propositioned by roomate

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    Last summer a shared a home with four guys. One is tall and lanky and claims to be very well endowed. He does have the body type. Well he and another roomate asked me if I think that a third room mate was gay because he is very attached to the 4th room mate(they're army buddies). I said no I didn't think so. Then low and behold the tall one approached me one night in the kitchen when we were alone and asked me out of the clear blue if i "wanted to fool around, Kind of like a gay thing." I was stunned and wasn't sure if he was joking or serious. Then he said, "Ahhh, you want it, you hesitated too long."
    I said, "No I don't", enjoying the rush it gave me( never experienced that since 18yo). I wanted to so bad but felt very vulnerable. Then it got to where we would talk about sex and masturbation a lot. But he is always pointing his gaydar at people. I want to take him up on the offer but scared it would backfire on me. Any suggestions?
     
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    Just do it!
     
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    I have a feeling that this might end badly for you if you decide to take up his "fooling around" offers. People like him are the kinds of guys that have a one night thing with another guy and then, in the morning when they're perhaps more sober, blame you for "turning them".
    It seems to me that the guy is a pretty big closet case. I've always noticed that the ones that are most keen to point out who's gay and who's a "fag" are usually stubbornly suppressed homosexual or bisexuals, themselves.
    I suggest you be careful. Since you DO all live together, if he becomes spiteful towards you after your "fooling around" experience, the house could become a very nasty place to be.
     
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    Yea I feel the same way. Neither of us live in that house anymore but visit quite often. Just the other night I was visiting and had a tee shirt on with an American flagg on the front. He said he wanted to where it tomorrow for the USA soccer game at the liquor store he works at. I told him he would have to wash it because I sweated profusely in it. He said, "Thats hot". Then one night, he asked me if I've been getting my freak on. I said hell yea. He said me too, so much that nothing comes out sometimes.
     
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    He could be yanking your chain just to find out if you're gay. He might have been asked the same question by your flatmates about you and they are doing a bit of digging designed to "flush out the gay boy."

    Then again, he may just be horny. Don't "shit in the nest" so to speak. You have to live with these guys. If you spend enough time with them, you will get to know them and then things may be safer but until you know what the score is... don't do anything.
     
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    I totally agree. You don't live together anymore so if it goes wrong it's no worse than a date that goes wrong so what's to lose?
     
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    You lucky bitch. Just talk to him and find out where he is on the matter.
     
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    I really think he wants to fool around but is afraid to. I don't he would try to sniff out the gay guy that way. If he was, it backfired on him. What do I have to lose? I'm good friends with the two army buddies. Don't want to lose that.
     
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    Ok, didn't know you were in the closet. We all have choices to make. I couldn't live my life not letting my "friends" know who I really am. Just sayin'.

    Good luck whatever you decide and keep us posted on what happens.
     
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    Now the guy wants me to do a MFM with a chick who is overweight that I'm not attracted to. He does her regularly but can't stand her and is verbally abusive to her.
    I told him I would with a hotter chick but not her. A guy that wants to set up MFM with another guy wants to do the guy. There is no other reason in my book. I can't wait till he just wants to explore his world and be JO buddies for a night. Maybe I should have said that I'd jack off with him before I'd tag team with with her.
     
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    What do you have to lose? Your relationship with your army buddies shouldn't be effected, and if it is, then they weren't your true friends anyway. Do what you want. The next time he says something, and you're alone- tell him that you feel like jerking off at that very moment. Tell him you've been trying not to for a while and you just need to get off. If he looks eager, ask him if he has a porno.
     
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    Just get on with it and have a good guilt free shag
     
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    If I was in your situation and he was giving me all these subtle and not-so-subtle hints, I'd turn it back on him. If he's so interested in playing, I'd find out what he is trying to do and have him do it to you first. If he does it, you got a winner. If he's not willing to and wants you to first, then you can either back out on grounds he's full of shit or take the risk, just do it, and live with any consequences that come out of it. Take control of the situation, if you have the will to do it.
     
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    If you have this many doubts then don't do it. They'll be other opportunities if you wanna try it with guys again but this sounds too complicated, especially if the guy is a gossip. Don't bother with it.
     
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    extremely well said! I completely agree.
     
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    Oh hell yea its gonna be his idea.
    but i just need to be crafty enough to let him know and not give him any leverage over me.
     
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    Wise words. I agree, it sounds complicated - too complicated.
     
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    I'd say to him "I've always considered myself straight but I guess a BJ is a BJ not matter who's down there. I'll close my eyes and pretend you're someone else". Start unbuckling your belt and watch his reaction. If he's ok with it let him suck you off. You don't have to reciprocate!
     
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    now there's an approach!!
     
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