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The suggestion that you can take testosterone replacement therapy isn’t exactly great advice. If there is the slightest chance there are any cancer cells left – from possible extrusions from your prostate that came in contact with other tissues (including nerve tissue), beginning testosterone replacement therapy can act like throwing gasoline on smoldering ashes. The cancer can flair up (it’s a slight risk, but a real one) and now that you haven’t a prostate it will be even more difficult to detect. You’re over the worst part. Your body’s autoimmune system should now be tough enough to fight off any small cancer cells, if there are any. After two years of being cancer-free, then you might want to talk with your urologist about hormone replacement therapy. Even then, you have better options available to boost your libido (which is at least 90% imagination and probably 5% or less hormonal).
If your urologist/surgeon has not offered you a prescription for the famous “little blue pills” or similar medication then you should broach the subject and insist for one until he relents. Unless your urologist is gay, no doubt he or she will be very uncomfortable about discussing anal sex. Actually, (personal experience mixed with opinion here) most urologists in countries where English is the primary language tend to treat any discussion about sex – gay or straight – as something they would prefer to avoid. As for Australia, I cannot comment, but I’ve found this to be generally true (note, not always) in the USA, Canada, and the UK. Therefore, if you live in or are near a major metropolitan area, ask around and try to find a gay urologist. They do exist. Once you do, insist your regular urologist give you a written referral to meet the gay one. You might also want to find yourself a gay proctologist while you’re at it. They exist, too. My cousin is one and he practices in the Intermountain West in one of the most sexually repressive states in the USA. Of course, just because you have lined up a bunch of gay medical professional who are more in-tune with your sexual needs doesn’t guarantee you’ll receive 100% perfect advice. It does, however, increase your chances for feeling better about yourself and becoming sexually active again.
Finally, you didn’t mention the complete circumstances of your medical treatment. Have you also had external or internal radiation treatment, any problem voiding, have you achieved an orgasm yet, was there any ejaculate, etc.? It’s all important. What I hope I’ve done here is just paint broad, positive strokes about the subject. No doubt you’re depressed. You should be. Just realize that it will eventually pass. I also hope I’ve caught the attention of as many men as possible – gay or straight – about the need to keep on top (no pun intended) of this very serious, very real men’s medical issue.
If you want to chat more, send me a note and we can hook up via e-mail.
I wish you nothing but the best, shooting long-range karmic bullets your way,
Mr. Midlifebear (getting it up for a proper rodgering almost six months now ;-)