I'm bi curious to the extent where pictures may arouse me but I never pleasure myself to them. I really will never have any relations with an other man.
I know you have approached men on this forum with the intent to do just that.
There is nothing wrong with that.
If your intended lady love is cool with you not being monogamous then there's nothing wrong with that either.
If your intended lady love has no idea you have a desire to act on these feelings, then that is wrong. Do what you like with your life but don't promise your fidelity to this girl when you're looking to try sex with someone else. Only promise your fidelity when you know you can keep it and right now you do not seem able to do so.
You may be an exception to the rule, but most men with bi or gay leanings need to go out on a few test drives before they commit to a particular model. The more they put it off the more intense the feelings become and then your promise of monogamy goes from being a source of satisfaction to a ball and chain. You end-up resenting the very person you're supposed to be caring for and it makes both your lives miserable.
Don't end-up like that. Go out and sow your oats now. Try a few different things with different people and only then decide that you've made the right choice or not.
You owe it to this woman if you care for her as much as you say. That's the truth and I hope you understand I'm saying this in the hope that it leads both of you to happier lives.
i don't see why that would be important. just because he's bi-curious doesn't mean he will act on those feelings. what you're saying also implies....from my standpoint...that bi-curious/bisexual people are incapable of being in monogamous relationships. i hope i'm reading that wrong.
I refer you to the comments I made above.
Yes, you are reading that wrong. I know very well that bisexuality does not mean a person is incapable of maintaining a monogamous partnership.