I may be an uncommon guy,but having a large penis myself taught me exactly the opposite to being conceited about it, taught me that blessings are just that, blessings, not a license to put down others.
Reflect upon your relationship, and be honest with yourself. Try and see if you can be happy with him, and look for other avenues of advise. If at the end of a period of time you find out you can not forget the fact that he is not satisfying you, then take the necesary steps to move on. If after said period of time you find out you are finding satisfaction, then, great, give me five!
Coming here seeking advise for your problem would be the same as going to a nightclub to seek advise about my recent argument with my GF. Chances are everyone would tell me "just forget about that B and talk to this girl, her name is Jeniffer...........instead of a solution, I am going to make it even more confusing and even irreversible.

 

[D_Bob_Crotchitch]

If it's that big of an issue to you, and it seems to be a huge issue for you, move on to someone else. Just tell him, I like you, you're a nice guy but I've got some personal hangups I've got to work on and can't see you anymore. If he presses for more information, tell him it's too personal to discuss and say sorry bye.
Personally, I think it's just as shallow as a guy insisting a woman has to have huge breasts. I really love her, she's a super nice woman, great in so many ways but her boobs are too small for me to be happy.
If he's a really nice guy, do both of you a favor and move on to someone else. He deserves to be treated better.
I don't like it when anybody uses someone else for their body. So, no I don't sleep with people I'm I don't love.

oooo novice bottom I love you so much that my earlobes stink

 

[zaza]

Before you ditch this lovely guy for what many would consider to be a very shallow reason, think about what you are doing. Is his size such a problem or do you just think it is because you have been conditioned to think bigger is better? In other words what is sex with him actually like? If he is as lovely as you say it should be good, there is a lot more to sex than just penis in vagina.

I have previous experience of a partner of about the size of you boyfriend, following on from two guys that were larger than average, sex was good because he was lovely, unfortunatly things didn`t work out. Sex with one of the larger guys was awful because he was awful.

Currently I am in a relationship with a guy with a very large penis. He is lovely, sex is good. However his size does cause some difficulties. He is what he is with what he has got, we adapt accordingly. I wouldn`t end the relationship over it. Who knows what you might get next time? Particularly if you make you selection based on penis size.

 

[B_beautifulthings]

what's getting me here is this whole charade that women are apparently supposed to go through to preserve a dude's ego. like she's supposed to look at 4" and pretend that it's really big?

either he is in denial and is defensive about his size, and will scream SIZE DOESN'T MATTER and MOTION OF THE OCEAN until he's blue in the face, or he'll be grown up and reasonable and understand he has to be extra-good in other areas to make up for what he doesn't have downstairs... but in either case... he knows his cock is small. ain't no guy in the world who hasn't compared.

-Thank you girl. Thanks for being the voice of reason. Sex with a guy with a nice sized or big one is of course better. Its so telling that this girl has drunk so much of the KoolAid that she doesn't know why she wants a man with a big dick. Maybe because it feels better, hello?

 

[alien51]

just had to weigh in here.my wife sometimes just wants to do oral on me and me on her and then i get off manually.it's what works for us.eat a peach for an hour?you bet my wife's pussy is a peach and i'd eat her everyday if i could.i'm not going to tell size here,but she thinks my cock is the best and treats it as such.try that.masturbate together,you with a toy.doesn't have to be a really big one at first,just tell him you like toys.guaranteed if he gets to watch you with a toy and gets to help while you're giving him head,you both will EXPLODE!!!!!!!!!but,if you just plain like big cocks lose him.but if you truly do like the way he makes you feel as a woman,try new things.

 

[Shelby]

You could ask him to try the one true non-surgical penis enlargement technique that actually works.

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[DaveyR]

You could ask him to try the one true non-surgical penis enlargement technique that actually works.

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We can always rely on you Shelby........LOL:biggrin1:

 

[love2trybig1]

I am sure you are doing what your doing to get tight.
I was thinking about me and my antics. I kind of have the same thing about boobs. Moreover there are time I think would be more interested in large breasts and not the woman.
But that is no nevermind. I go to a group in Denver this group is something I have not seem in other support groups. One the things they said its not the sex that makes you feel good...I have a big desre for sex both when guys giving them oral sex and wanting to do it with women. It got me thinking what is it I am really looking for? I want someone to know me. I want someone to accept me for whom I be. One who desires to get inside my heart and know who I be and want I think...I am looking for intamateicy (spelled it wrong sorry).
I am sure you like sex. I like it. Alone that is not what I am wanting. I want someone to see my vunulibilties . I would think you are wanting to the same and he is wanting the same. There has to be a way that you can say what you want to express about larges one.
Personally I think I am about average size...if I knew someone who was used to a well eddowed bf . I hope that she would be able to tell me that and after that I would be asking myself and then her what would you want to do sexually that will make you happy. If you do not think say what you have to say your going to always be the woman eating what is on your mind. What is it worth to you...what is the cost you're willing to spend.

 

[rob_just_rob]

It's a great shame if you give up this guy because his dick isn't big enough (and 4" isn't actually small, it's just the bottom edge of average, he ought to be able to reach your G-spot with it) because the next one might be a well-hung brute who beats you, and the next one a horse-hung zombie with no conversation.

Your chances of finding everything in one man are minscule. You don't have to answer this publicly, but can he bring you off? If he can, I'd say stick with him, and satisfy your craving for big dicks with gay porn.

Well, (I hope) she isn't going to stick with a well-hung abuser or a dullard with a donkey dick. I think the thing the OP really has to think about is the possibility that the next one is almost as nice as her current guy, almost as fun to be with, and, say, 3" bigger (or to make this a real conundrum... 1" bigger). Then, what does she do? It becomes a balancing act between different positive attributes.

The trouble with these questions is that they tend to deal in hypothetical absolutes that don't exist in the real world. All other things being equal, most women would probably prefer a guy with a 6" penis over the same guy with a 4" penis (and many would probably prefer 6" to 10", too). But all other things are never equal. She may give up her current b/f and never find another man she gets along with as well. Or she may give up her current b/f and find a new guy who's better for her in all respects. But whenever you give up on a relationship that's working (in most ways), you run the risk of giving up something that you can't get back.

 

[bluekarma]

We all know what curiousgurl has to say on this topic. So I will remain curious, and await more answers.

Come on people!!! What is with chicks who dig big dicks?