Ok, to start, I am going to tell you what im sure that you have read for years....but RELAX!!! Seriously, relax! If you have to take a warm shower, or use a back massager, RELAX however you need to. Get all of the hardships of the week, or day out of your mind and focus on your porn of liking (whatever it may be). Mine personally is the "ride em cowgurl" trans porn series. I can imagine it from both sides. Super stupid that im even saying this, but use PLENTY of lube, and find a toy that you really like. Ive used everything from small anal beads to belladonnas hand, and dick rambone. However, what made me have my first p orgasm was an 8" lifelike Luke Garrett dildo. You have to find the most comfortable position for YOU and what feels the best for YOU. Nevermind what you read, and what works for THEM, focus on you. What works best for me, is my right leg up on the bed or similar height while standing and using my toys with my right hand from behind (All of this works best when you havnt eaten for the day or use a suppository, at least for me.). Make sure that with your in and out strokes, you feel it hitting your p spot. It may feel like you are going to piss, and you should feel your pristate swell. DON'T STOP!!! In fact, at that point, i find it best to relax my pelvic muscles and in general as much as possible, until you feel the urge to moan like a bitch. Once you reach that point, start pressing your prostate hard (with your muscles) almost as if you are trying to shit. I promise you wont, but it WILL cause your p to enlarge more. Again, you are going to feel like youre going to piss, but keep going! Now, youre at the point of almost passing out from pure bliss, pull your toy out while still pressing like you have to poop. You may have straight semen come out, or it may be like me, and have tons and TONS of prostatic fluid squirt all over the place! I always have a large bowl under me because i know how much i "cum". Hope that helped at least one of you.