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I think it's sweet.

It doesn't sound terribly romantic, but be frugal as possible. Price rings at at least 3 stores. Check out pawn shops and discount stores as well (Costco). You may have trouble spending less than $300 other wise. Even at the Shane Company the cheapest is $300 Round Diamond Three Stone Ring at Shane Co

Please, don't get her something cheesy - go classy because you want her to wear it with pride that you gave it to her and she will keep it forever, possibly passing it on to your son or daughter. Try to get 14k gold (not 10k) if you can.

Walmart does have some good ones. Some look like engagement rings with tiny little stones, others look like high school girl friend/boy friend rings.
Walmart.com: Keepsake Personalized Loving Promise Ring with Diamonds: Rings

JCPenny's looks like they are having a sale JCPenney : Diamond Accent Promise Ring 10K

Have fun and Good Luck
Thank you!
 

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First of all......jason...
I do not believe that "all BIs" should be considered the same, just as all Gays or
straights can be considered the same. Just because one is BI, whether it be a
male or female, does not mean they can't be in a true, loving, and monogamous
relationsnhip.

I was married and never once was unfaithful to her during our marriage, nor did
I even consider it at the time. I have always been a BI, and yes, I might has had
eyes and feeling for another (male or female) during that time, but I would have
never acted upon it because I loved her, was bound by my marriage vows, and
wanted only to be faithful to her.

I am now happily partnered with a man for 20+ years. Even so, I still enjoy oogling
other men and women and, yes, do comment here on this site about them. But, I'm
bound by my love for my partner, our vows to each other, and would never actually
act upon any urges that I might have for another. He is all I need and all I want.

Spolle...
I think "promise rings" are fine. The same thing with other pieces of jewelry such as
an engraved locket with your pic or lock of your hair... or an engraved bracelet. They
all are substitutes for the eventual "engagement ring."
But, my friend, please don't get a "name tat"...in case things change later..:wink:

Even at your age when love is so important, so strong, and promises are so important,
go slow since things can change really fast. Don't rush into things....you have plenty
of time. Just make sure that it is your heart that helps you make your choices. Not your crotch!

When I was your age, we pinned our girl friends with fraternity pins (both high school and at university). It was basicly the same thing as a "promise ring", since we thought
of ourselves as "engaged to be engaged."

Good Luck......love is grand!
 
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You are 19- its romantic, but expect the next 10 years to change you and her considerably.

As to rings...

Look here... the stupidest thing people do concerning jewelry is think of diamonds, rubies and emeralds...
The thing is that top quality gemstones are ridiculously expensive... and the ones you can Afford? They look like hammered shit.

The entire point of a gemstone is what it LOOKS like, not what its worth. ITs supposed to make her LOOK GOOD, not increase her estate value...

There are semi-precious gem stones that ARE affordable.
For example, for the cost of a tiny tenth carat diamond that is cloudy and flawed, you can get a 2 carat Garnet that is PERFECT with the color and clarity of a fine glass of wine... And you can get Garnet in colors ranging from green to yellow...to red and even orange.
Tourmaline also comes in a wide range of colors and is affordable.

remember a Small PERFECT stone is WAY better than a larger, flawed stone... Its EASY to tell good stone from bad, cause the good ones simply LOOK way better.


So, if you are going for a promise ring, and want a stone in it... ask about Garnets, Tourmalines and other more affordable and more interestingly colored stones...

Chances are, you can find a gorgeous stone in her favorite color.
 
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You are 19- its romantic, but expect the next 10 years to change you and her considerably.

As to rings...

Look here... the stupidest thing people do concerning jewelry is think of diamonds, rubies and emeralds...
The thing is that top quality gemstones are ridiculously expensive... and the ones you can Afford? They look like hammered shit.

The entire point of a gemstone is what it LOOKS like, not what its worth. ITs supposed to make her LOOK GOOD, not increase her estate value...

There are semi-precious gem stones that ARE affordable.
For example, for the cost of a tiny tenth carat diamond that is cloudy and flawed, you can get a 2 carat Garnet that is PERFECT with the color and clarity of a fine glass of wine... And you can get Garnet in colors ranging from green to yellow...to red and even orange.
Tourmaline also comes in a wide range of colors and is affordable.

remember a Small PERFECT stone is WAY better than a larger, flawed stone... Its EASY to tell good stone from bad, cause the good ones simply LOOK way better.


So, if you are going for a promise ring, and want a stone in it... ask about Garnets, Tourmalines and other more affordable and more interestingly colored stones...

Chances are, you can find a gorgeous stone in her favorite color.
Thanks for the info!
 

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Others to consider are: citrine, aquamarine, topaz, amethyst, morganite, tsavorite, coral, moonstone, amber, and my favorite for fair women, peridot.

Many women love Victorian jewelry and you can get it fairly cheap from antique or estate jewelry places. There's something very charming and personal about a vintage piece of jewelry.
 
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I don't really like the idea of promise rings... to me, it kind of seems like the thing you do in jr high or high school when you really want to give them an engagement ring but you can't because you know your parents (and hers) would flip. If a guy gave me a promise ring I'd kinda think, "Well why didn't you just give me an engagement ring??".

But... it's up to you. If you think your gf would like the sort of thing then go ahead I guess.
 

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I don't really like the idea of promise rings... to me, it kind of seems like the thing you do in jr high or high school when you really want to give them an engagement ring but you can't because you know your parents (and hers) would flip. If a guy gave me a promise ring I'd kinda think, "Well why didn't you just give me an engagement ring??".

But... it's up to you. If you think your gf would like the sort of thing then go ahead I guess.

Problem is nice engagement rings are terribly expensive. A one carat in platinum setting can be eye-popping. Those little robin's egg blue boxes from Tiffany don't grow on trees you know.

There is precedence for this sort of thing. In not too distant days, men use to, "pin," their best girls and it meant they were exclusive and hoped to be engaged. It's actually fairly pragmatic because it says that while you might not be ready for an actual engagement, that you have every intention of being so when it's more practical. With what happens to so many marriages these days, I think it wise to move cautiously. Promise rings can give a young couple a taste of serious responsibility and allow them to test out the feeling of being engaged.
 
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I don't really like the idea of promise rings... to me, it kind of seems like the thing you do in jr high or high school when you really want to give them an engagement ring but you can't because you know your parents (and hers) would flip. If a guy gave me a promise ring I'd kinda think, "Well why didn't you just give me an engagement ring??".

But... it's up to you. If you think your gf would like the sort of thing then go ahead I guess.
Well besides the fact of our parents going insane, when I do propose to her I want to get her a ring as special as she is, and unfortunately I do not have anything close to the amount of money for that yet. And like Jason said, I do intend upon getting the engagement ring at Tiffanys.