problems with oral sex

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can anyone tell me if the size of my penis makes it harder to give a bj or if im just with girls who lack any talent, ive had 4 different girls attempt it and none have ever been any good. i need to know the problem here so i can fix it, i appreciate any feedback or advice anyone can give :smile:
 
You look pretty thick which does make things more difficult - especially if you're one of those who like teeth to stay out of the equation.

Although it's also entirely possible that the four girls weren't particularly skilled, or that they didn't really enjoy it.
 
You don't mention your size, so it is a bit difficult to make a
comment. However, from the pics you look to have a very tick and very
long cock....which would make it difficult to take the entire thing.
There could be a number of reasons...
It could be that you are too big, but I doubt that would keep you from getting
satisfied. Possibly you have had only girls that were new at it and just had not
learned the way to give a good bj...or they were just not into it in the first place
and didn't try....
As a bi, I've enjoyed bj's from box sexes, but I personally think that the best
ones are given by men...they know what feels best and what a man wants.
 
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You look pretty thick which does make things more difficult - especially if you're one of those who like teeth to stay out of the equation.

Although it's also entirely possible that the four girls weren't particularly skilled, or that they didn't really enjoy it.


I think that is has good possibility of being the problem.

That aside you are pretty thick, so I doubt that helps.
 
Yeah, you are longer and pretty thick. Also, you curve in one direction slightly, so you need to have the girl is the right position so that the curve matches the curve in her throat. This will get you much deeper. I'm good at head, but yours would take a little negotiating to get down each stroke. Try laying on a big bed where everyone can turn as necessary. Good luck!
 
The girth of the penis has a direct correlation with how long it takes for my jaw to become tired and sore. This can be improved with regular "practice" however.
 
yeah i have no tools of measurement so i dont know the numbers behind my cock, but as you can tell by the pics its no small feat, its not that they didnt want to do it because they did it on their own without me asking, i try to be patient but i just might only be finding amateurs, ive never even had a girl ride it good lol =(
 
yeah i have no tools of measurement so i dont know the numbers behind my cock, but as you can tell by the pics its no small feat, its not that they didnt want to do it because they did it on their own without me asking, i try to be patient but i just might only be finding amateurs, ive never even had a girl ride it good lol =(
just 4 different bj's?? how old are you??
 
im only 21 haha and didnt lose my virginity till i was 18, not to mention, not every girl ive messed around with would give head, but to clarify i have had more than 4 bj's just only 4 different people doing it
 
yeah i have no tools of measurement so i dont know the numbers behind my cock, but as you can tell by the pics its no small feat, its not that they didnt want to do it because they did it on their own without me asking, i try to be patient but i just might only be finding amateurs, ive never even had a girl ride it good lol =(

I've been with a couple of blokes in the past and the heads on their already thick cocks were like big mushrooms. I just couldn't do it, despite being an excellent bj giver an having a big mouth. However, just because I couldn't take it in my mouth didn't mean I couldn't take it elsewhere. One's a muscle that can stretch quite considerably, whereas your jaw can only open so much before you dislocate it; and that's no fun I'm sure.

P.S>> if you're ever in London, hit me up ;)
 
Yes, I've had this problem, and I'm not a great fan of too many teeth... You don't say how old/experienced the girls were who gave you the bjs (and you mightn't know for sure anyway what their experience has been), but that could be a factor. I doubt it's anything you're doing wrong, if that's one thing's that worrying you.

Positioning is a big factor too, and you might need to experiment because what works for one woman might not be so good for another. Therefore, you both need to be prepared to try different things: some women are happy to do this, others not so much. Sometimes it helps if she is on her back with her neck extended; to do this you need to find something for her to lie on that's the right height (or you need to have good knees!). But the key is trying different things and see what works.

If she can't take too much of you, try some other things - e.g. she sucks your head or licks the frenulum while playing with your balls, and so on.

Anyway, just some thoughts.
 
yeah i have no tools of measurement so i dont know the numbers behind my cock, but as you can tell by the pics its no small feat, its not that they didnt want to do it because they did it on their own without me asking, i try to be patient but i just might only be finding amateurs, ive never even had a girl ride it good lol =(
When you wrap a dollar bill around it does it completely reach?
 
I'm on the thick side as well about 2" thick and yes most woman have a hard time taking it in their mouth as the head is large too and the shaft will usually scrape teeth.
 
I'm guessing you're about 9" long, so we are close in size. So:

1) What was unsatisfactory? If your partners tried for half a minute and gave up, that's one issue. If you couldn't cum after ten minutes, that's another issue.

2) Did you talk to your partners about their experience? I always started that discussion (at your age) by saying that I'd never had a partner do it, so did she have any experience? It's not so much age as experience; I've had 40-year-olds who did a mediocre job, and one 16-year-old (when I was younger than you) who was crazy about doing it, and could bring herself to orgasm blowing me.

3) What are your expectations? I don't really care about deep throat--It looks better in porn than it feels in real life, and it takes quite a while for a woman to perfect the style. On the other hand, I always prefer doing it bareback with swallowing. Nothing ruins it like having her spit.

4) Finally, how do you feel about it? I prefer oral sex to vaginal, but I know some guys don't like it at all.
 
my ex girlfriends have tried on multiple occasions and usually what it comes to is it becomes a handjob with her mouth on my dick, im not concerned with deepthroat or anything id just like to get a bj i can finish from, now that i read this over i realize they must just be inexperienced since it usually just comes down to the same exact motion over and over and very slow, thats probably why it doesnt do too much for me, yet of course they had used the lines "every guy has said i was the best at it."
 
I would definitely relate your dissatisfaction to the lack of experience of your partner and a possible lack of chemistry between yourself and your partner. If someone knows how to give good head they can give it to anyone of any size. The largest guy I ever gave head to was approx 11" and he came every time. Also, there's the unfortunate truth that some girls just don't like giving blow jobs, which I can't relate to at all. I'm sure you'll find the girl that pulls your trigger before you know it. ;)
 
I've heard that most girls just do not give very good head.

Incidentally, your cock is perfect looking.
 
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