Psychological erectile dysfunction

[D_Dwayne_Pipe]

Do you think there is such a thing as psychological ED? I seem to be having a problem with ED, and think it is because my partner has very low libido. Somehow, not feeling desired is working against my ability to maintain a firm erection. I have erections during the night, and almost always wake with morning wood.

Thanks

 

[monel]

There is absolutely psychological ED and if you still get hard at night or when you masturbate, then that's what you have. Usually time and a resolution of the issue will cure it.

 

[FuzzyKen]

E.D. with a psychological cause does exist. It is less common than physical E.D., but it does happen and it is a fact. The problem is that there is a great deal of mis-diagnoses still going on where physiological is attributed to psychogenic and the patient is further injured by the incompetent M.D..

 

[B_625girth]

I have had both. if you still have nocturnal erections, morning wood, the problem is in your head. I am married, late 50's, wife not interested in sex, sees it as her "duty". and she is not attractive anymore. I thought I had a physical problem and I did, as I was not getting nocturnal or morning wood. got my high BP under control and guess what??? morning wood returned, not every morning, but more often than not. we don't have sex often and when we do I got to pop Cialis. last summer, I found myself in a affectionate embrace with an attractive woman and "wood" appeared. nothing happened between us, other than me getting aroused, but I learned something.

 

[RawDog]

E.D. with a psychological cause does exist. It is less common than physical E.D., but it does happen and it is a fact. The problem is that there is a great deal of mis-diagnoses still going on where physiological is attributed to psychogenic and the patient is further injured by the incompetent M.D..

I really doubt it's less common. I think a lot of relationships fizzle quickly once that first domino gets hit and never has a chance of being mis-diagnosed to begin with. The guy just finds a new interest and everything's good until that domino gets hit again.

For what it's worth, I wrote something similar last year:

http://www.lpsg.org/206923-ed-help-me-get-my.html

 

[hitro]

My situation is the exact opposite.

Most mornings when I wake up, my dick is flaccid. When I do have a morning wood, it's mostly a semi, a full hardon will happen maybe once a month.

I find an erection hard to maintain when I'm masturbating, however, when I'm having sex, my boner's raging.

I have to mention I'm under a lot of stress, due to some family problems and exams.

Thoughts?

 

[D_Coupeland Clydesdale]

I'm actually sort of stunned that someone would ask whether or not psychological ED exists (since I've had it my entire life), but then I have to remember that everyone's different...obviously. Yes, speaking only from my own experience, it exists. The new ED drugs help a lot. I wish they were around when I was young.

 

[D_Dwayne_Pipe]

I really appreciated all of the responses to my post. I will further state that this really all began during the early stages of the wife's menopause. She did not participate in sex even though I was able to do PIV. After several months of having an unresponsive wife, the feeling of inadequacy set in. Why could I no longer satisfy my wife sexually, and why was she no longer interested in having sex with me? To make matters worse, she finally confessed she really didn't like to touch my penis at all. Let me think--isn't the penis the pleasure center of sexuality for us guys. On the positive side, after long difficult talks, my wife now really understands my need for her involvement. We are now having sex about four times per month with much better involvement on her part. Thank goodness there is Viagra.

Sex is not perfect, but certainly better than before. I wonder if a woman's lack of libido could be likened to ED in men. In a woman's own way, she just can't have sex, and neither can a man if ED is part of the picture. Agree/disagree? Just trying to understand the intricacies of how women are wired during menopause.

The silver lining in all this is that we've been married over thirty years and have a strong loving relationship and wonderful family. Life could only be better if I didn't have what I call psychological ED, and to be able to get over the feelings which caused it in the first place.

Thanks again for the great posts to my thread.

 

[FuzzyKen]

Dear Larr,
If there is nothing medically wrong with your wife and she is willing to have rational discussions on this subject, there may be more going on with her than just the normal problems of menopause. There are MD's who do specialize in this kind of problem and menopause can cause more in hormonal imbalances than just a change in estrogen. If other things go off too, the desire for sex completely falters. I would suggest several things. The first is talking to the MD, and the second is replacing the MD if the attitude falls into the "live with it" category. Sexual relations in a relationship are not a foundation, but as we age they tend to be a confirmation of the love of the relationship and a renewal. The worst situation is when the wife gets so "turned off" that she starts making really bad remarks. This an be a chemical problem and in and of itself it is not always related to the menopause itself. Some women have an increase in sex drive at this time.