wvalady1968: [quote author=jonb link=board=women;num=1080334867;start=20#22 date=05/01/04 at 19:51:58]Yeah, I've had days like that.[/quote]
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;D bblumbee: Your welcomed, Allie. And to be quite honest, I am certain there are many other women would who agree with you as well.
And speaking of those days.... YEAH... I have been having one ALL DAY. :-/
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And speaking of those days.... YEAH... I have been having one ALL DAY. :-/
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I'm not one of those women who is possessive in any way, but I sure have been in the past. I think most men are not faithful by nature, and to expect that out of them is surely going to lead to heartbreak. What I've decided to do is to look at it from more of a "male" perspective, which is to say detatch "love" from sex. I think it's entirely possible to have sex outside of a primary relationship without it compromising the feelings you have for each other. Of course, I'm not in a relationship or even open to one at this time, but I couldn't see getting into one where I felt like a possession ever again, nor would I do that to a man.
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I've noticed other women giving me more flirts than I care to remember. One time when I was working, my girlfriend stops by the pit,(I'll explain that one later,) and not soon afterwards a buxom female customer approaches me needing advice. Well, she starts off by just blurting out, with no encouragement, "Excuse me, can you help me find something to fill my holes?" She elaborated that she needed spackle for her walls, but my g/f didn't find it amusing at all. Well I show her where the spackle was, answered a few questions, then she writes down her number ,and passes it off to me, with me trying to politely refuse, with my g/f watching in not far away.
I thought I was going to need an ADVIL afterwards trying to explain this to my g/f, and sure enough, she damn near wigged, but I tore up the number the customer gave me and threw it into the trash.
She elaborated that she needed spackle for her walls, but my g/f didn't find it amusing at all. Well I show her where the spackle was, answered a few questions, then she writes down her number ,and passes it off to me, with me trying to politely refuse, with my g/f watching in not far away.I thought I was going to need an ADVIL afterwards trying to explain this to my g/f, and sure enough, she damn near wigged, but I tore up the number the customer gave me and threw it into the trash.
Hi Massive,
Though I do not advocate claim hopping, You can't blame a girl for trying if she sees someone who shebelieves is unattached and is attracted to. It was really up to you whether or not you followed through. You have to give her 10 points for style! LOL! I find that it is a very thin line one has to walk . Guys tend to be skittish as a lot anyway so any hints of jealousy or possesiveness are ferreted out immediately.I tend to joke about things but I go out of my way to try not to be possesive or jealous considering that as a single female until the ring is on my finger everything is still up for grabs. I have been in the position in the past to be with someone I was dating and have him go out of his way not to talk with me all evening and to collect phone numbers. In retrospect that behavior was a message for me right there.Since that time on the whole when I am forced to recognize inexcusable bad behavior I have tended to slowly put the keys into the ignition and slowly back the car out of the lot so to speak. There is really no point in debating it at all. As I told the individual in question who was collecting numbers on my watch when he said that he knew I wanted to kill him, " Why would I do that? You are not worth going to jail over". End of discussion.
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Though I do not advocate claim hopping, You can't blame a girl for trying if she sees someone who shebelieves is unattached and is attracted to. It was really up to you whether or not you followed through. You have to give her 10 points for style! LOL! I find that it is a very thin line one has to walk . Guys tend to be skittish as a lot anyway so any hints of jealousy or possesiveness are ferreted out immediately.I tend to joke about things but I go out of my way to try not to be possesive or jealous considering that as a single female until the ring is on my finger everything is still up for grabs. I have been in the position in the past to be with someone I was dating and have him go out of his way not to talk with me all evening and to collect phone numbers. In retrospect that behavior was a message for me right there.Since that time on the whole when I am forced to recognize inexcusable bad behavior I have tended to slowly put the keys into the ignition and slowly back the car out of the lot so to speak. There is really no point in debating it at all. As I told the individual in question who was collecting numbers on my watch when he said that he knew I wanted to kill him, " Why would I do that? You are not worth going to jail over". End of discussion.
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LoveGirl: I don't think that REAL relationships have to worry about cheating. If you are in a REAL relationship and you worry about it then you are kinda undermining the foundation of love, which is trust. I trust that every girl that knows my sweetums very well will want him at some point or another and I trust that now that he has me, he won't go clipping their rose petals. I don't need to be territorial because I love him. He might need to be a little territorial with me because it's a lot easier for a girl to be raped by a guy than it is for a guy to be raped by a girl. I don't worry much about unconsenting sex. He will protect me. :wub:
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Lovegirl, I certainly hope no one rapes you or I'll cut their dick off myself! I think we were talking about voluntary "straying" outside of a relationship. For the most part, I agree with you that if the foundation of a realtionship is strong, there shouldn't be a need to worry. Well, there shouldn't be- so why is there? For a lot of men, a come-on from a woman is so intoxicating that they are very nearly unable to control their actions. Not meaning to say all men are ruled by their dicks, don't want to go there, but we all know that some men are. What's surprising is whan it turns out to be YOUR man, and you never saw it coming. Women generally get approached more frequently, so we learn earlier how to set boundaries, but for men, the occasion that a woman actually approaches him- instead of him having to hunt her down- can be exhilarating. I don't know, I'm sure no expert on relationships, unless maybe it's bad ones!! I just think a woman would be wise to be aware of another woman paying a whole lot of personal attention to her man, if she wants him to remain faithful. Perhaps you could even use the excitement he feels over being approached to your own advantage later that night
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Hey there Naughty. Thanks for your insight on my situation with my post. !0 points for style? She was lucky my g/f didn't lay her out right then and there. The truth be told, I did find the girl's approach original, but found her timing stunk. And yeah, my g/f was kind of possessive about me with customers like that. I've since broke up with her over different issues.
Hi Massive,
This is always a sticky wicket! Most of us want to take the high road but often we fail when human interaction gets real. I guess I can see it from both sides.I know what it is like to have a girlfriend or wife glare at me as if I were some home wrecking hussy when I am just answering a question or engaging in an innocent conversation with their significant other. 9 times out of 10 the man has approached me not the other way around.SO often I want to say to them ,"Honey I do not want your old tired worn out man! " I had an example of this behavior yesterday while at a Swing dance for the WWII remembrance. Two men asked me to dance . One was the father and the other the boyfriend of the woman in question. Well, the older gentleman bowed out to the younger. I guess he was having a bit too much fun because in the middle of the song she quite forceably grabbed his arm and pulled him bodily across the floor while glaring at me and hissing, "Come on! We have to go"! ! Heh, I did not ask them to ask me to dance! By the way, I feel I have a right to be catty here and tell you she was plug ugly! Now,I have seen some very aggressive females who really do not care whether the man is otherwise occupied or not but I have seen just as many innocent females who are pounced upon by a wife or girfriend who would rather attack another woman than to confront the very real problems in their relationship with the man. How could I attack another woman when the man I am with is sending signals that he is ready and available? I have gotten sick and tired off putting my light under a bushell because of another woman's insecurities.IF you need therapy go get it.I am not in your therapy group! The reality is that none of us can control others .We may not want to know that the person we have fond or loving feelings for does not cherish those feelings but to turn ones self into Cerberus the three headed dog from hell is to create an environment where things can only escalate.IF you feel so inclined to discuss it with your man do it in private and with respect. Quite often what you are seeing is not what you think. I tell everyone if you want to see what unbridled male lust and female envy can do to hurt an innocent woman watch the movie " Malena" It said so much more than words could ever say.
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This is always a sticky wicket! Most of us want to take the high road but often we fail when human interaction gets real. I guess I can see it from both sides.I know what it is like to have a girlfriend or wife glare at me as if I were some home wrecking hussy when I am just answering a question or engaging in an innocent conversation with their significant other. 9 times out of 10 the man has approached me not the other way around.SO often I want to say to them ,"Honey I do not want your old tired worn out man! " I had an example of this behavior yesterday while at a Swing dance for the WWII remembrance. Two men asked me to dance . One was the father and the other the boyfriend of the woman in question. Well, the older gentleman bowed out to the younger. I guess he was having a bit too much fun because in the middle of the song she quite forceably grabbed his arm and pulled him bodily across the floor while glaring at me and hissing, "Come on! We have to go"! ! Heh, I did not ask them to ask me to dance! By the way, I feel I have a right to be catty here and tell you she was plug ugly! Now,I have seen some very aggressive females who really do not care whether the man is otherwise occupied or not but I have seen just as many innocent females who are pounced upon by a wife or girfriend who would rather attack another woman than to confront the very real problems in their relationship with the man. How could I attack another woman when the man I am with is sending signals that he is ready and available? I have gotten sick and tired off putting my light under a bushell because of another woman's insecurities.IF you need therapy go get it.I am not in your therapy group! The reality is that none of us can control others .We may not want to know that the person we have fond or loving feelings for does not cherish those feelings but to turn ones self into Cerberus the three headed dog from hell is to create an environment where things can only escalate.IF you feel so inclined to discuss it with your man do it in private and with respect. Quite often what you are seeing is not what you think. I tell everyone if you want to see what unbridled male lust and female envy can do to hurt an innocent woman watch the movie " Malena" It said so much more than words could ever say.
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Naughty, I don't know that movie, but I can sure appreciate the sentiments. If some guy is looking at me, I don't like his jealous wife to blame me for it!! I don't dress to impress during daytime hours, but my chest sometimes gets noticed anyway. It's just part of who I am, so fuck it. If I'm out at night, I think jealous insecure women should just stay home. I'm not their property, don't want their idiotic morality shoved in my face. Insecurity is a most annoying of traits.
Preach it sister!
I am so sick of the whiney attitude that "If you come into the room there will be no men left for me!" Please! Though we do like the idea of being belle of the ball the reality is that one good man at a time is all you need.IF he is married or seriously other wise occupied he does not qualify. I have seen women so wild that they would follow their man to the bathroom! What is up with that ? Are you going to hold it for him while he takes care of business? Please do not pull out the tired excuse that you a seriously grown ass woman is acting like a natural born fool because your father was not faithful to your mother? People blame more jacked up behavior on their parents.I am sorry but once you become an adult it is up to you to get help for your issues .Taking them out on other poeple does not count IF you have it that bad, go get some therapy before you hook up with anyone else. Jealously is cruel as the grave and a pain in the ass too! LOL!
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P.S. Can y'all tell that I have had this happen to me more that once and that I am sick to death of it? LOL!
I am so sick of the whiney attitude that "If you come into the room there will be no men left for me!" Please! Though we do like the idea of being belle of the ball the reality is that one good man at a time is all you need.IF he is married or seriously other wise occupied he does not qualify. I have seen women so wild that they would follow their man to the bathroom! What is up with that ? Are you going to hold it for him while he takes care of business? Please do not pull out the tired excuse that you a seriously grown ass woman is acting like a natural born fool because your father was not faithful to your mother? People blame more jacked up behavior on their parents.I am sorry but once you become an adult it is up to you to get help for your issues .Taking them out on other poeple does not count IF you have it that bad, go get some therapy before you hook up with anyone else. Jealously is cruel as the grave and a pain in the ass too! LOL!
Naughty
P.S. Can y'all tell that I have had this happen to me more that once and that I am sick to death of it? LOL!
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