HSB, you know I love ya, guy!
As I have gotten used to saying here lately, lpsg is the world of exceptions, not the real world as a whole. In the real world, much of what you said is true. MOST straight men are exactly as you said, in my opinion. MOST people in general live their lives ruled by fears. In women, we are depressed or neurotic (or both), in men they either get depressed or violent (or both). Oh, and trust me, there are plenty of lesbians who have no use for men at all!
The difference is power. Men hold most positions of power, so while both genders are equally fucked up, men have the advantage in exercising their authority to make decisions based on their fears. I don't know what women would do in those situations were the roles reversed, but I'd be pretty eager to wager we'd have fewer wars.
Society tells men not to bond with each other, so they feel guilty if they ever do. It takes an exceptional person to overcome the boundaries society imposes and become a truly free thinking individual. Many of those men have found their way here for one reason or another. I have stopped questioning why and just become happy to be a part of it. I'm sure there are other places in the world where you can find people with elevated views of life and it's purpose, even though they may be rare. Stick with the rarities, hold out for the good ones. There will be men and women in your life that will have a special impact on you, each in a unique way. Leave yourself open to that always and you'll be a happy man, what more could you ask for?
Yeah, the majority of the straight men I know will never have conversations with their buds over more than drinking, sports, fucking women and bragging in general. Anyone who thinks this is appealing to women doesn't talk to many women! Ugh, gay men are generally so much more appealing to women because they generally have other interests, and generally show more concern for their fellow man. These are generalisations, I know, but I'm talking about percentages. The straight guys who are more compassionate are in HIGH demand amoung women. If they have a chance to get to know you, they'll love you for it. I think all of us here, gay and straight, benefit from the open exchanges we have with each other. I hope we take it with us out into our daily lives and remember that the members of the "other" sexual preference list are our buddies on lpsg and we want to show them love more than judgement.
Okay, now lastly, gay men are MEN! They are guys, they are not women with dicks!
How many MEN out there hound the living shit out of women for sex????? If this sounds like a dumb question, it's because it is. We all know the answer- TONS of them do it. Then it's no big surprise that MEN who are attracted to men would use the same techniques on men. Most gay guys, like most straight guys, have morals and general couth, however the ones who do not can be persistant to the point of being obnoxious. There are SOME GAY MEN who persist long after the point should have been taken that a guy is straight and NOT FUCKING INTERESTED. NOT AT ALL. NO WAY. Trust me, I know what I'm talking about. There have been men who have treated me in this fashion in many ways,putting me in innapropriate situations, grabbing my vagina as I walk past them in a bar, and I HATE it! I've decked a guy more than once for it, but I know it's not the last time in my life it will happen, there are too many obnoxious men out there. If a straight guy is at all attractive and gets out of the house much, he has experienced it too. The difference is he may very well be guilty of the very same behavior with women that gay guys use on him! Everyone needs to see first that your OWN house is in order! You want to be respected, treat others with respect. There is a certain segment of MEN, gay or straight, that think the world revolves around their own dick and really don't give a fuck about the rights or feelings of others. It's not a slam at gays to acknowledge the fact that some gay men are the same in this respect as some straight men.