If you are too nervous to meet, then maybe anonymous online hook-ups aren't your thing? I mean that in a constructive way. There are a lot of people who are very curious about it, but use it as a form of porn rather than ever having the intent of meeting someone. They are called Time Wasters. People who do that make an account, chat someone up, look at a few pics of someone's cock (maybe a face pic as well), but then when it comes down to the question of, "When do you want to meet?" the conversation ends, they log off, and sometimes outright delete their account.
The thrill comes from the chat, and almost realizing the potential to meet someone for sex. Like edging when you jerk off, the greater enjoyment is the play rather than the finish. Except in this scenario, there is someone on the other end who is genuinely interested in meeting, and not participating in someone's game.
On the other hand..
If you are nervous and really do want to meet, then take your time and chat to someone to feel comfortable with them. They might even be open to meeting first to have a simple greeting, like coffee, or a drink. That takes the pressure off of having sex being the first thing you do. It also let's you get a better feel of the person, to see if you even like them, let alone get intimate with them.
There is also Plenty of Fish, which is more dating oriented. You get to make a more robust profile, and meet people who are into a more traditional meeting or relationship.
But, if you really want to meet on Grinder, then make sure the other person knows you are new and nervous and want to take a little more time, with some added patience needed. Just because someone says Hello to you doesn't mean you have to meet up with them in 10 minutes and jump straight into anal sex. Be honest, communicate, and most importantly..don't play games with other people.
The thrill comes from the chat, and almost realizing the potential to meet someone for sex. Like edging when you jerk off, the greater enjoyment is the play rather than the finish. Except in this scenario, there is someone on the other end who is genuinely interested in meeting, and not participating in someone's game.
On the other hand..
If you are nervous and really do want to meet, then take your time and chat to someone to feel comfortable with them. They might even be open to meeting first to have a simple greeting, like coffee, or a drink. That takes the pressure off of having sex being the first thing you do. It also let's you get a better feel of the person, to see if you even like them, let alone get intimate with them.
There is also Plenty of Fish, which is more dating oriented. You get to make a more robust profile, and meet people who are into a more traditional meeting or relationship.
But, if you really want to meet on Grinder, then make sure the other person knows you are new and nervous and want to take a little more time, with some added patience needed. Just because someone says Hello to you doesn't mean you have to meet up with them in 10 minutes and jump straight into anal sex. Be honest, communicate, and most importantly..don't play games with other people.
cellguy850us
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Oh, another etiquette point: don't kill them or try to steal their kidneys
If you're nervous, there's lots of ways to take the pressure out of it. Meet in a public place, that way there's no expectations of sex. Make it clear it's for nothing more than a meet-and-greet, hence the public place.
I'd even suggest scheduling something else afterwards -- even just coffee with a friend -- so that you can truthfully say that you've got to leave. Actually, when scheduling, if you say "I'd like to meet up with you but I've only got a small window of time before meeting up with my friend..." it makes you sound like you're serious about making a connection, but also serious about needing to bail. And if you happen to hit it off *really* well, make sure you've told your friend what's happening, and that you might call and bail on him -- a good "wingman" should have no problem doing this for you.
You can muddle through even the most awful "dates" for 30 or 60 minutes! If that's all you've invested in it, the consequences of it not being everything you wanted are pretty low.
Good luck!
I'd even suggest scheduling something else afterwards -- even just coffee with a friend -- so that you can truthfully say that you've got to leave. Actually, when scheduling, if you say "I'd like to meet up with you but I've only got a small window of time before meeting up with my friend..." it makes you sound like you're serious about making a connection, but also serious about needing to bail. And if you happen to hit it off *really* well, make sure you've told your friend what's happening, and that you might call and bail on him -- a good "wingman" should have no problem doing this for you.
You can muddle through even the most awful "dates" for 30 or 60 minutes! If that's all you've invested in it, the consequences of it not being everything you wanted are pretty low.
Good luck!
Yes, don't play games. If you are too nervous to meet, just tell people you are on there to chat. Don't be one of those people who chats, then disappears. Do you want casual sex? Decide what you want before going on. Many people want to meet first in a public place, so if that is what you want, do that. But don't act like you are going to meet someone if you are not sure you can follow through.
If you message someone, be prepared to chat. Don't wait 10 minutes before responding to each of his messages. I am also not a big fan of what people stay logged in 24/7, even when they are away.
Have a thorough profile and be clear in what you want. Be courteous to people.
If you meet, follow through. Shower first.
If you message someone, be prepared to chat. Don't wait 10 minutes before responding to each of his messages. I am also not a big fan of what people stay logged in 24/7, even when they are away.
Have a thorough profile and be clear in what you want. Be courteous to people.
If you meet, follow through. Shower first.
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